my 8 year old wants to wear clothes that r too tight to school. this morning i gav her jeans and sweater that fit. she cried when i told her , get dressed now. i repeated those 3 words over and over loader and loader till she cried and responded. bfore i got load i explained why. i now hav custody bcause her mom didnt giv her proper care , such as bathing , clean clothes , diet, attention and structure. i tell her i love her and hug her. please help
2006-10-27 00:30:36 · 12 answers · asked by big win 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Dont give in to her. Tell her that you are the parent and that she is going to do what you say. The clothes that you dont think are right for her to wear, either pitch them out or give them away.
2006-10-27 00:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by shirley e 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
It is traumatic for a girl not to have her Mom. It will take time and patience, you can do it b/c you love her. There may be more going on then just the clothes. Also, her picking out her own clothes may be her trying to gain some control over her life. It seems that you will need to get some compromise to reach a middle ground. You can ask her why she didn't like the clothes and you can explain to her that why you don't like hers. Perhaps, you can go shopping and mutually buy something that meets both needs or agree to go through the closet and find something that is agreeable. If she didn't have structure and now has it all at once, it may be overwhelming. Don't leave the clothes battle until the morning - it will make a bad day for her and you. It is tough sending someone off to school to learn when they just had a battle at home. Have clothes issue resolved night before so your morning will go easier, and everyone can start the day off on a happy note. Ease in , gain her trust , firm but gentle, listen, talk, replace negative with positive etc. - good luck, lots of family time and love
2006-10-27 01:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by sml 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her choose. Having had a tomboy daughter and her having her preference in boy's clothing, I know there are a lot of things she wouldn't wear. Yours might not be the same, but anything even the slightest hint that it would be tight, she would refuse, as she your refuse anything pink or bright purple or anythig with a flower print and dresses. Contrary to Sandra's case, mine isn't a lesbian. I'm just saying this in case you get some sort of fear or whatever. Her dressing in boy clothes could be because, firstly, it's more comfortable, and secondly, she might have the idea that girls are weaker than boys, which is not true. She she wants to feel strong and be comfortable and that's that. Anyway, in my experience, I don't think your daughter will want to wear any of the clothes Favorite_Aunt suggested, except perhaps some of the last link (and let her do so with her basketball shorts). Also, like someone else already said, don't make her feel bad that they call her a boy because she dresses a certain way, just say it's no big deal what other people think.
2016-05-22 00:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's 8 years old. She probably wants some say in what she wears. She should have some say, but you should be able to veto if something is inappropriate. The two of you need to talk about what is OK to wear to school and what is not. Sit down and do this at a time that you're not hurrying to get her out the door. Talk together at night before bed and lay out her clothes for the next day ahead of time together. You can start out working together to pick her outfits, but hopefully soon you'll have her understanding what is OK to wear so she can do it on her own. If there are things in her dresser that are too small/too tight, get them out of there so they aren't even a possibility.
2006-10-27 00:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I do assume by 'load' you mean 'loud'.
But an 8 year old is still young. You need to treat her this age, not 16! It's okay if you tell her you love her and it's true. Treat her.... When she's done something you want her to and it was really off her agenda treat her. An ice-cream or pizza, etc.etc.
Try going shopping with her yourself (a man's worst crime I know!). If you shop with her she can choose the clothes with your opinion on them.
Just remember she is 8 and cannot have her way all the time. She only has 10 years left standing by your supportive side.
2006-10-27 01:48:14 · answer #5 · answered by x_Super_Social_Superstar_x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried asking her why she wants to wear tight clothing? I say a shopping trip is in order. Give her so much money to spend then take her shopping for clothing she likes, but you agree with. That way she will have cloths she wants to wear and you have one on one time with her to show her you love her! This is just my opinion! Good Luck!!!
2006-10-27 02:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by Bekka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not yelling at her, she is probably just going through a phase, it comes with the new territory. She is getting used to living with you, and is being a bit rebelious. Just explain to her about that by her wearing tight clothes, doesn't look good, it may cut your blood circulation off, and stuff like that. And than explain to her that when she wears nice clothes like the ones you give her it makes her look beautiful like a fairy princess or like a queen. Just try not to yell at her, after all she is gods greatest gift to you, she will come around after a while, she will love hearing daddy say that she looks like a fairy princess. This is just my advice, from one parent to another.
2006-10-27 00:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by danielle m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could solve that problem by removing all the clothes that don't fit(too tight)from her closet and leaving her with appropriate clothes. She needs to understand that you are in charge and while choosing what she wears is good, it must be appropriate for school. Hang in there!
2006-10-27 00:44:56 · answer #8 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of clothes that dont fit. She wont have any other option.
2006-10-27 01:48:24 · answer #9 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls have to fit in at school my daughters wear what their friends wear . They are very selfconcious at this age
2006-10-27 05:42:47 · answer #10 · answered by blank 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋