Before our marriage,he was already drinking (beer) but the longer we get together the drinking seems increasing too.Whenever I stop him from his next can of beer he will feel that I'm trying to control him.I told him its jt for his own health but he will fight back saying that a few cans wont hurt.Can anyone tell me how to justify this?how many cans per day is to consider too much?I'm not talking about him getting drunk because he seldom drink until get drunk.What I'm more concern about is the health.
2006-10-26 19:31:23 · 6 answers · asked by sweety 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know a couple of beers are ok but is 4-6 cans daily also consider ok???
2006-10-26 21:51:10 · update #1
Drinking a couple of beers a day is alot of peoples way to wind down after a hard day at work. Nothing wrong with it as long as they know when to stop and are not getting drunk.
It is good for the kidneys to start with. My aunt drank a beer every night before bed and lived to be 96 and just as spry as a 35yr old. It has its advantages, so lighten up on him.
If he abuses you or curses you because of drinking, then you have an issue, but if he is calm and just wants to relax, leave him alone.
There are plenty of other women that would hand him a couple of beers nightly and then send him home. At least he IS home doing it.
Stop nagging him.
2006-10-26 19:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by Mary D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually drinking daily is not okay. Too much is defined when it is causing a problem with the relationship. He is drinking to cover something, or deal with something in some way. Just because he's not getting "drunk" doesn't make it okay. As an alcoholic drinks more, the tolerance for the alcohol goes up, so he cn continue to drink more and more. Time to talk to him, get counselling, set him up in AA and you go to Al Anon
2006-10-27 08:12:55 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay! he thing to do is that without arguing and gettign angry, jsut say, "I am still worried even though I know you don't get really drunk. Perhaps its just all in my mind. But please just let us go to a doctor (perhaps a friend who is a doctor) together and get his or her advice. If he or she says, it is okay to have that much beer, I won't bother you again. Done!" Let the doctor take over from there.
2006-10-27 03:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made your point, let it go
If you keep up, he will drink more to prove you are not in control of him. The more you count, the more likly he will hide it.
As others have said, if he is not slacking off on his responsibilities and is not being abusive. Let it go andd see if he stops on his own
2006-10-27 08:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by idtshadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back of and let him enjoy
2006-10-27 02:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by John Scary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he treating you badly of hurting any one in your family???
If not let it go. If so leave his ***.
2006-10-27 02:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by Becky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋