hubby cheated and has since moved in with his gf he is 42 she is 21 they are together 6-7 months now no guilt or remorse on his part for what he has done to me.......in fact he is hurtful at times....and acts like im a bad mom ..its like he doesnt even know me anymore..........can it be possible that he really loves this girl to the point that he has forgotten all about me and the 24 years we spent together?
2006-10-26 15:51:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. He hasn't forgotten you. When he gets tired of the 21 year old, he'll probably try to come back. don't let him.
2006-10-26 15:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by angelica 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would not say that he has forgotten that you have been together 24 years, but it may be the change that he is going through.
I went through it at the age of 44, and I was confused more and more when I got by myself.
He thinks that he loves this girl, but I do not think that it will last because he will not be able to keep up with her se_ually as he gets older, and she will not go for that when that happens.
If he is an anger person, he might want to think about going to the doctor and get medication for anger management, because I did and that is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I do not blow up like I used to.
Good Luck
2006-10-26 16:02:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
god no. what he did was wrong. but what he is doing now is worse. How dare he judge u, what kind of father sets that kind of example for his children just running out on his family. The life u shared together well it may have meant more to you than to him. it sounds like u had communication issues over the years, you grew apart and instead of working it out, he went elsewhere. leaving u still wondering what happened. Seek therapy, or support from friends. You are not to blame, don't let him put u down ever! especially not in front of the kids, try to distance yourself from him. If he is happy let him be, he will most likely make the same mistakes in the new relationships as he did with yours. He won't forget your life together but he probably doesn't look at it the same way you do. Dont think ur best years are behind, treasure the good memories. make new ones, look to the future, the best is yet to come. Be positive don't let him make u question yourself or the good person that u are. best of luck
2006-10-26 15:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by TR 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is best to totally leave him alone. The more you keep in contact with him the more demoralized you become. It's not about you, you, were together for 24 years. He's trying to justify his leaving you by being defensive and making you feel bad. He's trying to take the focus from him and how he has treated you.
Given enough time you will find new things to do and new people to meet. In that amount of time, your husband will have ended his fling (probably after the young lady uses him for his money, etc.) and come running back to you. The question is will you take him back?
2006-10-26 16:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by indepwman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see you keep asking the same question, written the same way it was the first time I read it. If you're looking for something different, you may need to give more/different info for others to read. But yes, it may very well be that he wants to forget the past, get over the past and move on. His gf may mean absolutely nothing to him, meaning he may not care if she is with him for the next month or not. I don't know what yours and his relationship was like; what his regrets were, if you, he or both felt that neither could do anything different to make things better between you two. Like I said, it may have nothing to do with the girlfriend (surely that's not going to last long). As far as forgetting about you, unless he has a sickness or was injured he will more than likely remember every detail of time that you do - that's a difficult question being asked in a very difficult time for you. I can see that the thought of his "loving" someone else is what is bothering you more than anything else. This is understandable but, the fact is, he is no longer engaged in your marriage and has decided for whatever reason to start all over. Me and you both know that nobody can say anything to make this pain any less at this time. But trust me, you will feel better in time. Things will get better for you and your family in time. I hope the best for you in the coming months as you try to make sense of it all. This is one of those things that will never make sense, like a bad accident. Know that many others are facing major issues like this as well. Believe it or not, you may very well be helping others get through their problems by your talking about your situation now and as you go through this terrible time in your life.
2006-10-26 16:19:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think his love for someone else would affect the way he feels about you. Not knowing how your relationship fell apart, it's hard to say why he goes about things the way he does, but it's probably easier for him to be mean, in hopes that your feelings for him will fade, and he'd have no reason to feel guilty anymore. Some men can't handle being the bad guy, and try to take others down with them. He's a child.
2006-10-26 15:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by DumBlonD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is spelled L-U-S-T. Though I have been totally faithful for 31 years, because that's how I see myself, not because my wife deserves it, I sure can understand being totally enchanted with a young piece.
Adultery is ALWAYS about moral weakness. He is morally weak. He is no longer part of your personal life, though clearly he is part of your kid's life. Accept that because of the kids you have to put up with him, but otherwise take it for granted he is not part of your self any more.
Let's face it, any 21 year old woman who takes up with a married man is a slime bag. It is only a matter of time until she moves on. Watch him come apart.
2006-10-26 15:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by retiredslashescaped1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He hasn't forgotten a thing. He is mean to you simply to ease his suffering from the guilt he has because he left you. He doesn't love that bimbo. She is a temporary infatuation.
2006-10-26 16:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by HonestGuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its possible,most older men feel like a king with a younger lady,its a ego trip,until all go's wrong and they want to come home, Once he leaves he's gone in my books.
Show that you don't care even if you do,make him feel jealous and your life isn't going to stop just for him,Im sure theres a better man out there for you.
2006-10-26 16:01:01 · answer #9 · answered by beneryberlecco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww wow sorry to hear about your situation. Deep down he cant have forgotten about you and all of the memories you made together. Be strong your in my prayers.
2006-10-26 15:55:40 · answer #10 · answered by PinkHighHeels 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋