i just have never been pleased during sex? What should i do?
2006-10-26 19:29:56 · 16 answers · asked by Kmarie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, you shouldn;t tell him so directly like that.
You need to teach him how to please you. Teach him how to touch you, to do what you like. Thats a much better way of getting what you want and not hurting someone you love.
2006-10-26 19:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by BlondeBarbie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what makes you go over the edge. Guys love directions in bed, but don't be like a drill Sargent,be an informed lover. Say oh I love it when you do it like this or hey try this and the mere fact that that he can get you to respond will drive him wild!
2006-10-27 02:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by twysty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't come out and say that you're not being pleased. By I would talk to him about trying new things/positions/etc to make sex better. If he's going too fast, tell him to slow down, etc. Take his hand and direct it to where you would like to be touched and show him how you like to be touched as well. When he does something you like, make sure to tell him so he'll know to do it again in the future. Maybe have him watch you masturbate -- it's something different, and he'll be able to see where you like to be touched and how. Think about bring a vibrator into your bed.
There is not hard and fast set of rules of what is good for everyone, so you have to give your boyfriend some direction. Of course, if you expect him to try out new things for you, you have to be able to try out new things that he wants to do as well.
2006-10-27 02:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by Jamir 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him ASAP!!!! there no need to have sex if you're not getting anything out of it. sure you love him but sex plays a big part in a Relationship.so what if you two get married and he's not pleasing you, then that will be growns to go out looking for something biger and better.
2006-10-27 02:41:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should you tell him? That depends...do you eventually want good sex? I hope you don't plan on telling him, "Hey! You suck!". First tell him what you like about his performance(you can find something) and then tell him what you like and what you feel he needs to work on so that both of you can enjoy sex. If you come at him like this, he will respect you for your honesty and more than likely, he'll be interested in learning how to please you.
2006-10-27 02:35:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never do that. You will destroy his ego rock bottom. Maybe you can try telling him to do some foreplay on those parts that pleases you most and than head for the point.
2006-10-27 02:33:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know.
Tell him what you like.
Buy a sex book at the book store and read it.
Watch a romantic movie together.
He needs respect to feel sexy in bed and in turn, he will give you romantic love which will help you to feel sexier in bed.
Try it. Can't hurt!
2006-10-27 02:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
:) tell him. your missing out . my boy couldnt even do missionary for gods sake but now he makes me satisfied every time. experiement with cunnilingus and fellatio and also foreplay with feathers an whips. dont say you dont please me . he will get all upset. say honey i like this. and show him what you like or lick me like that harder, softer etc. make it instructional but not demanding .. you will be fine. or get him to watch some lesbian porn
2006-10-27 02:55:02 · answer #8 · answered by cha cha pop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also have this problem.... I havent said anything either. I think Ive just given up on this topic and accepted it. Not good.
2006-10-27 02:32:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
U should tell him definitely, so he can take some treatment to improve himself.
2006-10-27 02:59:11 · answer #10 · answered by jolly boy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋