My ex and I are not talking and haven't since 4and 1/2 months pregnant. She did'nt even tell me she had my daughter. All of a sudden she starts to let me see the baby every now and the and after I filed for rights she quit communication. She is mad again and not answering. I know hormones and influence are heavy into this problem, but after I start to get my daughter for the weekends, will she change and or possibly come back??? No stupid replys please.
2006-10-26 18:09:18 · 17 answers · asked by johnny d 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It sounds to me like you have done something to cause her to be angry with you. Hormones are one thing, but to deny your child their father is something totally different. I sense that there may be more to this story.
2006-10-26 18:16:26 · answer #1 · answered by munkees81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you TRULY want to be a good father then don't use your child to attempt to get your ex wife back. The child has/had nothing to do with your marriage or it's failure and you are NOT being a good father by wanting to put the child in the middle of it. I really doubt your wife will return to you because she obviously can't trust you to do the right thing rather than what you want to do to get your own way...You have made that clear right here.
2006-10-27 02:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG that is SO SAD! Yes I believe that showing the baby's mom that you are a loving daddy could help- unless she's a total B***. My boyfriend and I were having problems as well until my daughter was born but she brought us so close- we needed each other and caring for our daughter together brought the love back into our relationship. Good luck.
2006-10-27 02:39:15 · answer #3 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be bad to say no. She may come back, but for all the wrong reasons. Would you really want her back, if it was just for your daughter, and not for both of you? I mean, for her to come back now, would it only be to make your daughter happy? or would it really be for your relationship and family. But on the other hand, she might realize what she is missing, and may want to fix it, and if thats the case, why now?Why not while she was pregnant. And why not tell you of the birth, if she had intentions to return? I dont want to tell you what to think, but since you asked for an opinion, mine would be, doubtful, or maybe yes but for all the wrong reasons. Sorry..
2006-10-27 01:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by littledsboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants to let u see ur daughter, but isnt ready to let u have her by court orders.
Just go with the flow, see ur daughter when ur ex lets u, and be grateful for a while. Talk to her about it perhaps..
Just tell her ur their for her and u wanna help out where u can. She will take it into consideration.. Dont push her, the stress of a baby is diffucult.
No I dont have children, but have friends in a similar curcumstance''
goodluck and best wishes to you
2006-10-27 01:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by ca4btts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, it sounds like you really do want to be a good Dad....focus on that and not "her". She may not be the best thing for you by the sounds of her actions. People have written telling you not to use your baby as a "pawn" ....well, to me it sounds like that's what Mom is doing...not you.
Just be a good Dad ....babies and kids need a Dad. You are the most influential person in your daughter's life......studies show that DAD is the most influential in a girl's life, not MOM. So rise to the occasion! Have fun!
2006-10-27 01:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in movies, not reality.
that's real talk
if you want "what you want to hear"
i'll tell you she'll come running back,
but i'd be giving you unreasonable hope
A little light at the end of the tunnel....
it really depends on what it is that caused the
seperation to begin with
plus....
at the risk of sounding like a chick, you really ought
to be the best dad possible regardless of the
mom's situation - you sound like you've got your
head on straight; just make sure the child doesnt
become a political tool
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i may not get the thumbs up, but
i give advice i'd be willing to reciprocate, and follow
2006-10-27 01:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you two really care about the baby, then you will get married and stay together until the baby turns 18 years of age. A child in a home with his/her mother and father is raised with fewer problems. Bottom line is do it for the kid, not yourself. Make sure your wife knows that too.
2006-10-27 01:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ANYTHINGS POSSIBLE, BUT YOU NEED TO ASK YOURSELF IS IT WORTH IT. THINK ABOUT THE REASON WHY YOU TWO BROKE UP. WAS IT A SILLY REASON AND THAT YOU BELIEVE THINGS COULD BE WORKED OUT? IF SO, SHE JUST MAY REALIZE THAT SHE WANT TO GIVE IT ANOTHER TRY. I DON'T KNOW IF BEING A GOOD FATHER WILL BRING THE MOTHER BACK TO YOU, BUT IT WOULD SURE MAKE YOU A HECK OF A MAN. CONTINUE TO TAKE CARE OF THAT BABY AND LET NATURE TAKE ITS COURSE.
2006-10-27 01:20:00 · answer #9 · answered by PRECIANA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep seeing your daughter and try your damnedest to be the best father you can be to her, and don't worry about if the mom comes back, what matters now if your relationship with your little girl.
2006-10-27 01:19:25 · answer #10 · answered by nanners040477 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋