my doctor said to let my baby lay and cry for two hours after feeding has anyone else had their doctor tell them the same?
2006-10-26 19:23:32 · 27 answers · asked by Sadie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I dont think I could ever let me baby cry for hours.
I would change doctors...that just seems strange to me.
2006-10-26 19:25:12 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not good advise from a Doctor. Cry for half hour is not too bad but ater that , the baby obviously needs your help!
A baby needs more than food. A baby needs to feel a Mothers' arms around it and hear her voice. A baby may have trouble with burping so give it time or the baby will cry for sure. Maybe laying on it's tummy across your knees will help or sit the baby up while supporting it with your hand under it's chin. Then keep rubbing and patting it's back. A little drop of gripe water is good too.
Just make sure the baby has enough to drink and love your child.
Time enough to teach it patience!
2006-10-26 19:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by rentongal1958 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness!! No no no!!! (Or at least I sure wouldn't)
I can't think why a doctor would say that... could they have misinterpreted what you were asking somehow? Did they give a reason at all?
Your baby cries because they are trying to communicate something to you. By going to them you are showing that you can be trusted and that you are there for them. How would you like to be ignored for an hour if you were in distress?
Often being overstimulated causes 'releasing pent up stress' and can lead to unexplained crying, but the most common reason for crying that I found with my baby (especially after a feeding like you indicated) is that she had a little burp hidden away somewhere.
I couldn't get my baby to burp well early on. (I'd think she'd got all her burps out and then she'd cry or spit up all over the floor when I put her down.)
Whenever we were visiting though my Mom would find another burp after I was done patting her back EVERY SINGLE TIME!!!
Mom had a trick of starting patting low on the baby's back with each pat a little higher up to her shoulders. She'd repeat this pattern to work the bubbles upwards.
Trust a Mom of three to know the tricks of the trade. It always worked like a charm! (Thanks Mom!!)
At about 7 months if my baby was crying & standing in her crib at bedtime I started waiting 3 minutes, then I'd check on her, then 4 minutes, check, 5 minutes, check... I don't think I ever got to 6 minutes.
Check out:
Seven reasons babies cry and how to soothe them:
http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/9790.html
This is the BEST article I ever found on this topic!!
When I brought my newborn home I printed it out and posted it by the change table as a reminder (like a check list.) Then when my baby would cry (and I couldn't immediately figure out why) rather than getting frustrated I'd go consult the list. (Half the time on the walk there the baby would stop crying - she just needed a change of scenery. Plus when we got there I'd give her a little 5 minute baby massage and she loved it.)
Take care & good luck!
2006-10-26 19:38:13 · answer #3 · answered by Poopsie-Daisy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
God no! You never let your baby cry for two hours. Its good to let a baby cry for a little bit but only a few minutes because it will help strength their lungs but anything over that they are wearing themselves out. When they are wore out their immune system is down so they are more prone to colds, plus you are hurting the bond between the two of you. Especially that young a baby needs to know who is a comfort person and who will make them feel safe. When you let them cry that long you are making them feel scared and insecure and unloved. I cant believe that a doctor would tell you that you need to change doctors because if you are doing taht you are only hurting you and your baby. If your baby is crying see whats wrong, are they hungry, dirty, cold, have gas, lonely, or just wanting attention. You never ignore a baby your doctor needs reported.
THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO REMEMBER WITH A BABY IF THEY ARE CRYING THERE IS A REASON!
2006-10-27 15:10:52 · answer #4 · answered by mother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus NO NO NO NO. When a baby cries it NEEDS something. Especially at this age - they don't cry for the sake of it - they'll be hungry or uncomfortable in some way - it's your job as that baby's mummy to find out what is upsetting you little one. I think the longest my son has cried for is about 10minutes - you certainly don't leave a baby crying for hour upon hour - the only reason they'll finally stop is through utter exhaustion - not because you've found the cause! Quite often a baby just wants a cuddle from mum or dad to reassure them. Most after feed crying is due either to the fact that that lil belly isn't full and they want more milk or that they've got trapped wind - in which case burp them. To leave a baby for 2hours - would you do that - a baby NEEDS plenty of interaction, attention and cuddles - they shouldn't just be left for 2 hours regardless. Please please change your doctor!!
2006-10-26 23:03:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you should not. Your baby's only way of communicating to you that they need something is to cry and if you ignore that your going to have a very unhappy baby in the long run. Why would your doctor even suggest that?
They say in numerious books i read that your child needs to learn that this is a safe world and you need to meet your childs needs. Your doctor sounds like a quack and id find another doctor who actually knows that if babies cry its because they need something. My child is 7 weeks old and i have not let her cry for more then 5 minutes. I dont think its right, and why do you want to hear a screaming baby? I cant stand hearing her cry. Please do what you think is best. Dont let anyone, even a doctor tell you something like that that makes you question yourself. If you have doubts then listen to that, mothers instinct knows best.
2006-10-27 07:01:00 · answer #6 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never let your baby cry. That doctor doesn't know what they are talking about. The baby could become very ill from the neglect. A baby cries because it's in pain or needs attention of some sort. Go to mothering.com for more information but never let a baby cry.
2006-10-26 20:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by thetamama 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is a real question, you need a new doctor! NO baby should be allowed to lay and cry for over an hour! Babies cry to communicate their needs. It's the parent's job to respond to this cry. It teaches the child how to communicate. It teaches the child that s/he can trust those who care for him. I would RUN as fast as I can to find a new doctor!
2006-10-27 01:16:54 · answer #8 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello there im a doctor and the doctor of yours seems like a quack no they shouldnt be allowed to cry for an hour or so its a newborn!!! start letting it cry out for a few mins when its 12 months old ok? and newborn are small and need you....change doctors now you should burp the baby after feeding
2006-10-26 21:33:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change doctors. Your never suppose to do something like that with a 1 month old. Babies cry for a reason when they are that young. Your baby is trying to let you know he needs something.
2006-10-26 19:29:19 · answer #10 · answered by shorty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who is your doctor HITLER ? Your baby is too young to be left to cry alone. Your baby needs to feel your love and comfort, after all it's only been in it's new world for a month, things are still pretty scary for him/her. If your baby is crying after a feed, they are trying to tell you they need something or something is wrong. Don't listen to your doctor, follow your instincts, do you want to leave your baby alone to cry for 2 hours and feel abandoned?
2006-10-27 00:59:39 · answer #11 · answered by Liandrew00 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋