i find it funny how my sister and her husband split the bills, have different bank accounts and never do anything together. any suggestions on how to make her see that this is not a marriage?
2006-10-26 16:39:14 · 14 answers · asked by nina 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok. I left out the important part...it doesn't work for them. At least not for my sister. I hate to see her get upset. It's easy to say to "butt out" but I am human and i love my sister and hate to see her miserable. Yes, it is her life but what can I say to make her strong enough to do something about it.
2006-10-27 09:07:42 · update #1
I have a sister that lives in the dark as well. She has gotten better, only because she has been burned so many times. Unfortunately, that's how they learn, and we can't protect them. But your scenario is a little different. Maybe this is OK for them. When there are 2 professionals in a relationship, this tends to be the best idea, believe it or not. But if this is being done because of a lack of trust, then they have issues, but it's for them to work out and for sister not to judge. Even though you mean well.
2006-10-26 16:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by Aces 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a better question: What is the definition of "a marriage"?
I not sure why you think splitting the bills or having different bank accounts is not part of it. After all, when I was married all I ever heard from my wife was: "Marriage is a 50/50 proposition".
2006-10-27 00:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by dillodirt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. The thing is it's your sister's marriage and she may feel quite comfortable and independent with the way her marriage is. Is she happy and content? Does she complain about how her marriage works? If not your just going to have to let sleeping dogs lie and realize that there is nothing that you can say.
2006-10-26 23:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by mshellrosie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the situation is working for her and her husband, then I don't see the need for her to "see the light" as you put it. My parents have seperate bank accounts, mostly because my mother is better with handling money than my father, and it has never been a problem for them. To each his own...don't try to fix something that isn't broken.
2006-10-26 23:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your sister is not being hurt both physically and mentally by him, it would be best to leave it alone.
In this day and age it is common for both to have separate bank accounts. I have a checking and savings account and my husband has a checking account. We always know our balances etc. Not a big deal.
2006-10-26 23:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by Lore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never do that but what if they are happy like
you should not dictate what is a marriage to people
we may not agree with it but if it makes the party involve happy you should butt out
2006-10-26 23:47:53 · answer #6 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it works for her let it be. I know some people that are that way too. Some people just want different things.
2006-10-26 23:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by Alessa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have different ideas on what works, let your sister be
2006-10-27 00:02:35 · answer #8 · answered by nfgatcer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not something that you should be concern yourself about maybe they just want to keep some freedom and this works for them
2006-10-26 23:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it work for them? Are they both happy?
Then butt out.
2006-10-26 23:42:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋