ive been w/ my bf for 2 yrs n counting never used protection but havent been able to conceive ive told him that i wanted to give him a baby but i dont know y i havent been able to conceive n i am afraid that there might be a prob with me he already has a 7 yr old n that sometimes makes me think that he doesnt want another baby i just want to give up can n e 1 give me some advice dont just tell me to c a dr....
2006-10-26 18:31:48 · 18 answers · asked by Lola 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
so yeah he wants a baby too... even his kid keeps asking for a sis or bro...
2006-10-30 03:05:30 · update #1
Perhaps it is divine intervention. God protects people in ways they don't understand. There is still time to come to your senses.
2006-10-26 18:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say you're not using protection, do you mean that you're activally trying to have a baby? Both of you? Only reason I ask is, if he doesn't want to have a baby, or doesn't know that you want to, is it possible he's using the "Pull-out" method? You may end up needing to see a fertility doctor. Are you scared of doctors, or have anything agaisnt them? The only way you're going to know 100% what's up with your body is by seeing a doctor. Nothing we post online is going to tell you why you're not pregnant. Are you calculating the time of the month you're able to concieve correctly? Are you even calculating at all? Do some reading, ask a doctor, and you'll know more. About you thinking he doesn't want one, plain out ask him. You can't be attempting to bring another life into this world if you're not absolutly sure that both parties want it. Sorry if it sounded like I was attacking you. It's late, lol.
2006-10-27 01:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by itskatyo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could chart your basal temperature to find out when you are ovulating or get an ovulation perdictor test. Concentrate your baby making efforts on ovulation days. Are you sure he hasn't had a vasectomy? Maybe he should see a dr. first.
If you are a young person and have normal periods there is no reason that you should not be pregnant after two years of unprotected sex.... if your reproductive system is healthy. I know you didn't want the "see a doctor" advice, but seeing a doctor may set your mind at ease or lead you on the road to getting the problem fixed (yours or his).
2006-10-27 01:37:55 · answer #3 · answered by joeanonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out ivillage.com for information on trying to conceive, learn your cycle. Then you may be more successful in pregnancy attempts. Statistically there is a 25% chance each month of getting pregnant without assistance, if you don't get pregnant in six months - see your doctor for a possible referral to fertility specialist. And don't worry, stress can be an inhibitor.
2006-10-27 02:33:11 · answer #4 · answered by Laur 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read your heading ..."I want to get pregnant..." and thought you were asking for volunteers ....lol
Maybe your trying too hard ... stress and the pressure of trying to concieve can be a great birth control method .... relax just enjoy what you have for now ... and if you're meant to fall pregnant then you will ....
Maybe prepare yourself for the possibility that you are unable to concieve .... but I don't want you any more stressed than you already are ....
I know you said not to but hey .... it really is best to go see a Dr:)
not to get pregnant (though I'm sure there are Dr's willing) but for a checkup ... oh hell ... you know what I meant ...lol
2006-10-27 01:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lola, to get pregnant you must have sex on a day that your eggs are being released.
After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex. Tell your boy friend to ejaculate on his inward thrust so that the sperms will shoot deep inside.
After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up with a pillow under your buttocks so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.
Get your boy friend to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 3 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.
2006-10-27 08:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by donp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call me old fashioned but I think you 2 need to be married, have a firm commitment to each other and become a legal family before you have a baby. With around half of all marriages splitting up you need the legal protection for you and baby if you were to split up.
2006-10-27 02:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god!!! sorry sounds like me...my fiance has a 7 year old also...been ttc for 2 yrs in january! but i do know he wants one just as bad as i do..just hasnt happened. Im going through it also..my dr. says nothing is wrong with either so its the try and wait game..it sucks! If you want to talk you can email me anytime at boowie1031@yahoo.com
2006-10-27 01:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by dnk0717 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Failing to conceive is Not open to Public debate!
But a Process that needs to begin with trained Personnel as your Guidance and support!
Fertility testing Must take place with both you!
The only place to get that is a Trained,Qualified Physician!
Stop procrastinating and get it sorted! For Your Own Sakes!!
2006-10-27 01:35:17 · answer #9 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking that before you do anything, you should talk to him first. If you're not even sure if he wants another baby then you shouldn't be trying, because then things could get messy. If he does indeed want another one, then sorry but you need to see a doctor. He/she will help you with all kinds of methods, if there even is something wrong. Good luck getting pregnant!
2006-10-27 01:34:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe both of you are stress out lately...
Try to relax,it also helps conceive easy
Loose weight
Eat balanced diet
"And ask him if he wants another baby"
Get ready for what he will says..
Have sex everyday...you never know when you are fertile..
and that is what my husband and i did...expectedly..I got pregnat and now I have 16month old daughter..
Goodluck for the both of you!
2006-10-27 02:54:10 · answer #11 · answered by carmela24ph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋