why don't my baby sleep?

Question

my baby is 3 months old.. gets up about 3-4 times a nite.. and she only sleeps like 20 min evry 3-4 hrs.. is this normal

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Do you mean 20 minutes every 3-4 hours during the day? Or is that around the clock? For days, it's rough on you, but okay for baby. At night, it's normal for babies to wake up several times at 3 months, especially if breast feeding. If she only sleeps 20 minutes at a time 'round the clock, something might be wrong. Check with your doc.

Answer 3

This can be very normal. But you can start training her now to sleep through the night. If you are breasfeeding make sure you avoid caffine and the like after lunchtime so she isn't getting her dose of it at bedtime. Wake her right before you go to bed and feed her again even if it isn't her normal time to eat. Don't let her sleep to long during the day. She should be able to go 3 1/2 to 4 hours between the start of one feeding to the start of the next. If not start making her wait an additional 15 minutes every meal for 3 or 4 days until she gets adjusted then add addional 15 minutes as necessary to get her feeding on schedule. Don't let her sleep thru her daytime feedings. See that she isn't too hot and waking up or too wet. Start putting her to bed drowsy but not yet asleep so she'll learn to sleep without you holding her also.
Good luck

Answer 4

Finally another mom who is in the same boat as me. I am a breastfeeding mom, my 3 month old will not sleep much either. I am lucky at night to get her in bed by 12, and then she's back up like clock-work 2-5-7-9 and then up til 11ish back down until 1 and boom another 2-3 hours for awakeness and fussiness with it. And she recently started not going to sleep unless i cradel her in my arms, or close to my chest. And this makes it tuff for take care of our other children 2& 4.. I think i run on a mommy mode or something, because there are times i fall asleep at a red-light. And my husband works days, schools night. And i am taking internet courses, and let me tell you, tuff on the brain. So, if its not normal, then someone lead me the way to it being normal.

Answer 5

That is actually normal, though it is irritating. My 20 month-old has just recently started sleeping 4-6 hour stretches at night. He only naps for more than 30 minutes if he is being held.

A GOOD book on the subject is "The No-Cry Sleep Solution" it is a life saver to many parents and doesn't involve your baby screaming themselves into a stupor.

Answer 6

WOW!!! my kids baby has been sleeping through the night since she was 2 months old, but what i would try is to keep her awake as long as you or whomever is watching her throughout the day, then at night do the same, wake her up around 8pm and keep her up for an hour or so, whether she is crying or whatever, but then feed her a nice warm bottle, and then put her to sleep..GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 7

You need to put her on a night time sleep schedule there is a great book that my daughter used and it said to just let the baby cry. Go into the room and comfort her don't pick her up and then leave do this every night for about three night and she will start sleeping though the night It is hard to just let let her cry but it is needed. also try not to disturb her sleep schedule for the day. Do get this book listed below it saved my daughter sanity with her third child.

Answer 8

Wow- rough on you. :( No I don't believe it's normal and I think you should speak with your dr about it. She should be going in for a well-child check up soon right? Ask then. You could try about 1-2 tbsp of rice cereal in her bottles (what is she taking at each feeding- like 6 oz?) and maybe that will help. But be careful and stay near the first time you give it to her in case her tummy can't handle it she will throw up. This can also cause constipation.

Answer 9

Does she sleep during the day? Does she cry while she is awake? Does she eat good? Does she seems sick or like she's not as active as she normally is? Answer these questions and then I could possibly help.

Answer 10

Every baby is different! I was so sick of hearing that, but it's true. Your baby is normal feed her and hold her, make her feel safe. Eventually she will sleep longer. Really, she will.

For you: sleep when she sleeps. Invite friends over so you can take naps.

good luck

Answer 11

Normal.but 2o mins 3-4 hours?that is al little bit unnormal.