I am in such a bad situation! I have been with my Bf for 5 years, got engaged 2yrs ago; we moved in about 10 months ago he cheated on me on the 5th month. I left the country for a few weeks i was very hurt, still am. He begged me to give him a second chance, my stupid $%# is giving him a second chance. He is behaving like a charm. A few week ago I saw the girl he was seeing (when he was cheating on me) by cheating I mean sleeping with. Seeing her made me re-think his second chance.... what the F@##$ I am doing? Obviously, I have feeling for this person.... but I think i should move on. I so confuse!
2006-10-26 17:38:46 · 10 answers · asked by vp 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
tell him you need to talk. He needs to know that you are never going to get over the fact that he cheated on you. That this relationship ended when he chose to spend time with another women. Tell him that you have realized you are way to good for him and you need to move on. That you will always care about him, but you just don't love him anymore and for you to stay with him it wouldn't work for either one of you.
2006-10-26 17:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by girlio33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then move on. I know it's hard to let go, but better than waiting until you are in any deeper. You haven't married him yet, so it's ok to break it off now. Even if you HAD already married, it's STILL grounds for divorce. And this wasn't just sex, it was a whole relationship, which means that you two are not the right combination for a long term relationship. You will make some great guy a great wife someday, but you won't find him if you stay with the wrong guy. And of course you care about him. But that's why you have to be honest now rather than making it worse later on.
I recommend you cancel the engagement outright. Don't stay too long, it will only get harder to leave. Move out to your own apartment and see how it feels. Sometimes we stay in part because it has become too comfortable. Break away a step at a time if you can't do it all at once. Tell your good friends so they can support you. It will help you make the right decision easier. You'll be happy you did.
Good luck!
2006-10-27 00:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by kim b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's behaving like a charm? If you have to monitor, or control a man like he's your 5 year old boy toy....somethin is seriously wrong. This is where you have to have a long talk with the dude.
But before that, HONESTLY ask yourself is this the dude you want to give all your trust love and stuff to? You must love him since you took his *** back....but some things can be quite unhealthy.
So tell him, since secrets and deception is what broke you up in teh first place, let this be the last straw, let ALL THE SECRETS out....all of them, every dirty bad tramatic secret out..because why would you hide anything from people you love? If you were a man or woman you'd take responsibility for you actions and accept what was done in the past...what you got to lose? In his case if he ain't honest it's over. In your case if you can show honesty then his *** better show the same.
To make it easy.....without all that explanation. Just tell him you're not feeling him, you tried but the love is gone, and instead of pretending and making OUR lives worse becaus i don't truly love you, it's better we separate, what woudl you rather have, me pretend i love you and then cheat on you back....or just separating so the hurt isn't as bad and we can be happier somewhere else (since his sorry *** didn't have a problem venturing elsewhere). So that'd be my advice....
2006-10-27 00:51:21 · answer #3 · answered by Dennis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you should take sometime apart. So you can clearly think about what YOU really want. On the other hand, if he hasn't done anything wrong, since then, you shouldn't blame him. Everyone deserves a second chance, but if he messes up after that, then drop him like a hot potato. You really need to sit down and talk to him about how your feeling. Girl he just may be open to hear how you feel and then you guys can move pass this. But stand firm on want you want and if he doesn't come threw, then you know what to do,lol. Peace!
2006-10-27 00:53:23 · answer #4 · answered by KIA B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the reason for us for having someone in our life is to make us happy but in ur case by not feeling gud with him means u need to move on with ur life.
just tell him straight what u feel and what u want to happen
u should be honest to him rather than stay in a relationship hurting
remember that if things didn't work out the way we plan we can always accept our mistakes and CHANGE our situation
its all in ur hand - how we can be happy in life is just a matter of CHOICE
2006-10-27 00:55:00 · answer #5 · answered by radha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you still care for him, let it go for awhile, anything suspicious - approach him right away. Is he communicating well with you? Just watch for any bad signs I guess.
2006-10-27 00:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by dogriver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
face to face and give him a big slap with mark on his face....
but u have to calm down first....
think properly as u have engaged... ask for his explaination
2006-10-27 00:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by yang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out and move on.
2006-10-27 00:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't give him any chance anymore, dump him. totally he is not honestl to you,
if he loved you it could with no reason,
but if he doesn't love you, he will find out thousand reasons to reject you.
2006-10-27 00:48:08 · answer #9 · answered by cecilia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its working,
for him.
if it takes the advice of one to get you to believe it:
"men are scum"
you've now can believe.
cheaters play their hand for as long as they've got it.
you, in this case, are the hand.
...
2006-10-27 00:40:29 · answer #10 · answered by oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋