we really have a good relationship and we have a child together...we have been together for 3 years, but i think i like someone else...WHAT DO I DO!?!?!?
2006-10-26 19:37:19 · 23 answers · asked by rocky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Recognize it for what it is....a CRUSH....and let it go. Unless you can accept that you will CRUSH your husband's heart and that of your child as well.
Be smart. Not selfish. Just walk away. This advice will come back to haunt you if you ignore it and you will want to thank me if you take it.
God bless you. Praying you do the right thing (and you already know what that is!)
2006-10-26 19:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow. My husband is overseas as well right now. I know how it feels being a military wife. People who aren't won't understand. It is lonely and sometimes pretty painfull. I have to keep myself preoccupied with something just to pass the time. So what I am trying to say is make sure what is going on with this other guy isn't just because you are alone and he is pre-occupying the hurt. Once your husband returns, if you cheat on him with this other guy your life will never be the same and you will regret it. It is what it is.....a crush. Leave it at that. Sit and think about why you love your husband. Think about how sad you were before he left that he was leaving. Think back on your husband and maybe you will be crushing on him all over again. If you husband is going to be away for alot longer get more things to entertain you. Do you know that the main complaint from girls in a marriage is not enough attention. How can your husband show you attention when he is overseas. Don't feel horrible about feeling this way just stop it now before you regret something. He is probably thinking about you right now and how great you are and how much he wants to be back with you. Don't break his heart. You married him.
2006-10-26 19:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by Kara C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from the other guy. Don't do that to your husband ESPECIALLY since he's overseas right now. He deserves better than to be cheated on. I know you're lonely (I too am a military wife...I know how lonely it gets) but come on, there is no excuse for cheating on your husband. How would you feel if he cheated on you? And what about your child? Think of the example you are setting for him/her. Keep your mind on more important things, like your child and your husband. Don't ruin the good relationship you say you have.
2006-10-26 19:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy_Fir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The term "Dear John" letter comes from women writing to overseas husbands to tell them they are no longer needed.
You have been making numerous active choices to be with this other man. In your heart, you're already a cheater.
Write him a Dear John letter. That'll give him the boost he needs in combat. Oh and take his child away too so that relationship is f*cked up for the next 30 years.
Enjoy your strange dick. What a spineless winner he must be to cheat against a guy who isn't even on the continent to kick his sorry as$.
2006-10-26 20:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how it feels to have your husband overseas as my husband is in the military but keep in mind that u made your vows to him to "forsake all others" and that means u should do your best to stay away from temptation.
Try to communicate as much as u can with your husband while he is away so u don't feel so lonely. Find other activities or hobbies u can focus on that would take your mind off of other people or spend more time with family and friends. Just realize that destroying the family u have built with your husband is not worth it in the long run.
2006-10-26 20:15:33 · answer #5 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. remember who your hubby is. remember why you love him. All of these things are real just because he is not right in front of you. I am a Navy wife. and to be honest it is quite easy to have feelings for some one else while the hubby is away. Just don't. I know it is hard to be alone. But how hard is what he is doing. And usually he doesn't have the options you have to replace what he is missing at home. Don't be selfish put yourself in his shoes. Or should I say boots! Think of how you would feel if you found out he was in love with some one else. Or are you so selfish that you are thinking you would be relieved that you had a way out. If that is the case then, our guys, the ones in the military fighting for us deserve better than you. So go ahead and get out, Just have him get ahold of me when he gets back. I will hook him up with some one who will treat him good!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-26 19:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by Becky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to forget about this crush. You probably just have a crush bc right now you are home alone and lonely. You need to ask yourself if you would have let yourself fall into this position if your husband was home. Right now you need to focus on your family. Once your husband comes home and you have had time with him again then you should make your decision. Not now while you are lonely and desperate.
2006-10-26 19:43:58 · answer #7 · answered by girlinlove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just keep this in mind the love and support that he thinks he is getting from you is the only thing that is keeping him going,my husband was over there last year and i sat here with my 4 kids supporting him all the way,you should be ashamed of yourself its called being (selfish) wait untill he comes home and if you still have these feelings for this other guy then act on it you can at least give him that.
2006-10-26 19:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by salena h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to your husband. you seem to be dissatisfied even though your relationship with your husband is good. is there something bugging you that you haven't told your husband? maybe it is to tell him how you feel abt his going overseas or his spending too little time with you...
don't ruin your marriage just because you have a crush on somebody... think abt your child... think abt your husband and what he wld feel... once a cheater always... be careful...
2006-10-26 19:42:57 · answer #9 · answered by wat_more_can_i_say? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't seem to be the primary one to consider so. Most people cross via this. People do not get into extramarital affairs deliberately, however it simply occurs. See if you'll be able to manipulate. The bodily courting does no longer take time to get began.
2016-09-01 03:21:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋