I'm a girl of 22 and I keep on falling for bisexual men (with fear of committing themselves), how weird is that! I never know beforehand but find out during the dating process that they are also attracted to men! How weird How Weird! And I'm also bi-sexual....and have problems with commitment too....
2006-10-26 23:17:16 · 17 answers · asked by Clara Cando 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
James Dean. Cary Grant. Montgomery Clift. In other words, they can be freakin' hot!!!
If you're also bi and having commitment issues, like attracts like. I did the same thing a few years back, when my girlfriend (wife now) and I opened our relationship.
No problem with bi men, but if you want commitment, you're going to have to work on yourself in order to attract commitment-minded people. Remember also that there are few of those in your age group.
2006-10-27 01:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would say that you answered your own question. From what I have surmised over the many years I have observed bi-sexuals, their main trait is being non-committal in a relationship with the opposite sex. The only successful relationship is almost always with a same-sex partner.
It would appear that you are attracted to bi-sexual men because they probably are more attentive and less likely to come on to you too strong. Which by the way, is probably why they are attracted to you as well. The problem seems to be, that the 'bi' part is mainly about sex - not companionship nor permanent relations.
Maybe under specific agreed to guidelines, such a relationship may work for a while, but the ramifications are dangerous at best, and the chances of long term success are very doubtful.
2006-10-27 07:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by roqofages 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well This very well could be your lucky day,,, how about this, I have had a few Bi-encounters in my life,, BUT I am NOT attracted to men, I dont dream about them,, Now and you are Bi- ,, here goes,, I am a Crossdresser and you are Bi- I LOVE being with females while I still can wear the Lingerie stuffs, and maybe it would be fulfilling for you as far as being bi-when I do the Crossdressing thing, BUT I will say,, NO, I cant pass if my life depended on it,, well anyway, I just thought that could have been answer to your dilemma,
2006-10-27 06:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your problems with commitment don't stem from being bisexual - they stem from something else. There are many bisexuals who commit to one person despite being attracted to members of both sexes.
Bisexuality is vastly misunderstood by homosexuals and heterosexuals. A person who is only attracted to one gender cannot understand a person who is attracted to both genders. Hence, a bisexual (who identifies openly as bisexual) will probably have a better time dating another bisexual - who understands bisexuality.
2006-10-27 17:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that you don't really want to commit..... You say your bi-sexual too, so do you really want 1 partner?? Are you ready to commit & settle down...
I think once you answer this question then maybe you'll be able to sort out your original question!!!
2006-10-27 06:26:22 · answer #5 · answered by JediClem 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You enjoy being kept at an emotional distance by bi-sexual men. You are afraid of intimacy, so you choose to 'love' men who are emotionally 'unavailable'.
2006-10-27 06:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
a bi woman and a bi man both afraid to commit? sounds like a perfect match to me...what's the problem?
2006-10-27 07:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by Spyder 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's amazing that we ( and I mean everyone) keep falling for the same types over and over again...even when we know that it's the wrong person....must be some major psychological reasons behind that one.
2006-10-27 06:19:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why do you keep falling for bisexual men? Is it because they're (usually) great? Or perhaps that's just my opinion.
2006-10-27 06:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by sarcasticquotemarks 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Weird attracts weird.
Or, as we used to say, many many years ago:
"Birds of a feather flock together."
In short, "Bi-birds" obviously end up swimming on the surface of the same exact cespool.
2006-10-27 06:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by hohobankhamen 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋