I think my wife is a lesbian. We haven't really kissed since our
wedding just over four years ago. She insisted on not having sex
before we were married. I guess her test to see if I might be gay..making her life of deception easier. Well I'm not! Sex is infrequent (once every three to four
months. Those times she insists on having NO foreplay. Just wham
bam...you know the rest. Recently I found a list of lesbian porno
titles she had written down to order. I confronted her once about
this a few months ago. She whipped up a few crocodile tears, but the
general pattern of behavior has persisted. No sex. Never any cuddling. Never any kissing. Is she gay? She will
never admit it. I am thinking about divorce.
I feel duped into her marriage of convenice, to the world she projects as a dutiful wife, but the reality is as I have described.
2006-10-26 17:09:59 · 35 answers · asked by tommieboil? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Time for her to hit the road....You deserve to be loved and the kissing is so much the part of love making. The foreplay is to DIE for and the orgasm is so much better with all the stuff before hand. The loving and holding afterwards...Mmmmmmmm baby...
Man you are missing out of a lot.
Let her cry - get an attorney. Life is too short to live it with out love.
2006-10-26 17:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the one person in the world you should be able to trust more than anyone else won't give you an honest answer, than why in the hell are you wasting your time staying married to her?
Life is short. Tell this woman to shi t or get off the pot. Meanwhile, summon up some courage and go live the kind of life YOU WANT, not what another dysfunctional person is willing to offer you! If you aren't happy, you aren't alive.
2006-10-26 17:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The issue isn't whether or not she's gay. The issue is that neither one of you seem happy with the other. Get some marriage counselling you two need to get to the bottom of this before there is too much resentment to save your marriage. If divorce is the option you both decide then I wish for both of you to find what you need to have happy lives. Good Luck.
2006-10-26 17:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not know. She may be but not all women love sex she may have problem with getting horney and maybe she might of thought she was gay and looked at a few flims and you brinign up may have made her feel weird or embarassed about it. The only way to find out is seek help not divorce maybe see a marriage counciler. There maybe more going on then her sexuality. Or there may not be but you need to get help and see the marriage counciler considering she will not discuss it with you.
GOOD LUCK
2006-10-26 17:15:05 · answer #4 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really even need to ask? This sounds like an open/shut case to me. But even if she's not gay, something stinks in Denmark, man. You need to confront her about this. Be as nice as possible about it, but unless you want to continue this sham marriage something's gotta give. She'll be better off in the long run once it's all out in the open, and so will you. That's my take on it anyway.
2006-10-26 17:16:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know what, stop focusing on the whole gay thing and look at how she is with you. I think that's grounds for a breakup under any circumstances. You two do not have a marraige and I don't think anyone would fault you if you ended it. Set her free so she can figure out what she wants. You could find a woman who loves you.
2006-10-26 17:17:49 · answer #6 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what do you look like? Are you pretty? I mean this in the nicest way. Alot of guys once married, stop taking care of themselves. *sorry, some women do too. But bad breath, stinky under arms, sweaty body, smelly feet, etc. YUCK. Big turn offs. Also do you fart alot or burp in her direction? Gross!
Do you try to romance her a little or is it just grab a boob and butt when you are in the mood. If you don't take care of yourself, then she is probably turned off. Most women take really good care of themselves. We bathe regularly, shave often, smell nice, wear make up, nice clothes, fix our hair, take really good care of our teeth etc. So maybe that is why she is looking at women. We are PRETTY to look at. Haven't you noticed?
2006-10-26 17:19:08 · answer #7 · answered by Lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
duped....you said it
You don't deserve to have no affection! That's not right so whether she is a lesbian or not you need to talk about it with her and then make a decision whether to stay or go. I feel sorry for you though because I know what it is like to not get affection (I've been there in the past)
Good Luck!
2006-10-26 17:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by Amaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If shes on the pill her sex drive is gone I know mine was. If shes not then maybe she doesn't love you or she regrets not sleeping around having her fun and is taking it out on you. If you really love her get her some psychological services or if not divorce her. and the video thing that has to do with the having fun thing I went through that stage.
2006-10-26 17:21:32 · answer #9 · answered by SIN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would say your wife is gay and you hear about this type of stuff going on all the time in marriages. If she has not kissed you in 4 years something is WRONG!!!!!!
2006-10-26 17:13:59 · answer #10 · answered by dewdrop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋