what happens in a young girls life that leads her to having a baby before she is emotionally and physically ready? is there something missing from their childhood early in life? do they feel they need to be loved, or loved by someone?
2006-10-26 18:55:40 · 14 answers · asked by leolady0765 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
at the age of 18, i would expect most teens that have children be responsible, considering they are considered adults by then. the question is really directed at the 13, 14, 15 and even 16 year olds with children. the question isn't meant to be offensive, nor am i trying to belittle anyone, it's simply out of curiousity. my mother was a teen mother and she was loyal and dedicated to her kids but sadly, she lived a miserable, unhappy life. she never did anything for herself.
2006-10-26 19:34:33 · update #1
to lolagirl...........perhaps YOU are the one that needs to go back to school! i have had 5 children, thankfully, none of them as repulsive as you are! go back and check your own grammar, the spelling is fine, and there is no grammatical here. obviously, you don't know the difference between singular and plural!
2006-10-26 19:40:34 · update #2
sorry you are confused with my grammar, i am stickler when it comes to using correct spelling and grammar.......and i am right!~ i am using the word 'baby's as a singular, not plural.
2006-10-26 20:23:09 · update #3
I don't understand it either. I had my son at 21 and it was hard so i can't imagine if i could have even done it at age 15-16-17-18.
My lil sister who is 17 is pregnant and i cannot believe it cause she is still looking like a lil kid. She seems like she is 12 to me. Me and our mom both tried to talk to her telling her -her options. We told her if she wanted then that is fine but if she didn't then we would help her if she wanted an abortion. She told me that she wasn't happy and didn't want to have it but her boyfriend (A pill head) is brainwashing her into believing it is going to be so great to have a baby at 17. (He is 19)
I feel sorry for her but she should have been watching what she was doing. She had been on birth control pills but stopped. I really believe her B/F talked her into it. She does not know what she is getting into with that of a baby and her boyfriend.
She believes everything he says like he told her he quit snorting pills well he snorted one right in front of me and i told her and he said i was lying. They claim his mom bought an at home drug test and passed it so now my sister is saying he dosent do pills and more or less saying i'm lying.
He cussed our mom out like a dog (which i jumped his a$$ for) so that will be how he treats her and he seems like the type to hit on a girl.
But my sister is not ready, she dosen't really have the mind of an adult cause it is like she is asking everybody else what should she do.
My mom and dad have been married for 34 years and they had seven kids together and not one of us went without and our mom was always there for us so she didn't miss out on attention or love. We were never abused. So i don't undertsand how she thinks having a baby is going to make her life better right now.
But i don't know, i have talked my head off to her but i am done, she is going to have to deal with what she done.
2006-10-26 19:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No. I'm 19. I have one son (8months) and I care for my cousin (5yrs). My family has been caring (as in lives with us) for my cousin for the past two years. I wanted to have a child because I love children. I graduated at 16 with a 3.8 GPA. I got certified in phlebotomy and I'm now only 6 credits away from a degree in early childhood education. I feel loved by my family and my friends--I didn't have my child just to feel loved--I had my child because I felt ready. I do not use WIC, HUD, food stamps, or Medicaid. I don't use my parents either. Nothing was missing in my childhood--I actually had a great one! My parents are still married--I grew up able to travel the world and live a well cultured life.
My question to you is how can you determine when someone is emotionally ready to have a child? Isn't that up to the pregnant woman? It's not up for you to decide I've seen plenty of 30+ women who aren't "emotionally" ready yet still have children. Also how can you stereotype all teens into one catagory?
2006-10-26 19:03:56 · answer #2 · answered by .vato. 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it is so unhappy I in basic terms don’t understand what teenager’s issues are at the instant. beginning administration is greater handy then it replaced into in previous generations. There are even places you will get loose condoms and so on. yet on right here I examine ladies who have been given pregnant and admit that they used no protection. Its no longer even in basic terms young toddlers anymore, we've pre-young toddlers 11 and 12 year olds getting pregnant. Even sadder are people who purposely get pregnant at that youthful of an age, as though the toddler could have the final existence achievable being raised with the help of quite an insignificant toddler. I do appreciate many teenager mothers who've had their toddlers, taken care of them and long gone directly to end college , some even go directly to varsity, they have my utmost appreciate. i think undesirable for some toddlers, i understand there are some solid teenager mom and father, and that i understand there are older people who aren’t waiting for it. i understand a woman and her daughter almost 2 could have been lots greater efficient being located for adoption. the two the mum and father are properly no longer the sharpest knifes interior the draw. At almost 2 she doesn’t even understand some toddlers rhymes/songs that maximum young toddlers her age understand via fact their mom and father show them. Her mom and father infrequently even examine to her. while the toddler replaced into small she’d in basic terms go away her on the mattress who cares if she rolled away from mattress. customary to have a toddler at sixteen? I don’t think of so. additionally interior the USA of a you're an person at 18 years of age, no longer youthful except you get emancipation. So no a fifteen or sixteen year previous isn't almost an person.
2016-10-03 00:23:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First it's Babies second you do realize that this is nothing knew? way back in the day I mean like before my mothers time kids where marring at 12 having kids at 13 and even in my mother's day it was like that well not the marring part but and now adays you can't be married till your 16 and then they have a fit when some one has a kid at 13 yes I do believe that is too young of an age but it's been going on for over 100 years now and you yell at teenagers today for it? take a trip back 100 years or more dear!
2006-10-26 20:03:35 · answer #4 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can't even answer your question right now because I have to respond to something else in this thread. As an English major, grammatical disputes always get my attention. Now granted, Lolagirl didn't need to be so rude with it, but she's right. You asked "why do teenagers want to have baby's? "Baby's" with the apostrophe "s" is a possessive noun, as in "this is the baby's hat." You should have written "why do teenagers want to have babies?" The plural of "baby" is "babies." I just wanted to point this out. As to your question, I think teenage girls that get pregnant on purpose are a small minority. The majority of them either don't use birth control, use it incorrectly, or the birth control fails. Accidents can happen to anyone, teen or not.
2006-10-26 20:04:09 · answer #5 · answered by AshletD 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How I've observed it, teenage girls don't have kids on purpose. They don't use protection and as a result of it a child appears.
When I was in High School, there was a girl who did not graduate and had 3 kids in a 4 year span. She did not know the risks of pregnancy well enough for her 1st one, and afterwards, she thought she was grown up enough to have kids.
This brings me to my point, either it happens by accident, or it's just teenagers being teenagers, thinking that they are adults and making mistakes.
2006-10-26 19:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by wernerths 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why is it like so fricken wrong? I mean doesn't everyone want someone or something to love and be loved?
By the way retard--maybe you should learn english. Baby's isn't plural--it's spelled babies. Maybe you should have had kids--not the teenagers!
2006-10-26 19:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by Lola© 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm in my late teens and was extremely aware of contraceptives, used protection, and still got pregnant... its not the thing that girls want to get pregnant, contraceptives are not always effective......
2006-10-26 19:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by noonie1104 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Duh, yes. Some are from single parent households, and are seeking love.
Some are just girls with bad forms of birth control and while some choose to terminate their pregnancies others choose to keep their baby's. I find that more minorities do the latter and often get bad rap for being unwed parents. . .
2006-10-26 18:58:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because some of them are morons and believe that having a baby to
"love" them is going to solve all of their problems
2006-10-26 19:14:58 · answer #10 · answered by Ash S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋