i received a letter from my sons fathers new wife, she is pregnant now. this is the statement i'm not sure would be considered abuse; "He wants this baby, say when he found out you were preg.he didnt want that. He never wanted a baby with you but had to deal with it the best he know how."
2006-10-26 17:33:43 · 31 answers · asked by moonbeamerz9 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
his dad has gone as long as 7 weeks with out seeing him.
2006-10-26 17:45:24 · update #1
no, we were never married. and according to her, i meant nothing to him
2006-10-26 17:47:08 · update #2
this isn't the first time she's tryed to erk me
2006-10-26 17:51:19 · update #3
so do you think i should report her to yahoo for harrasment?
2006-10-26 17:53:04 · update #4
zether, u clearly don't know about this. no offence. it would be emotional abuse
2006-10-26 18:05:57 · update #5
i do save all of the e-mails she sends. and if his father ever takes me to court for any reason, this will look very bad on him. she is totally ignorant to say something like that. there is no way i will ever hurt my son by telling him about it. thanks for all your support.
2006-10-27 16:51:11 · update #6
It's not abuse, but if she does continue to send you messages like that or continue to try to get a reaction out of you in some other way it is harassment. Remember to keep anything she sends you. If she says things to you write it down as soon as possible and remember to include date and time. You will need these things if you ever decide to take legal action against her.
2006-10-26 17:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is just jealous of you and is trying to get a reaction out of you.She is extremly imature too. What kind of adult would do that. She sounds like a freaken dork. I would call it harassment really. If she keeps it up then you could do something about it. Keep the letter and others that follow.If anything, I would tell her that you are flattered by her jealousy and worried about your son being around someone as childish as her.... It is awful that your ex go's so long without seeing your son. He sounds like a loser too. If I were you I would just concentrate on being the adult and helping your son through this crap about his dad. I hope all go's well for you..
2006-10-26 17:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't consider it abuse, hurtful yes, but not abuse. Maybe she is feeling jealous because you were the one to make him a father first.I would concentrate more on how the father treats your son then any of her words. or you could show him the letter and ask him about it, if he did say something like that to her, he probably said it in confidence and would be upset that she wrote it back to you.
2006-10-26 17:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by victoria E. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not abuse, Sounds like a woman who is jealous of your son,
maybe your ex didn't want another kid and told her so when they got married
You would show it to your son's father and ask him what if your son had opened and read that letter, how does he think he would feel.
2006-10-26 17:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by bizzyboneissexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok the new wife is evidently childish you just share a child with him you aren't trying to marry him you have moved on women like her you have to ignore and when you have to come in contact with her kill her with kindness its what has worked with my Husbands ex who seems to be mad as hel l at me because he divorced her I never even knew the man until after they were divorced for over 6 yrs,if it were me to be honest I would send her a little note and simply say congrats but your pregnancy is of no importance to me tell her that you are only concerned about your child that you share with her Husband also your child isn't going anywhere so she just needs to get over it,I think it is sad it almost sounds like shes jealous of your child because he is the first born.
2006-10-26 18:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well either that's what he tells her or she's a bit jealous and feels a need to personally attack you. I wouldn't consider abuse, I would consider it disrespectful. If I were you, I'd say something. Not only is she disrespecting you, but she's disrespecting your son. How would he feel if he ever got ahold of that letter?
2006-10-26 17:54:12 · answer #6 · answered by munkees81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does yahoo have an ignore button?
If so I would put a Big Ignore on her,
she sounds like trouble and drama waiting
to happen.
Would I worry about what she says No....
Talk to him not her.
As far as her emails there is also a big block button.
Good Luck
2006-10-26 18:42:33 · answer #7 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah that isn't abuse, that's more her bein a straight up B*TCH. Be the better woman and ignore it, what goes around comes around...as long as you have your son then that's all that matters. I don't know what is UP with the woman on woman hatin but it happens. Vicious.
2006-10-26 17:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal divorce BS. Is it abuse --- no not really. Is it harrassment? --- maybe. Depending on who sits in judement , it could be abuse, probably is harrassment to some degree, and is definatelt the norm for people involved in a separation/divorce. My opinion, ignor the BS catty stuff and move on.
2006-10-26 21:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by daddyspanksalot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I wouldn't consider that abuse...it's more like harassment and she is really trying to rub it in your face to get a reaction out of u. Ignore her for now but if she continues to do this to u, file for harassment charges on her.
2006-10-26 17:50:28 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋