is it possible to have a serious relationship with a drug addict? why or why not?
2006-10-26 17:28:22 · 18 answers · asked by CINDY R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have been in a relationship with one for over a year..and trust me its very hard..i have noone to talk to..i guess im just liiking for friends with some imput..so all you smart a s ses out there..answer another question
2006-10-26 17:34:24 · update #1
It can be, but you would have to be comfortable with the fact that you would always be second in their life. Their first love would always be the addiction.
2006-10-26 17:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No. A recovering/recovered addict yes. This is purely because anyone that has an addiction to a detrimental substance or action (as is the case with gambling) is never going to show you their true personality. An addict always wears a mask and hides behind their addiction. Their loyalty is always to the drugs or whatever habit they are addicted. You will never be able to compete. The sad fact is, they're not addicted to you (and even if they were, the relationship wouldn't be a healthy one). You need to find someone who is independent of all substances and whose mind has not been hijacked.
Seeing as you're already in a relationship with one I guess all you can do is be as strong as possible and provide support, reassurance and a positivity towards rehabilitation. The most important thing for you is to not allow yourself to be pulled into the spiral of drugs which is much more difficult than it seems. You need to be the one to provide a clear example of how much better life can be without drugs.
2006-10-26 17:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by Kble 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible for you to have a serious relationship but not the addict. You would be amazed and horrified at the lengths addicts go to for a fix. This is also very dangerous for you in many ways
1. Eventually you will be pressured to do drugs as well.
2. Drug dealers are mean heartless people when you piss them off. They dont care who they hurt or how they do it.
3 If your partner ever gets caught with drugs in your house you are in big trouble as well.
4 Addicts can be very aggressive when coming off a drug.
I could go on and on. My dad is a drug addict and has ruined every girls life he has entered. He even got a girl so hooked he prostituted her for crack. Get out while you can. Nothing good can come of this.
2006-10-26 17:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by Kari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship yes... A serious one NO.... I have been there done that. It doesn't matter if it is drugs, alchol, pills, they are all addictions. and you will always be the one that takes all the shyt for them. Everything that goes wrong will be your fault because they will say they were not in their right mind. What about when they get busted you get busted too.. GET OUT as soon as you can, find someone that only has one addiction, YOU!!!
2006-10-26 18:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by knlsmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not. they may love you and want to be with you. but when they become an addict, the drugs are the first thing and most important thigns in their life. this should be the person they love, not the drugs. as a result they you may sometimes get in the way of what they want, thus hurting you. so to answer your question, NO
2006-10-26 17:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't possible to have a relationship with a drug addict because the drug will always be more important than you. And leopards can't change their spots. One compulsive behavior will lead to another.
Just my thoughts.
2006-10-26 17:43:46 · answer #6 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOPE...
unless they want to get help...(and this is NOT you telling them to get help). it wont work.
You will always have to worry about the money....what will he take from the funds this week...What kinds of friends does he have, all kinds of things...and it sucks because you most likely love the man...I'm sure I'm right. I was married to one...and my needs always came last. It was always about him, his attitude if he didn't get his little "fix"
You cant think about kids........FORGET IT. You couldn't trust them around him. I once walked in on pills on the ground and him passed out and our two year old running around. Get out of it...unless he's serious about changing.
(of course...this is just from my own personal experiences) yours might be different.....but, I sorta doubt it.
2006-10-26 17:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
here is some input, drop the looser, then maybe you will get some real friends and have an easier life than what you got, unless you enjoy having a hard life with no friends
2006-10-26 18:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess if you understand all that it entails and are still willing to be with him even if he doesn't change, then it could work. It would still be more difficult than a normal relationship, though.
2006-10-26 17:31:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not possible. Drug addicts are out of touch with reality. And no, they won't change for you, nor can you change them.
2006-10-26 17:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋