I just found out that I'm pregnant. I don't want to have an aboriton but everyone keeps telling me I should. It's so irritating. I want to keep my child. What can I do to prevent my parents, friends, and family to get off my back and let me live my life?
2006-10-26 19:30:19 · 33 answers · asked by Lola© 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Jeez people--when did everyone start believing money equals happiness? You can support a kid with love--money isn't all that important as long as there's love, food in it's belly, and a roof over it's head!
2006-10-26 19:36:06 · update #1
They all say "I'm not ready." They don't know me--I know me!
2006-10-26 19:37:43 · update #2
I am 15 and my boyfriend is 22. I'm moving in with him and we're going to get married. He has a great job and like--I can use cloth diapers. I can do things like that--there are cheap ways to have a baby w/o welfare.
2006-10-26 19:45:46 · update #3
If I do have the child my mom said I have to get married--so that isn't an issue. She won't let others know I had sex out of wedlock!
2006-10-26 19:51:24 · update #4
I answered yes to every question you asked Beau--! I'm ready to be a mom. Most of my friends have kids anyway--I don't know why they want me to abort!?!
2006-10-26 19:53:21 · update #5
Beaut---They wouldn't get him for rape because he's my mom's best friend's son. I've known him since I was tiny. He's my brother's best friend.
They will sign papers for us. The guy cannot "run" off because he's tied in with my whole family. Heck ya I'm going to be feeling the same--I love my unborn child.
How do you consider me a baby? I graduated school. I could be emancipated if I wanted to.
The 22 year old man was just being there for me--we've been dating for two years. My parents don't have issues with it.
Didn't you read? Most of my friends have kids. I actually feel more left out without a baby then I ever would with.
I want a baby at 15 because what else am I doing? I graduated early and I'm just sitting around now.
No, I'm not doing it for my boyfriend. I'm doing it for our family.
2006-10-26 20:06:25 · update #6
Also to add my mother is bi-polar and has been on and off meds. I wouldn't wish my child to live with her ever!
2006-10-26 20:07:44 · update #7
He's actually division boss of a contruction company and has several properties of real estate. He makes probably about 2,000+ a month. He also has insurance through his job to which he will provide for the child.
You guys don't know me. You guys don't know us. I've known him my whole life. Our families love each other and we love each other.
2006-10-26 20:29:40 · update #8
I believe all conception is a gift from God.... the was once a young girl who became pregnant (God knows how), but she had a choice.... Her choice was to say 'Yes' or 'No' to the gift that God gave her. She said "yes" and she gave birth to the Savior of the world. Just imagine what God has planned for your child. Don't get an abortion, your baby cries out to Jesus "Lord have pity on me for I wish to see the world".
You are in my prayers
Peace
2006-10-29 19:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by Peace 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to have an abortion, don't have one!! I had an abortion but, I wanted it and it wasn't easy to deal with. I've moved one but, I can't imagine what it would be like to allow yourself to be pressured into having an abortion. It's your choice.
At 15 though, why not consider adoption if you don't want an abortion? It's so young to be throwing your life away to motherhood especially since I don't even think you can legally work at 15 years old yet! Also, any 22 year old man who not only dates but one who impregnates a 15 year old is not at all responsible, mature or worth being with. I can't imagine such a person taking responsibility after the baby is born. It's fun to play house now but, soon the realities of dirty diapers, financial problems, grumpy nieghbors, no time for sex, a screaming hungry baby, fighting with your lover and exhaustion is going to set in. Does he have a well paying job? You're going to have to spend most of your time taking care of the baby and you'll have a very hard time finding that pays even a few cents over minimum wage and a full time job? Ha! Forget it. I suppose there is always welfare but, what kind of life for your baby is that?
2006-10-26 20:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noone can force you to have an abortion. It sounds to me that they feel this way because they don't feel that you are ready to be a parent. You need to ask yourself whether you are. Do you work? Go to school? Do you have the support you need from the father? How will you provide formula,diapers, food,a crib, toys etc.... Babies are wonderful, but you need to be prepared for the reality that they are alot of work and they cost a shitload of money. If you love your child as much as you say you do are you prepared for the sacrifices involved and believe me there are more than you know. Also ask yourself why you want to keep the baby.How will the baby benefit from having you in it's life? How will your life change for having the baby in it?For the better? For Worse? Remember there is no such thing as free trial when it comes to having a baby. Once he or she is born you can't change your mind. If you decide that you cannot be what this chid needs, I would consider adoption, open if you would still like to be a part of tis baby's life.You have to decide for yourself , noone else can make the decision. I do urge you though to put the child first and make the decision based on what is best for the baby and not what is best for you. As i said parenthood is all about a sacrifice, so here is your chance to put that into practice.I hope you make the right decision Good luck=) ......... Money does not equal happiness. That isn't even the point. As you said as long as it has food aroof etc.... BUT how do you expect to provide these things without it??? Also ask yourself whether or not a forced marriage is good for the baby? You are 15 years old. Can you really see yourself with your boyfriend years into the future? Will you both be happy? A bad marriage can really screw your child's life up. Children know Trust me. Also he is young. Are you 100% sure that he is going to stick it out with you? It would not be the first time the father has bailed. As I said having a baby is wonderful but hard.I think your fantasies of what it is going to be like is far more romantic than the reality. You are not even legal age to work. How will you provide health insurance for the baby? for your pregnancy? It cost my insurance 150,000 dollars to have my son. I had alot of complications and you being so young you are at a higher risk. What if the baby is born disabled? How will you care for it ? I never in a million years thought that my child would have a disability but guess what? He has autism. Are you 100% sure you are ready to deal with the above scenarios? I don't believe that you are. I think you have alot of growing up to do before you become a parent. Im sorry if i sound harsh but I wouldn't want you or the baby to end up in a bad situation because you made the wrong decision ........................ Just so you know, 2000.00 dollars a month is not very much money. You have rent electric phone car payments insurance food among other things. That 2000.00 amonth will be gone before you know it. Yes there is Govt aid. But is that what you want for your baby? Yes there are cloth diapers, but they are very expensive as well. A pack of 6 runs you about 10.00 You need about 50 to start as well as plastic coverings so they don't leak. Also they out grow them every 2-3 months. And they are extremely laborous. Are you prepared to wash 10- 12 dirty diapers a day? you are right we don't know you. But you did ask our advice and it isn't right to get snippy because it isn't what you want to hear. Also having a baby because you feel left out and have nothing else to do is a very sorry reason .We don't have to know you to see that you are not ready for this child. Your immaturity is really showing
2006-10-26 19:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are making the right decision by keeping the baby I think. And it is all up to you. I have a 6 month old baby girl and she is just wonderful. I love her so much. And it might be different for your family and friends right now and they might be telling you to go and do that. But the day you have this baby they will love it so much. And I just know that they will be happy that you did not have a abortion and you kept it. Babies are special gifts and they are so innocent. I even think as a couple of months go by that they will accept you having the baby. I do believe it will get better for you. I think you are doing the BEST thing by keeping it. You will have so many wonderful times with this baby especially the first time you get to hear the heartbeat. I still remember that day with my little girl...... I wish you the best!!!!!!
2006-10-26 19:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by Hope08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow fifteen and pregnant. You seem like you know what you want and it is your choice to make and don't let anyone tell you what to do. This is a life altering decision that is being placed on your young shoulders. I was raped right before my sixteenth birthday and that night resulted in a pregnancy. I decided to keep the baby and now I have a beautiful seven year old boy I have been raising all on my own until I met my fiance seven months ago. It's not going to be easy but I support the decision you've made. One of my friends had a baby at fifteen and she got married like you're going to, but he left her and she went through hell raising her son until she got things straightened out is now in nursing school.
I wish you the best of luck and hope things turn out for you. When you see and hold your baby for the first time you will realize just how much your life is going to change. Make sure you're ready for that and God Bless you. I wish you and your family the best of luck. If you need to talk to anybody let me know, you can contact me through YM or Email they're both on available. Best of luck to you!
2006-10-30 11:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by Brandie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im wondering if your ready too. Of course love is very important when raising a child, but if you don't have money then how are you gonna buy that food to put in its belly and afford a roof over its head, and the millions of diapers it will go through in just the first year, and the clothes and shoes it will out grow every 3 to 6 months, and the doctor visits you will have to take them to frequently in the first year,and the formula it will drink in the first year, ect. Adoption is not a bad idea either. I love my kids to death but it sucks being a welfare mom.
2006-10-26 19:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're 15 and your boyfriend is 22, HE HAS RAPED YOU!! No 22 year old in his right mind would get a 15 year old pregnant. I know you think you're grown right now but believe me, you are still a child as much as it's annoying to hear. He is an adult and he should have known better. You may love him but the truth is what he has done is illegal. As for the abortion, yes it is your child but you are a child yourself and you cant take care of it. Unless your parents are willing to step in and your boyfriend is a responsible person. Obviously you dont have a job and you're still in what? Jr. High? I think you should listen to your parents on this one. They're thinking about the future of not only you, but your child (their grandchild) as well... I wish the best for you whatever way you choose.
2006-10-30 07:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by candy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
That is good and all that you want to have your baby. A baby is a full time job and you will be having your life on hold for the next 18 years so do you think you are ready?
I had my son at 21 and it was so hard but i have done well. He is a happy & healthy 5 year old lil boy.
Well if you want all of your family , friends and others to not bother you then move. I want to guess that you live with your parents. Am i right?
They are most likely just letting you know that if you don't want it or that you aren't ready that you can have an abortion.
Right now my lil sister that is 17 is pregnant and we have let her know the same. She has no clue what she is getting into. But that is her life.
Ask yourself this:
Do you like watching/babysitting kids?
Are you ready to sit with a baby 24/7?
Are you going to be able to handle that when you have your baby that you can't go out and have fun like your friends?
Are you ready to give up your life?
Are you going to be able to take care of your baby without help of your parents?
If you can answer yes to all these questions yes then congrats welcome to motherhood if not consider your options.
Money might not be everything but it makes the world go around and kids are not cheap.
Your parents could get your boyfriend for rape because of his age even though you said yes to the sex.
Your parents will have to sign the papers for you to get married no matter what.
What is going to happen when that guy runs off? Are you going to be feeling the same like you do right now?
You are way to young to even have a baby cause you are a baby yourself. Later on you will wish that you would have listened to your mom & dad.
Please tell me why a 22 year old man would want a 15 year old girlfriend?
Just think while your friends are having so much fun you will be sitting back with a baby.
When you go to have your baby who is going to be feeling those horrible pains? You
You have until in your 40's to have a baby please tell me why now at age 15?
Are you doing this for your boyfriend?
Have fun being a child bride!!!!!!!
I think that your "man" should have known better than to get a lil girl pregnant.
Why weren't you on birth control? Or using condoms?
I wasn't even having sex at age 15....
You have not lived life yet and you don't know how it is and most girls that have babies so young ends up putting their babies off on their mommies...Are you going to be that way?
You have alot to learn...A baby will not keep a man with you and he can run off and leave you at anytime. Why do you believe that he can't? He can. And you have been dating since you were 13? How sad. You are saying there is nothing else to do in life? what about college? You aren't even old enough to get your drivers license or vote and you believe you are old enough for a baby?
If that was me -a 22 year old man i would be ashamed to have gotten a 15 year old pregnant.
I know you think you know everything right now but later on believe me you will wish and regret that your life was different.
Oh yea when he leaves where are you going to live? With you parents?
Do you have a job? O yea your not old enough
2006-10-26 19:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
How old are you?
Money doesn't equal happieness but it does help when you have a child. Before I got my amazing job I was paying $600 a month for health insurance that I didn't even use! It's an expensive world out there. Money is also important when your son/daughter is going to school and getting into colleges. If you have the money it will help them in their future.
Do what is in your heart.
2006-10-26 19:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by Christie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby=doesn't always equal marriage, ONLY marry him because you love him, do not put that child through a divorce later on.!
You can get "passport" to pay for ALL of your medical bills while you are pregnant! If your parents will not help you there are many govenment programs that will!
**** everyone who tells you to abort this child,you want it ,you keep it!
You are only 15, it is not legal for you to get married with out parents consent until you are 16 & i highly unreccomend getting married until you are at least 18, until you really for sure know what you are getting into!
2006-10-26 19:53:02 · answer #10 · answered by Two Peas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job that pays well, has benefits that will help pay the doctor/hosptial/doctor bills. Make sure that your job pays enough that you can save up the money it will cost to not only RAISE a child but put a child through college because believe me right NOW college tuition is bad, it's going to be much worse in another 18 years. I suspect the reason everyone is "on your back" over this is because you don't have a good enough job and IF you keep this pregnancy everyone else but you will be responsible for it's financial support.
2006-10-26 19:34:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋