My friend is in a situation where he has no where to live. He has moved into my house and has been here for about a month now. I asked him a week ago if he could start paying $100 a week and he said " I would just get my own place for that" . I was in shock and then he added to the statement that he only had $1000 in the bank. I really had to bite my tongue. And then I asked him what his plans were. He said he was applying to jobs because he wants to move to another state because the jobs pay better. He is hardly ever here and he does not eat my food (I no longer buy food for the house, I go out to eat). What should I do ?
I really would like to strangle him because I have recently found out that he goes to his different friends houses to eat dinner that they cook for him and other friends of his also treat him out to eat. It is like he never has to pay for anything.
Then he hangs out all the time, recently went clothes shopping, and goes to the casino all the time.
2006-10-27 01:09:33 · 19 answers · asked by tramany77 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
he has a masters degree and a part time job
2006-10-27 01:20:14 · update #1
I chose $100 a week because my house is expensive to live in, electricity is at least $300/month, insurance, taxes, gardner, maid, cable, etc.
2006-10-27 01:30:17 · update #2
What if I just printed this up and gave it to him?
2006-10-27 01:41:35 · update #3
Responsiblilty. He says he can get his own place with 100 dollars and has 1000 dollars in the bank. He is playing you and his friends. There are people who would save their money and would eat and sponge off of other people. ( I forgot what they are called)Being that he has 1000 dollars in the bank, more than enough to move. I would give him a month to find a place and KEEP to that date do not let him sway you. Tell him he MUST be OUT on that date. And sorry to tell you this if he continues to go clothes shopping and to casinoes he will soon be out of money. You must tell him so (but he may use the situation of not having money to stay at your home, KNOWING you will NOT kick him out if he is pennyless). Let him know NOW while that money is in the bank that if he has nothing in the bank and no where to go when his time is up.... he still has to be out by that date. From what he is doing it does not sound like he is looking for a job anywhere.
2006-10-27 01:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by vhat40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just in that situation. I have a friend that uses everyone. I mean he dropped out of school THREE months before he was to graduate. Then he started living off of me and my fiancee. Which is he best friend. i didn't mind him staying there but when I was paying ALL the bills and ALL the food and everything extra (my fiancee didn't have a job at the time) it was making me mad. so i left for a month and they had to get a place by them self. will his got murdered and had some money in the bank and used some of that to pay for the new place. well when all that money was gone we were paying for everything again. everytime i would get food i got some for him. no thank you no nothing either. he would do dishes that he made, i washed his clothes, and cleaned up the messes he made.so i finally told him that if he didn't have this monthes rent which was only $125 (THAT'S ALL!!! A MONTH) i was klicking him out. he started moving his stuff out slowly not tellign us he was moving out. so i asked him one day if he was and he said yes. somewhere where he doesn't have to pay anything. you can't help these "friends". they will always smoch off of people and make you look bad because you "don't " help them. you need to kick him out or he will never leave. and you shouldn't have to stop buying food in YOUR house because of him. YOU pay the bills not him. and your wasting mony going out to eat. TRUST ME. it will be so much better if you kick him out. GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-10-27 08:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by *~*Ash*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your friend is just using you and other people. i think you should kick him out. he needs to grow up and get some responsibility. it also doesn't sound like hes a real friend. cause you gave him a place to live and if one of my friends did that i would be trying to pay them even if they didn't want to. i don't think you should make him pay a 100 dollars a week Ive found some apartments that make you pay 200 a month. but on the other hand he is using you and other people so maybe he deserves to have to pay a lot of money.
2006-10-27 08:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by legion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You my dear are being taking for a ride,your friend doesn,t even respect himself,How could he possible respect he,s friends!He is using you and all he,s other friends and when he can,t suck off of any of use anymore,He will up and move and do the same in a new STate,{WERE NOBODY KNOWS HE
2006-10-27 08:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by hollywood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out! It sounds like he is just taking advantage of his situation. He is just being really lazy and not doing anything and yes $100 a week is good for staying there. Everyone has to help out once they live together. It is part of being an adult. He needs to grow up and who knows maybe he needs to struggle alittle bit to become one.
2006-10-27 08:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by homie_j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would kick him out. It would be one thing if he spent all day looking for work and took a local job until he moved. Even then he should contribute though and he shouldn't have been rude to you. He should NEVER have EXPECTED handouts. Free housing and meals are a lot to ask of your friends especially for such a long time.
2006-10-27 08:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by when's my next vacation??? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend who also likes to 'bum' off of others too even though he has money and his family is 'loaded' as he brags but he still doesnt pay for anything. so i know what it feels like and myself still have problems now and then with him..
best thing for you to do would be to have to put your foot down... you have to be cruel to be kind.. tel him he'll have to start helping with the rent if he wants to stay there or he will have to find somewhere else to live.
just tel him straight what you dont like coz it will be the only way you might get him to listen
2006-10-27 08:16:55 · answer #7 · answered by Crazy_German 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you spell deadbeat......................... kick him out before he starts stealing from you which is usally the next step when they run out of money.....if he had overhead to worry about ...he would have a job. and you need to quietly let his circle of friends know about the sponging so they can slowly slide off the gravy train or exit enmasse which would be no less than this bum deserves
2006-10-27 08:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by sadiekay1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a leech he would live in your ear and rent the other ear out get rid of the freeloader before he bleeds you dry
2006-10-27 08:26:51 · answer #9 · answered by lisac67mc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him the ultimatum.....pay the $100 a week, or get your own place now. That is not an unreasonable request. and if he thinks he can do it on his own for that...tell him I said Good Luck
2006-10-27 08:12:24 · answer #10 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋