is it ok to have my kids so close in age?

Question

my daughter is 3 months old and she was 2 1/2 months premature now im pregnant again. do u think this is a good thing or what? i dont know what to think

Answer 1

Hi! I also discovered that I am pregnant again (this is my third month) and my daughter is almost 8 months old. I was pretty freaked out about it when I found out. And I was feeling extremely negative about it especially due to the fact that the first trimester makes you feel so exhausted. I was thinking that there is no way I can handle this! But in the past week or so I started feeling less tired and now have a better outlook on things.
It's going to be tough definitely! Most women in this situation would have to put their work on hold and be full time mommy's for a while. But I honestly believe that everything happens for a reason and God doesn't give us more than we can handle. Also with the children being so close in age they will have a similar schedule and it will take time but I believe a routine can be made.
And to those who criticize this every situation is different! In my story I experienced infertility for a year and half. I finally got into a good doctor who put me on hormone therapy and got pregnant with my first (I never thought I would have her and definitely thought she would be the one and only child!)... Anyhow, after having my baby I assumed that my previous female problems would return and didn't bother to think about birth control of any sort. And BOOM here I am fertile myrtle!
God has a reason for everything and every child is a miracle. Don't punish yourself about this it was meant to be. It's also a lot more common than you think.
In the meantime, spend as much time with this baby as you can but also try to gradually prepare her for the upcoming changes. For example when she is six months old, try to get her into a pattern of entertaining herself a little as it will be crucial once the next baby arrives. And keep in mind that if this child was higher maintenance then it doesn't necessarily mean that the next will be the same. You will do fine and congrat's to another mommy in the same boat as me!

Answer 2

My kids are 14 months apart. My son is 3 weeks old and my daughter is not even 15 months old yet. I am run ragged- I'm terribly exhausted and I'm trying very hard to maintain my cool. I also have an almost 7 year old. Thank god I'm a stay at home mom or else I'd really be having a hard time. I hope it gets better because I am now an insomniac. I sleep an average of 1 1/2 to 2 hours a night... and really that's from 7 am until like 8 or 9 am. I've become quite scatter brained. but I am happy and I love my kids and I wouldn't change anything for the world. It is hard...but so very well worth it. And I'm sure it will get better in another few weeks. I think/hope my kids being so close in age will make them be good friends.

Answer 3

You better plan on being on a lot of bed rest! If your last baby was 2 1/2 early then your body obviously can't withstand the stress of pregnancy. My boys were almost 7 weeks early then I got pregnant when they were 4 mo. old. I almost lost my daughter twice in the first trimester. I was on bed rest on and off the whole pregnancy, not to mention completely exhausted from the babies + pregnancy. You can do it, It will just take everything you've got to pull it off though.

But as to your question "Is it right?" Yeah, now that my kids are a little older and can all play together it's great! They are all best friends. They will be so close growing up. After the first few months you will see what a blessing having them close together really is!

Answer 4

Well, to each their own. I had my first two 23 months apart. My second and third, 22 months apart. I have 3 month old, 2 yr, and 4 yr old. I wouldnt have it any other way, NOW. But if i was given the chance i would of had them all 12 months apart, thus, sharing clothes, toys,bottles, etc. And i could potty train all together. That would be great. Instead i have one in pre-school, one in potty training, and one breastfeeding and diapering. STRESSFUL... no matter what any one says, it is a blessing to have them all close. Even if its a toll on our bodys as the con, the pro- is better!! Congrats

Answer 5

I don't think it is a problem having kids that close.It will be alot of extra work. I have 3 boys who are ages:6 Bday June,4 bday April and 2 bday November. I also have a 10.5 month old daughter bday December and I am due in Feb 2007(anotherboy).Its alot of work and patcience. I kinda wish their ages were spread out abit but what can I do it's all ready done.Good luck.

Answer 6

My first 2 kids are a year and a day apart. At first it was a little rough, all those diapers - yikes! But each year it got easier. They did everything one right after the other, feeding and then dressing themselves, potty training, etc. And they were close developmentally so they were into the same things for a long time as far as toys, games and movies. They always had a playmate which was really cool. Enjoy it, it's fun!

Answer 7

my kids are 12m 11days apart. 1)their are health risks because your body is not healed from 1st pregnancys 2)its harder than hell having them this close 3) your probably gonna need to take sleeping pills after second baby sleeps night through cause your body will be so use to not sleeping its next to impossible to sleep at all no matter how tired you are. now for the good news 1) you get everything over with at once sleepless nights diaper etc etc 2) hand me downs are still in style by the time the next xhild is ready to wear them and toys are easily shared 3) I beleve the closer the age the closer the bond. 4) you wont have to deal with jeliousy

Answer 8

It's great. This way you'll have them going through the same things together, they will always have a playmate, and the older one will be able to better help out the younger one--when they are older of course!

My sister and I were born 1 year and 24 days apart. So my mom got pregnant about the same amount of time after my sister was born as you did. I've asked her before about it and she's always said it was great!

Answer 9

That's totally up to you. They will have a really close relationship since they are close in age. But on the other hand finding daycare for one is hard enough now you have 2.

Answer 10

If you can take it then I think it's quite great actually. I believe it's very good for a child to have a sibling who's not much older or younger because this allows them to be able to relate to each other more and interact better. One thing's for sure, they will have a very fun childhood. Just make sure you take care of yourself for the sake of your children.