What happened to the saying it's the thought that counts? It's all got too commercialised and we mugs (parents) fall for it every year getting more and more in debt just to please our kids who already get too much as it is. I can feel the stress already - lol!
2006-10-26 21:50:47 · 31 answers · asked by missieclass 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
Material things - most definitely yes we can give too much to them. Love and advice and understanding - then no we can never give too much to our kids.
2006-10-26 21:55:36 · update #1
Far too much! I would love to spoil my only grandson but when I see the amount of toys he has, most of whch he never plays with, it actually makes me feel quite sick. So I give him my time when we are together we do things, swimming, walking, baking, reading etc (he is 2 and a half) As for presents books and money in his savings account are the usual, it mat appear mean but I believe we have to teach him the value of money and the fact that he can't have everything he wants if he isn't to grow up into a selfish young man. Christmas is about love, the greatest love gift ever given - Jesus, - not about expensive toys, let's get things back in perspective.
2006-10-26 22:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by Rahab 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I do think christmas is far too commercialised I think we do give our kids far too much !!!... The cost of the presents they ask for.... i.e. £80-150 for a pair of trainers, mobile phones, tracksuits, a couple of presents end up £400-500 pounds before you have brought anyone else.... The shops make more money each year and we end up stoney broke!! But I'm to blame because I have always spent this sort of money !!!
2006-10-27 08:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents definitely spent too much for me! (sometimes we would get mostly clothes and things we needed, but they always spent so much for us)
I realized that my parents really cared a lot about me and my siblings. But my parents didn't want us to think Christmas was all about presents. We would all gather in our living room and my dad would read the Christmas story from the Bible. These are my favorite memories. (even if you're not a Christian, the Christmas story is *so wonderful*)
best of wishes & Merry Christmas!
2006-10-27 09:27:00 · answer #3 · answered by ♥honey♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely! My 4 year old has already had more toys than I could ever dream of!. Ive thrown away games, to make room for more of these expensive, unreliable, easy broken toys.
I use to get hand-me-downs from my older brother but I tell you what, they lasted. I had my bothers chopper for nearly 5 years. Once the frame was to small, I broke it down to make a bike with a chopper back wheel and a big racing wheel at the front. I fitted cow-horns and things to jazz it up. It was my pride and joy, and I looked after it. Mmmmm.........the good old days!
2006-10-27 05:26:48 · answer #4 · answered by Old Man of Coniston!. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i am feeling it already too,i ave been getting my daughter a few things as i go but i still need more as her birthday is at the beginning of December as well (i didn't plan her birth rite lol)she wants the new baby Annabel changing unit an that is bout £60 which is alot of money as i am a single perant HELPlol but i am always determined to get her a few things she really wants an the rest what i think she will like.i ave to say my mum an dad are brilliant they help by getting her one of the big presents she wants,so this year i know she is getting her DS she really wants,but i love spoiling my daughter as i don't do it all year round,but i was determined to see if i could get Xmas cancelled this year lol
2006-10-27 05:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by sarah t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that giving kids practical gifts is really important and that they learn it's about the giving not the getting that makes christmas special. 3 years ago, we adopted this idea, allowing family esp. grandparents to get them the fun stuff and we would get the practical. my kids, 19, 13 and10 don't mind and they konw that what theya re getting are things that they will be able to use for a long time , instead of cheap junk that they will forget about 2 days after Christmas.
2006-10-27 20:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by musiclady007 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The parents are the ones to blame, I have friends who's kids at midnight go around an put presents on peoples door stoops, of the less fortunate. They seem to get much joy from this, for they are raised from the beginning to understand its true meaning.
It takes the commercialism's out, and brings the spirit of it all in.
Peace
I AM
2006-10-27 05:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
we as parents are to blame, we give our kids too much and they come to expect it!
I have a 10 & 14 year old. Already brought them a laptop each for xmas that cost about £350 each, gonna spend another £150 each on them. Only problem i have is that you dont get alot for £150 and fear they'll look at what they've got and there wont be alot there!
I cant afford alot, as a single parent, (dont judge me, i do work really hard full time to provide for my kids!) yet their dad earns over triple what i do and can give them more!
2006-10-27 04:54:46 · answer #8 · answered by Mizz Julie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't get into debt to give my children what they want...thankfully we are in a financial position to see them alright at christmas, and I hope we always will be...but if not, it's a bridge we'll cross at the time.
My children are only young (18months & nearly 4) and I like to give them lots at christmas. I don't do it to keep in with others, or because it's expected...it's just what I enjoy doing.
2006-10-27 04:57:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a shame when gift giving to your children becomes a sort of competition. As a teacher I was always saddened when children came in after Christmas bragging about what they got and how much it cost. I agree that it's important to instil in one's children the idea that 'it's the thought that counts' - i.e. the love and care which has gone into the choosing or making of the gift - and also to think of other children who may not be as fortunate.
2006-10-27 05:11:06 · answer #10 · answered by mad 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋