I just spent time explaining to my ex how much he hurt me when he had an affair and left me for another woman AND how concerned I am that he is moving in with this woman AND introducing her to our son who is eight. He acknowledges this fact and we both agree that we have to establish a civil relationship for our son's sake - which I agree to. Then he sends me an email joke about a man who is having an affair and his wife finds out! How would you feel? Is he deliberately trying to hurt me or is he just clueless?
2006-10-26 15:42:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I think he is just trying to make a joke out of what he did. Some men find it hard to fess up to what they have done. I think if he sends you a joke about it, possibly you won't think what he did is so bad or even find it funny in some way. Just tell him you don't appreciate jokes like that and it was pretty insensitive.
2006-10-26 15:47:07 · answer #1 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's an idiot. Ex's have several ways of trying to hurt you (mine was a complete b**ch) and it actually help me realise what kind of person she was. You guys have to be civil around your kid but he's the one who cheated so you don't have to respect him or her. My step dad cheated with my mom and he turned out to be a really nice guy (and stayed married to her 23 years til she died) so you might cut her some slack and see if she has some positive characteristics. Or maybe she'll just be the first in a string of nobodies. Time will tell and you can't control who he see. Just love you kid and make good choices for you and him. Good luck.
2006-10-26 23:13:12 · answer #2 · answered by RussellMania 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to get over it. He's already your ex and you're still explaining how he hurt you? You're assuming he cares, which it sounds like he doesn't. Find a good therapist. It's his right to pursue a new relationship, and while it may not be the best practice to introduce new loves to your kid, it's not the end of the world. Moving in with her indicates some kind of committment so it may be appropriate to meet the woman your kid may or may not be spending every other weekend with. Get over your ex, he's not yours anymore. I know it's painful, but there's plenty other fish in the sea who won't screw you over.
2006-10-26 22:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by lew22204 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking the joke email into account, he is either trying to hurt you or he is clueless.
2006-10-26 22:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by kicking_back 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's just trying to hurt you. That joke was not funny. You need to let him know that.
2006-10-26 22:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by angelica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probablly both
just tell him this is a great start to a civil relationship and slam the door
goodbye
2006-10-26 22:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by blue ox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in his mind - he was just trying to lighten up the mood. Poor judgement there!
2006-10-26 22:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably just clueless.
2006-10-26 22:44:03 · answer #8 · answered by Jen G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just clueless
2006-10-26 22:45:23 · answer #9 · answered by fuzzystuff511 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stupid and careless.
2006-10-26 23:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋