she has been raped multipal times by someone that lives with her, she has just comeout today and told me, but she doesnt want me to tell anyone or do anything about it, what do i do??? i really care about her and dont want her hurt :( :(
2006-10-26 18:06:44 · 17 answers · asked by The Man 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
why the **** you asking us, you pussy!..
2006-10-26 18:09:52 · answer #1 · answered by Manatee 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If she told you , that's really good. Inside her she really wants to escape from it, but she may be afraid or ashamed. Get a professional to talkt to her. A social worker or a police officer that knows what they're doing. It takes a lot of delicacy to approach these people. Best thing working for you would be to catch him in the act and call 911! She needs to know there is help. And that it's not her fault. And that she doesn't have to let it hapen over and over again! This is a country that protects the innocent still! Take advantage of that!
2006-10-26 18:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by Pivoine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell an adult-NOW. I can understand she doesn't want anyone to know; obviously she is afraid and possibly ashamed. Sometimes to be a real friend, you do have to tell and this is one of those times. She may not like it for you telling what you know for now, but she will appreciate it in the end, just don't go around telling everyone you see. Good luck to you and her.
2006-10-26 18:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by rosey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The urge to get a few mates together and beat 17 kinds of shyt out of him must be overwhelming.....however.....go to the police yourself and ask for advise from them. She doesn't have to know initially.
I would also suggest you talk to a doctor. Tell them what is happening. Then you may be able to convince your girl to see the doc to get tested for STD's and any serious damage. Don't tell her this but once the doc see's the damage he/she is obliged to report it in some cases. Once the police are involved they can be very helpful and may have better luck at convincing her to press charges......make sure you talk to the doctor first and tell him/her whats happening because once they see the damage their first assumption will be that it was you.
Also get her out of where she is NOW...have her stay with you if you have to.
After all this she may be angry with you to start but she will thankyou once its all over.
2006-10-26 18:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You tell someone anyway. If you are not adults, you tell her parents or another trusted adult. If you are adults or that isn't an option, you go to the police. She will be mad at you, perhaps; she will likely be ashamed and embarrassed. But she needs help, and her telling you is her BEGGING you to get her out of that situation. It needs to be taken care of, now, and if you care about her you cannot allow her to be in that situation.
2006-10-26 18:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by N 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She needs to tell someone who can help, a counselor, a police officer, or a rape crisis center. Until she is willing to tell, there is little anyone can do.
2006-10-26 18:10:25 · answer #6 · answered by housemouse62451 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well .... looks like you already told about a gazzillion people in here
NOW go and tell someone that can do something about it
Even if she hates you for a little while for telling ... in the long term you'll both be better off ... and with a little luck the offender will end up in jail
2006-10-26 18:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you ought to objective to get her to flow to a place that provides unfastened counseling for women that are raped. what shade became the release? a super splash of discharge isn't good. attempt to talk her into going to be certain a doctor.
2016-11-25 22:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by getts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report it to the police because this will traumatize her for the rest of her life if there is no intervention
2006-10-26 18:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by ShellyBelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to help her is tell someone who can help rape is a serious thing she should go to the doctor to get checked out
REMEMBER TELL SOMEONE BEFORE SOMETHING BAD HAPPENS
2006-10-26 18:11:00 · answer #10 · answered by Demarciee G 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u could secrectly find out who is doing that she is probaly already hurt i would it if it was me ask ur parents if she can move in with you n get n avo or wateva they r called on her family so they can't get her bak
2006-10-26 18:11:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋