My son is 2 months old and it seems as though he spends more time with his babysitter who also happens to be his grandmother (my mom). Will this confuse him and make him think my mom is his mother instead of me? I'm worried that he might think she's his mom since he sees her more.
2006-10-26 16:55:42 · 20 answers · asked by shenab99 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I've had four children and all were placed at two months in the care of a family member or close personal friend for 10 hrs a day so I could return to my full time job. None of my children ever mistook the daytime caretaker for the Mommie.
2006-10-26 16:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by Robyn C 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about it... When my daughter was born (second child...Brother is 10 years older.. yes, same parents) we had two years with live-in aupairs (nannies).. Both my wife and I were on the road all the time with our jobs... On top of that we put her in day care one day a week (for social interaction)... After the first two years I quit work and became a stay-at-home dad... Never once did my daughter consider the aupair her parent.
You are the first person that your child sees in the morning and the last person that he sees at bedtime, Your son knows who his mom is. (By the way, (by way of experience) make it a priority to have dinner as a family (and not in front of the TV) every night! This isn't always possible but it should be the norm. This is a time when all (parents and children) should be encouraged to talk about their day. Starting this early will really help when he enters the difficult teen years!
2006-10-26 17:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by Dan J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one and nothing can replace mum, even though your moum spends more time with your child, and will no his routine better than you, a baby always knows the difference, the smell the warmth the mother has, dont doubt yourself you are doing what you need to do, and ity is nice for the bbay to bond with your mother, they too will have a special bond, but never the samwe, and try not to be jealous, children have lots of love to share, and let them they are after all innocent
2006-10-27 00:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by the mumma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a sad fact today
the kids will have more of a bond with the baby sitter i think
women should start protesting so they can be back in the home with the kids
all the feminists started all this & now the women have to work to feed the kids & have a house etc
they wanted the same rights as a man & now they have to work
& big business took advantage of it all & increased all the food & everything etc
so they got what they asked for really
working now like a man & the kids suffer
2006-10-26 17:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you know that babies become closer to the one who cares for them the most (feeds them, bathes them, changes diapers, ect.) Just try your best to spend all the time you possibly can with your child when you are around because even if they do know that you are the mom, they may still become closer to the grandma, I know this because this happened to me with my daughter, i had a full time job and my mom had to watch her while i was at work and when she was three and four years old, she would call her 'mom' sometimes, and the truth, it would get me mad, or jealous i dont know. She is now six years old and still i work swing shift full time and I feel like Im not as close to her as I would like to be but if there is no other way, bills arent going to pay themselves, at least it is someone that loves your baby as much as you do, and it isnt a stranger that is babysitting your child, it could be worse.
2006-10-26 17:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by Esme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
those are merely previous wive's memories, and unfavorable ones at that. keeping infant creates a secure, healthful new child whose ideas develops oftentimes. slightly one does no longer understand that Mommy exists someplace else interior the universe while Mommy is invisible for particularly a while after beginning. At 4-8 months, the sense that partly invisible issues and individuals nevertheless exist starts off to strengthen, even nevertheless, the belief of invisible products or human beings persevering with to exist would not strengthen until some million year, or as previous due as a year and a 0.5. until now it is wide-unfold, being without you, exceptionally while they're crying would properly be terrifying and would completely injury their brains and talents to socially work together with the international. Seeing you, feeling you, listening to you, and smelling you're how your infant develops and hones this sense, that's actually a mandatory area of regular neurological progression, coming up social skills, and coming up widespread/perfect bonding behaviors. no longer keeping your new child would not make your new child "much less spoiled", it merely makes a new child who has been abused and behaves like an abused new child- one that is familiar with that their cries and desires is merely no longer spoke back to. So, actually, carry on! Your new child is meant to be held and is secure and preserve perfect the place he belongs- with you.
2016-12-08 22:15:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may or may not. Spend all extra time you can with him, and make as fun and educational as you can. My friend is a nanny and most of the kids she watches either call her mom, (my friend discourages them from this though) or prefer her over mom. But the real moms make the mistake of not making their children their priority. So if you do it right you won't have a problem. If your family can manage without you working, it really is the best way.
2006-10-26 17:06:06 · answer #7 · answered by Larissa H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the trust between your mother and yourself - if she's doing it to help you out it's fine - If it's to fill a need in her own life you could have issues. I am a little like Penni H in that I have had 4 kids and could not imagine 10 hours away at such a young age, that however, opens a whole other can of worms.
2006-10-26 17:10:39 · answer #8 · answered by renclrk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your son knows that grandma is grandma and mom is mom. It has to do with the way you smell. Babies, believe it or not can differentiate between you two. My first born was babysat by my mother but he still knew the difference when I go home from work at the end of the day.
2006-10-26 17:01:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. He heard your voice and bonded with you for 9 months. They need Grandma bonding too, but just make sure you spend as much time with him as you can to see your bond grow. You should be sooo thankful your mom is there to help. But remember, you are the momma, so step up and be confidant in your God given ability to raise your precious liile baby!You are going to do great. Always accept help from your family. It is much better than daycare.
2006-10-26 17:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by moose on the loose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋