I have noticed so many women who's husbands left them and their children to be with another women? Why? I can understand divorcing your wife if she cheated, but if she never did and is a good person in general, why leave?
2006-10-26 18:09:34 · 15 answers · asked by faith 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Personality issues, infatuation can make a lot of people 'rush' into a marriage, not realizing that they really don't KNOW that person 100%, and suddenly the little idiosyncrasies bother the hell out of him, and then they can't deal with it, because there's arguments, and drama, and so then they need to find a safe haven, suddenly either 'waking up' and realizing it takes a thorough knowledge of one's personality, and true genuine love and commitment that makes it work....or they'll still be the ignorant dumbasses that keep lookin for the perfect p*ssy and will never be satisfied.
It works both ways. And just because someone is a good person in general doesn't mean a relationship will last. Differences in personality can be a b*tch, and miscommunication is also a relationship killer.
But then it also boils down to patience, nobody wants to try n make it work anymore. "oh damn she got a titty bigger than the other, i can't handle it i wanna divorce." or "damn she bitches and moans all damn day, and she won't give me head i wanna divorce" If they would actually have some PATIENCE, and actually TALK with their significant other, there wouldn't be as many divorces, because then as MATURE adults they'd communicate and work it out in a civil manner. If you can live and deal with your parents, brothers and sisters....for so many years, then why can't you live with your wife and be faithful? All the little things that bugged you about your family and yet you still stuck by them and loved them (well most of em.), it's the same concept with your wife...although in this case you're having sex with her.
The more people take the easy way out cause they wanna live life and have it their way, the more there will be divorces n ****...Americans are spoiled....the more you see stupid **** like the complaints and the immoral issues that surmount here, the more you know they either got too much time on there hands, and not enough to worry about to have dumbass problems like this....people need to wake up and get off their *** and have a better purpose than to have it their way or the highway without any effort or work.....need to EARN SOMETHING in their life for once.....damn.
2006-10-26 18:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by Dennis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one knows THE answer to this question. Even guys aren't sure. But, virtually all husbands entertain the notion more than once or twice in a marriage, regardless of how terrific their wife might be. The urge to leave is especially strong during the so-called mid-life crisis, which isn't limited to middle age. Marriage years 15-30 seem to be the toughest. After that, most marrieds seem to stay married for the duration. It has very little to do with another woman, although that almost always appears to be the focus of the problem. Leaving a wife and family is usually about something gone haywire with the guy. A wife can do a lot to help her husband get through these episodes by being kind, understanding, and supportive. But, ultimately, he may just go. All women should be prepared for that very sad reality.
2006-10-26 18:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no good reason to leave a wife in a situation like you mentioned in your question. All men are not cheaters or leavers... but those who are usually are the same kind of men who put their needs first. The same kind of men who go through mid life crisis. A lot of men all of a sudden decide they can upgrade after their wife has either helped then through school or half way raised their kids. Men take women for granted. Most men grow up lusting after the cheerleader, the homecoming queen, or some version of that fantasy. Say a man could not attract those girls in school, but in mid-life perhaps with some money or power, he may be able to attract the Barbie of his teenage dreams... that is what happens. So men leave the women that really love them for the woman that they lust after... It won't last and a man will realize that he is a putz.
2006-10-26 18:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
divorced guys divorce wife
2016-03-28 08:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like that old saying, the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence....
Problem with that is, once you leave and divorce your wife for someone else, your wife and kids are now on the other side of the fence.....
The problem isn't the wife.....
2006-10-26 18:17:10 · answer #5 · answered by Midnight Runner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because sometimes parents are just better for there children when the marriage bond is no longer.
My ex husband and I are far better parents now, than then.
My boyfriend and his ex-wife fell out of love with each other they are still friends, and they parent there children wonderfully.
Sometimes there is more going on than meets the eye. Marriage is a two way street that gets hard to walk when the other person isn't walking also.
2006-10-26 18:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by washington_maverick 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Good Question. I think that in today's society, Men and Women to be fair have forgotten the real meaning of marriage. When the going gets tough, the tough look for the easy way out. People aren't even getting married hardly anymore. They just shack up. Personally, I believe that since we have moved into a seccular progressive society, people have taken God out of the home and out of the marraige, and without God in a marriage, there is no hope for it to last. We as humans, are too easily tempted without us asking for His help, and following His commandments. If a Man really believed in God and followed his commandments, he wouldn't be putting himself into a situation to be with other women. He wouldn't be looking at porn and thinking that he is missing out on something, comparing his life to a fake one in magazines. He would be putting his family first, ahead of his libido, but his wife would also be putting his happiness before hers, so if that means paying attention to her hubby sexually when he wants it, it keeps him from having a roving eye and out of trouble. When you learn to keep each other happy that is what keeps the Marriage going, and God helps you do that.
2006-10-26 18:17:42 · answer #7 · answered by The Nag 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
many divorce when they find a younger.woman. and many divorce a woman when they find out she has cheated on them in a study by many centers around the world . it was proven that women cheat more than men now. . my opion
2006-10-26 18:45:38 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women divorce their husbands too, it's just men don't go on and on about it like women do that's why you don't hear as much about it.
2006-10-26 18:11:14 · answer #9 · answered by Abs 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That may be what you see on the surface but obviously there is more going on in the relationship that you are not aware of.
There must be more going on otherwise they wouldn't leave. It's usually far more complicated than what you're saying.
2006-10-26 18:15:03 · answer #10 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋