Almost every womens answer was about how males made more money and home males this or that. These women did not mention anything about the children. Over 1/2 the males talked about what is correct for the kids.
Women bashed the men. Dads talked about what was best for the kids.
WHY?
2006-10-26 23:25:24 · 12 answers · asked by Mit 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because women are selfish, self centered, "almost" worthless when it comes to the right things to do for their children when it comes to "themselves" being hurt or done wrong, My ex wife screwed me with child support and she's the one who cheated and ruined our marriage
2006-10-27 00:56:16 · answer #1 · answered by Ray D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will say that the majority of the time it is the women that get the kids. Not that they don't love their children, 99% want the kids for that reason (love), but then they are the ones that have to hear the children cry because daddy's not coming home, or cry because they want to see their dad and aren't able to for whatever reason. They end up raising the kids pretty much alone. Even though there's a lot of good dads out there, I'm not trying to bash men, but the bulk of it is put on the mother. Over time it can make some women bitter towards men. Even dating is harder for women with kids. If they have custody, they have to see where every relationship is going pretty quickly, before they bring this new man into the picture, and kids tend to be more excepting of dad moving on than they are mom. It's a tough spot to be in, their only retaliation is some instances is to take whatever money they can, because it is the only way to hurt their ex. It doesn't make it right, it just is.
I also realize the court system is swayed more to women than to men. It is assumed that women have a stronger bond to the kids because they gave birth to them. (that's not always true, obviously)
It's not fair.
2006-10-27 01:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The reason women USUALLY get more than men in child support IS because men make more money. The state figures the amount of support on total income of the parents. They take into consideration health insurance on the kids, cost of housing, food, clothes, etc. Then the math is done to keep the the kids accustumed to the lifestyle they had when the parents were together, or AS CLOSE TO IT AS POSSIBLE. It has nothing to do with she's a woman or he's a man. Keeping the kids fed, clothed, and taken care of is all.
2006-10-27 04:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because women use children as a meal ticket and to exact revenge on the fathers....and the courts support this!!!!!!!! my husband has been going through the same thing and there is very little support for fathers who want to do the right thing but any state agency will help a mother take a father to court for child support....it's a faulty system...unfortunately the children suffer.....the only bright side is that someday these children will be adults and will find out what their mothers truly did, only then will the fathers get vindication!
2006-10-27 01:30:34 · answer #4 · answered by Lori W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honnestly? because sometimes women * i am female* are bitter as hell, and love to see men struggel. It's a way of feeling vinidcated.
Single parents, male and female, should recive the same. Being female is not an excuse to get more money, because the guys can go out and work. Hell whats wrong with the women working?
it's an outdated concept that a woman should stay at home, and a man should be out there wrking. any woman that says otherwise needs their heads seeing to.
2006-10-26 23:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by siamesegoth2 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
2 sides 2 every story.. sometimes the women takes a beating and sometimes the man does in child support.. i have 2 brothers that never paid chlid support and i have 2 g,sons, who's dads, never paid a dime either.. but the bottom line is this when all is said and done and the parents die, the kids get it all then : ) as 2 why women bash, who knows, maybe they see things differently.. maybe it's left over hurt talking.. never will i understand why a dad, can only see his kids every other week-end, when he was a full time dad before.. bummer eh
2006-10-27 00:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OUCH ! VERY SENSATIVE POINT FOR ME !
When getting my divorce, I asked the judge why they expected me to pay nearly $400 a WEEK, PLUS child care and insurance for my sons. The judge based it off of my income at the time, which was around $1800/wk, take home. I then asked why this was necessary, as my soon to be ex took home nearly $2500-$3000/wk. The judge told me that if my ex made $1,000,000 a yr and I made $10,000, I would still be required to pay support.
The system is F(_)CKED ! ESPECIALLY when I raised my sons when she LEFT us, then she comes back and wants to be a MOMMY AGAIN, and the court F(_)CKING gives them to her !!!
Fascist PIG of a woman for a judge and an ex that is wicked good at looking so "needy" !!
Gender-bias to the 'nth degree !!
2006-10-26 23:34:39 · answer #7 · answered by Falling to pieces 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think people sometimes like to talk or complain about what they dont have.
if the guy is thinking about the situation (GF has my kid and i pay CHILD support) he will talk about the way his money should be used in his eyes, if he gives it for the child it should be used for the kid.
girls thinking about the situation (i have my kid but the dad is gone all i have is the money) they may talk about the dad cause he isnt there or things didnt work out, or he didnt take responsibility...
this is all speculation, i know all situations are different and have there own twists...
2006-10-26 23:33:23 · answer #8 · answered by JCCamel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is part of why you stay married until the kids are out of the house.
2006-10-27 07:07:26 · answer #9 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because females are usually out to get anything they can for themselves. They believe it is owed to them
2006-10-26 23:28:50 · answer #10 · answered by Michael K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋