I found a personal ad for my partner on myspace.com. His sorry butt is out of here, but I'm curious to see what other people would do?
2006-10-26 20:56:35 · 13 answers · asked by mesierens 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Forgot to say....we've been together for 2 years, so it's not just a casual relationship. I
2006-10-26 21:05:43 · update #1
That's exactly why I'm single today. My ex had an ad on one of the gay sites.
I confirmed that he wasn't just playing, he was serious about hooking up with others.
I booted him out that day.
2006-10-27 01:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me just this year. I didn't say anything. Until I saw her in person and confronted her. At first she denied it, but I forced her to pull up the dating site and go to her inbox. Then I sat down in the computer chair and took over. I read the inbox and replies out loud. She said she didn't know why she was doing that but also refused to take her profile off. I loved her very much and wish that if she had a problem with me she would have just come to me to discuss it. So now it's over. Once the trust is gone, it's hard to go back. You never trust them again and even if you got back together it wouldn't be the same. That question of is she or isn't she cheating will always be in the back of my mind.
2006-10-27 04:49:48 · answer #2 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If by personal ad, you mean something looking for a relationship:
First, confront him and look for some really good reason for it being there. An obvious and valid reason. If he is unable to come up with one or are clearly avoiding the question, THEN boot his buns outta my life.
Note: If I had been together for a really long time, and nothing similar had ever happened before, first try to see if there was something else behind it all, but only if you never would have suspected them of something like that.
2006-10-26 21:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by Zikau 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd pose as a different woman and send him a few sexy solicitaions for a private 1 on 1 encounter, and see what his response is. Its quite simple to create an alias account on-line... so I'd lure him and see how far he'd really be willing to take it. You can even find a photo of another woman to make your seduction seem more real.
Maybe its a lot more innocent than you think, but if it isn't... Time to give him the AXE (not literally of course)
2006-10-26 21:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by Kontra~Diction 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I've been in a relationship for 20 years and I think I know my partner well enough to know that we would have talked about the issue first...before it happened...If not --yeah I'd be pretty upset...not because of the personal ad but because of the lying involved.
2006-10-26 23:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack up and leave sounds like your partner has allready or is planning to.
"Never make someone a priority when you are only an option for them."
2006-10-26 21:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by Bearable 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Answer his ad with an assumed name and see what he says!
2006-10-26 20:59:21 · answer #7 · answered by MC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why were you searching the personal ads? sounds like both of you are looking for someone new.
2006-10-27 01:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by Spyder 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing by kicking him out. he was cheating on you that is what i think even if he didn't act on anything it is wrong to advertise yourself if your with someone. of course i don't know what he has posted on myspace.
2006-10-26 22:08:31 · answer #9 · answered by tim s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out the door. Don't care what the reason might be.
2006-10-27 01:08:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋