My BF says that i have to relax because I'm too much into him!! Since he flew back to his country 2 months ago, i cant make myseld recover from being not with him. I have send him sms like 5 times a day say my good morning and my good nights! asked himd how his day was. but it seems like he i have not lit his fire anymore and he just taken me forgranted...i told him that i do understand that he's busy sometimes and he loves to go out with his friends, but when it comes to me and i asked him to sit down and chat with just to make me feel missed and needed i just feel like im making things too hard for him. he's just too lazy all the time when it comes to my time esp. we're in a LDR. i guess im just letting time dissolve the love that we built together and make him feel how it is to have a life without me disturbing him somehow.
2006-10-27 00:58:56 · 7 answers · asked by edge 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
this is a tough situation, while I wouldnt recommend playing mind games - I do think that often men want what they cant / dont have so I reckon is you just play it cool (cool as ice baby :) and just don't sms him and act as if you're not bothered if you see him or not (I know this is a fine line between playing games or not but it is a good way to see how keen he is). He might like this cool treatment for a few days (cos he tells you this is what he wants ) but after a few days he'll be the one making the effort! If he DOESNT well then I reckon move on. relationships NEED to be both ways - two sided, both putting in equal effort. if he doesnt want to do this then you deserve someone who will / can. all the best sweetheart!
2006-10-27 01:07:59 · answer #1 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been in that same situation..
I texted /sent him SMS a lot the first few days, but after receiving only cool, polite and distant replies, I gave up. I didn't initiate communication for maybe 3-5 days and guess what? He seemed very eager to hear from me and called me up a few times wondering what I'm up to.
Maybe, avoidance is really the best answer.
2006-10-27 02:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by hello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him: if i'm inportent 4 u and u love me spend sometimes with me ! or u can read MONEY TALKS 4 him! it's a story about a boy who loved a girl but the girl was busy and at the end when they wanted to go somewhere their car staied in a heavy trafic and boy could say his feeling to his love....at the end we understand that the boy's father who is very rich gave some money to drivers in street for making that trafic so that boy could buy girl's time !
2006-10-27 01:08:56 · answer #3 · answered by sadako302 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear this normal happen, if you want to be realx also for you, you have to ignor him also, and you have to know something I think he have another GF there and she was give him more what you give him, and also if she is not live with him but she is stay in has heart, you have to know first about that..
and then we will see what will happen when you leave him .. you have to think about your life and then I am sure when he wekup he will see your SMS ;-)
take care & keep your smile on your face
2006-10-27 01:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by love_world_3000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long was he gone?
Sounds like time apart doused his desire instead of making his heart grow fonder.
If he was gone for a while and is not looking to spend time with you, my guess it is over
2006-10-27 01:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by idtshadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it, he seems to be settling back into his life and yu remind him constantly that you are so far away.......in time he will find someone where he lives and the 2 of you will fade into memory.......hanging on only prolongs the agony
2006-10-27 01:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by sadiekay1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hii
so he takes u 4 granted..... as well not much bothered....... even u dont have 2 bother bout him......... ignore him if he cums back thn he loves u......... if does'nt gve a damn then he does'nt deserve ur love ur sweet msgs.... i know its difficult to ignore but u have to be strong n do it............ to c if he loves u so do it n trust in ur love n god take care bye.
2006-10-27 01:10:41 · answer #7 · answered by arshi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋