Don't get me wrong I like that he has friends, but this friend will call all times of early morning or late at night just to talk. If my husband doesn't pick up the cell phone he will call the home phone and back to the cell phone. His best friend's girlfriend will call when they're in an argument and then his best friend will call. What did it for me is when I came home from work he was on the phone with his friend surfing the net trying to help him find a job. I told him I didn't like it. I don't mind if he comes over to use the computer or even just asks him if he has time to look up a couple of jobs, but just sitting on the phone? Tell me is it just me or should I not have a problem with this?
2006-10-26 23:40:47 · 14 answers · asked by freeme529 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is that ok for men to do?
2006-10-26 23:46:01 · update #1
I am very nice always to the friend. Another reason why I have a problem with this is because I have three boys in the house and they don't get that kind of attention.
2006-10-27 00:00:34 · update #2
Maybe your hubby is a nice person. He is a do gooder. Your husband cannot help but help his friend. All the same you need to watch them closely with this advent of people declaring that they are gay after having lived with a woman(wife) for 10-15 years. Its scary.
However you need to verify if you are jealous of the relationship or that there's something going on with them that you don't like.
2006-10-27 00:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by nina-tess g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound a bit jealous. Why don't you talk to your husband and work out some ground rules about the calling all hours thing. But if your husband has a male friend, this is a good thing. You can also be supportive by being more friendly to the friend. Just talk to hubby about what your needs are and work something out. If you continue to be hostile to this friend, he may agree to whatever demands you give him, however, he will file it away with any other concerns he may have about this relationship. Those concerns may build up after a while.
2006-10-26 23:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like this best friend of his is very needy. My husband doesn't hang out with anyone other then me and our families, and in reading situations like this, it makes me very grateful that he doesn't. I would talk to your husband about it and suggest that this friend of his be a little more polite to your time and space. Calling early in the morning or late at night is rude, and continuously calling until your husband takes his call is more rude. Your husband needs to set up guidelines with him so that this guy starts respecting you both. Right now he has total top priority - that's not how it should be. Good luck!
2006-10-27 01:58:13 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should talk with your husband and ask him if you guys could set up some call boundries with your friends, yours and his that way it is a comprimise, you could set up a time for the earliest call and the latest call and maybe set aside one day a week and ask nobody to call at all so the two of u can spend time together. tell them only to call outside the call times in a real emergency.
by putting your friends in the mix too your husband won't feel cornored into picking his wife or his best buddy. don't try to tell him to blow him off completely and don't tell him you don't like his friends no matter how solid your reasoning is. it puts your husband in a very difficult situation.
2006-10-26 23:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by insane illusions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural for you to feel that way. It seems like your husbands best friend is depending on your husband to help him solve his problems. It would not look good if you will be the one to talk to the friend. it would be best if you talk to your husband about. Tell him how you exactly feel. ( Hon, we could help your friend more if we allow him some independence to do things on his own." ) Tell your husband that, you don't mind him helping his friend but it should really help him out. His friend would become a parasite if he goes to the rescue every time he has problems and it would be difficult for him to handle things later on in married life, if he does not start standing on his own now.
But don't allow this thing to irritate you.
2006-10-26 23:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell your husband that you don't like his friend calling all the time and coming over all the time.
his friend needs to give you two some space.
and that don't work just turn the ringers off on both of the phones.
if your husband loves like he say he does he will make his friend sstop bothering you and him so much.
2006-10-26 23:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Rockstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend like that. There is always drama and he tries to drag me into it...just like hubbies best friend is doing to him. I eventually had t cut him off...and even after 5 years of not talking to him...he still tries to contact me. The worst of it is that if you make it known and try to stop it, your hubby is going to be more driven to his friend...oi...I dont envy you. You are in the right, good luck.
2006-10-26 23:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by Ivy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
woman, awaken. he's not being committed, he's merely fairly sturdy at hiding what's fairly occurring. They met at your place when you have long gone off to artwork, and that they get to artwork previous due? What do you think of that they have got been doing? "additionally they went to breakfast and a action picture and went in to artwork previous due some weeks in the past" They decide for to spend each and every of the time mutually - "They take a seat next to a minimum of one yet another at artwork, bypass to lunch mutually, exercising consultation mutually, and infrequently they bypass to the bar after artwork mutually or play video games at our homestead until fairly previous due at night." Then she " has been coming over interior the morning to wake him up and she or he has additionally been getting my 365 days previous waiting besides." so she's already appearing like your substitute, together with his co-operation. Why can not your person husband do this for himself? He showers her with interest on your trip? "He invited her to come again stay at a lodge and on line casino with us..he basically begged her to bypass...He additionally paid for her beverages and her nutrition....they did no longer come upstairs until 8am that morning...the remainder of the day he spent many of the time along with her.... he left me interior the room with our daughter... and became sitting by way of her...strolling along with her everywhere we went." All that shows the place his interest, his concentration is, and it wasn't with you or your new child. Then there is "some human beings have made comments to me approximately how close they're and reported i keep and eye on them" so its no longer your mind's eye that this "friendship" is going over the barriers. And while a pair "....have been arguing presently (no longer approximately her) and that i think like he has been spending further and extra time along with her... " opportunities are high there is a few guilt/mistrust on the basis of it. and that i think of its with sturdy reason.
2016-12-08 22:22:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing I could say is for you to tell him exactly what you have told us. Let him read this, sometimes a man needs to see it in writing for them to understand how badly something is bothering you.
2006-10-27 01:51:00 · answer #9 · answered by Grace W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is such an ugly thing.
Come on, its not really about the children, its about you isn't it.
Be glad that it is a guy friend not a woman.
2006-10-27 00:52:46 · answer #10 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋