After being with your spouse for more than eight years what was the last straw?
2006-10-26 18:44:09 · 13 answers · asked by serendipity_siren 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For me, the end came after 10 years of trying to be a good husband and father to my children. I had a demanding job, which did take a lot of my time, yet I was an excellent provider and when I was at home, it was good quality time, plus I'm good in bed. Oh, and humble too, right? :) One day my employer offered me an exciting promotion opportunity, but it would mean a relo. When I tried to discuss this possibility with my wife, she basically said; 'Hey, if you want to take the job, then go, but I'm not going with you. Why would I move across the country to feel more alone than I already do? You've been emotionally detached as a husband and a poor father.' I was floored, but that told me that we had grown apart. She didn't know me and I had somehow failed to demonstrate my commitment in my work translated to my commitment to our family. Notwithstanding, I didn't feel good about being blackmailed to stay and resented her opinion of my involvement as a great father. So, I took the promotion and left with the thought of seeing how I felt over a bit of time. I learned that our separation was for the best. I remain very close to my kids. In fact, they are privately more sympathetic towards me than my wife. Now my X has come to realized just how good she had it and regrets ever having taken such a position. If she thought she was unhappy before, now she is just plain miserable. Hey, she made her own bed, while I've moved on from it all. It's a good feeling to free and happy in my independence, not being made to feel like I'm failing to live up to some unappreciated expectations and obligations. My kids are coming of age now and she'll be alone soon. For her sake, I wish she would find happiness, but she lives in the past, so I know she won't. She's always been unhappy and will die that way. I'm just glad that I won't be suffering along with it. Enjoy life, as each day is a gift.
2006-10-26 20:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I got tired of being in a one sided relationship. He would always come off as the perfect, loving, husband and devoted father to family and friends but behind closed doors he was always so cold and distant. After a lot of therapy he saw what he was doing to our family and tried to change, but by then I'd had enough. And I had found out he was having an affair. But I was too. After all that we'd been thru together I thought it can't possibly get any worse now. We'd done every horrible thing to each other you can do to a person, and we still tried to maintain the family but it just wasn't there anymore.
2006-10-26 19:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by Dani L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom and dad were married for 30 years and then got a divorce. My dad battered my mom and she nagged him mercilessly. The last straw was when my dad fell in love with a woman my age. They divorced and my dad married her 3 days after the divorce was final. Now he's dead, and I think that she's the reason!!!!!
2006-10-26 18:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by quickspend 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The last straw, would be them having to put up with the same crap day after day... year after year, and that they found another.
2006-10-26 18:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by TamBam 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
After 30 plus years, vacations were taken without me....I never had one to this day.
2006-10-26 18:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by guardianofdoves 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Got married too young and grew apart as we grew up. Became more friends than husband and wife. Both needed more from that type of relationship. I do miss my friend though.
2006-10-26 19:38:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
couldn't tell you.I married my wife the day Karen Carpenter died and I can't seem to run her off!Won't tell you how many years we lived together before we finally married but,it was a while.wouldn't know what to do without her but,don't tell her that.
2006-10-26 18:54:59 · answer #7 · answered by jgmafb 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
15 yrs married, i became very ill. he got into an affair and left.
2006-10-27 03:43:38 · answer #8 · answered by draws_with_crayons 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There hasn't been one. I'm still married. Going on ten years.
2006-10-27 13:43:47 · answer #9 · answered by ~SSIRREN~ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lying, abusing children, being a pervert, spending money we didn't have-----
2006-10-26 19:35:52 · answer #10 · answered by wvmamaquack 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋