2006-10-26 17:38:23 · 22 answers · asked by lita ozzy bear 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Find someone whom you are compatible with, who is honest, loyal and trustworthy. Keep your relationship in the courting phase even after you marry. Never allow yourself to have a negative thought about your partner and he should do the same. And read Ephesians to model your marriage after what God intended. Have fun together, laugh, be silly, forgive, focus on what the person brings to your relationship and what made you fall in love with him in the first place and over look all his quirky little habits that can be annoying at times. Do this and you have a chance at being the 50% of people who marry and don 't divorce. Good luck.
2006-10-26 17:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
God + man + woman = best chance for a lasting marriage.
Through praying together, the heart can be known. When the heart is heard, intimacy is experienced. The resources of divine grace and love go untapped when a couple does not include God in their relationship. Without God, we’re limited to our own human abilities — which usually fail.
Statistics show only 1 in 1,500 couples that pray together actually divorce. When you argue, imagine that this will be your last day together on this earth. Now, is that topic worth arguing over? If not, negotiate, compromise, or just drop it. Eliminate the word "divorce" from your vocabulary. It is NOT an option.
It takes two to make a marriage spiritually intimate. It is a joint effort — not a do-it-yourself project. Church attendance has to be a joint effort—you both need to be there. Look for a church that you both LOVE! The effort is worth it.
"Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged."
1 Corinthians 13:4-5
God bless you and your marriage!
2006-10-27 01:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by Annamaria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are open, honest and will compromise with each other then yes... If one (more than the other) puts God first then no... Your commitment is to each other not to God... I say this because your concept of God may be different than your partner's concept of God.
I am married 27+ years.. and been together 32+years... We have had both good and bad times during all these years but the thing that got us through it all is that (when it comes down to it) it becomes (and my apologies to the old Helen Ready song) it is "just you and me against the world!"
2006-10-27 00:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by Dan J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you make God the center of your marriage and are open and honest with each other, it will strengthen your marriage and God will bless your marriage. My wife and I have been married now for 10 years and our marriage is getting stronger all the time, because we made God the Center of our marrige. I hear it all the time, it takes 2 to make a marriage work, I disagree, I believe that it takes 3, a husband, a wife and God.
2006-10-27 00:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer: yes
Longer answer: yes, and also committed to the institution of marriage. People stay married because they want to. If they want to stay married, they find ways to do that. Ultimately what you find out is that to stay married, you have to be friends. Friends are first and foremost kind to each other. There are certain things one friend would never do to another. Don't do those things. That, along with your formula, as stated, can create a marriage that will last forever.
2006-10-27 00:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some wonderful marriages.
My sister has one. When they got married they
made an agreement to not demean each other, not argue, not yell, not be bitter and angry.
They have been married 27 years and they still hold hands. They love each other more each year. I have never heard them argue. They have a great deal of respect for each other.
I see there relationship as what I would like to have
2006-10-27 01:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing last forever, but with gods help it cant hurt you & your partener may not b compatable 4 a long term relationship it just might not b there 4 at this time,but you could accomplish some beutiful things for ex. 1. great friendship 2.beutiful kids ect.........,so nothing last forever ,but theres always some good out of everything
2006-10-27 00:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by bigddub06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a work in progress, its a journey with its destination in heaven. As long as you BOTH work on it it will most likely survive. And yes God is important and compromise is important, but I think dialog and understanding is key.
good luck,
Pete (29th wedding anniversary)
2006-10-27 00:51:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes GOD should always come first and honesty is half the battle if you follow the bible teachings then all should be ok we all sin but the bible keeps us from sin and sin keeps us from the bible sounds like you have the right ideas and is in the right place but there is jest as much devorce in church as out of church counsiling helps before marrage and after if needed through out your life best get a husband that beleives in counsiling as most dont and devorce is inament and a husband with same beleifes and will njot keep you from church or GOD
2006-10-27 00:44:21 · answer #9 · answered by polkahaunis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats the plan and the proper way to do it! It should.
Its not always easy so remember, you vowed for bettor or worse so you don't bail out during a worse time. Hopefully there won't be many if you do all you said. God bless your marriage.
2006-10-27 00:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by suzyQ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋