My fiance and I have been together for 2 years, and we love each other very much. I just graduated nursing school and work full time plus, and he goes to school full time. We don't have much time together, but lately he has been going online and talking to other women. He says it means nothing, but that he gets lonely and needs someone to talk to. What can I do to get his attention and make the most of our time together? Is it a lost cause?
2006-10-26 18:46:43 · 10 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The fact that he has started looking elsewhere for company and companionship is not a good sign. You need to sit down and have a heart to heart with him so you know precisely where you stand.
Good Luck.
2006-10-26 18:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that it really bothers you and see what you need to do to keep him from being "lonely". If he persists, you need to decide if his behavior is unacceptable or not. Consider what sites he is "talking" with other women on, are they women he already knows, is he accessing dating sites?
To get his attention and make the most of your time with him, you should make an effort to be part of his life, do the things he likes to do, take interest in what he likes, be friends again (if this applies). Be like you were when you first met and fell in love. Good luck!
2006-10-27 01:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by kittykatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's "just lonely and needs someone to talk to" why can't he chat with guys online? How would he feel if you were chatting with other men online while he was away. Friendship can be great between opposite sexes, and remain platonic...but it can also go the other way. He can do other things online like play games, read, etc...also could get involved with community events and meet new friends
2006-10-27 01:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try making time for him even if it means that you just give him an hour out of your twenty-four hours. Make time no matter what you do and as well you should talk about it with him. He should be the one to come out and tell him how you feel about him chatting with other women on line. Try to have him talk to you in that time he is talking to on line. If you guys want to do something different then why don't you go on line and chat even if you wnat to start all over as buddies on line and keep your relationship okay.
2006-10-27 02:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The women he talk to online are fulfilling an emotional need of his that you have been neglecting. Everybody needs to get some attention and feel important or needed. Make him feel special now before he takes the next step with one of his online girlfriends. He will forget about them if you can grab his attention.
2006-10-27 01:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sure he's ready for marriage? He's not lonely, he's bored and looking for excitement and entertainment and sees it as safe because he's on his computer while your at work. Why isn't his *** cleaning, doing laundry, anything, to help you both? A young engaged man meeting strange WOMEN online, to talk, about WHAT? I betcha its the lonliness and how misunderstood, blah...they will dote on him. Anyway, he's intentionally putting himself and your relationship at risk by doing this. Or just quit your job and stay home to keep him company
2006-10-27 04:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by sara p. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never a lost cause if you want to stay together. Catch him off guard try to experience things together that will stay on both your minds when you are apart. Come up with ideas together. Send him freaky emails so when you get home he's waiting on you and thinking about you.
2006-10-27 01:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could say the same thing, that the men your chatting with doesn't mean anything, and see where that leads. You'll know your answer.
2006-10-27 01:49:14 · answer #8 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make time for him.
2006-10-27 01:49:28 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is lying and it is not you who can do anything to save the relationship it has to be him. he won't unlesss he wants to.
2006-10-27 02:31:52 · answer #10 · answered by Becky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋