My husband said I was a brat today and it was the last straw b/c I told him that he shouldn't eat potato chips in the den without a plate because he leaves these chip pieces everywhere that I have to clean up. I know a wife shouldn't be bossy like that but its near that time of the month for me and I have been taking care of a sick baby. He told me that Monday he is going to take me and the baby to the doctors and get me put on anti-depressants like Zoloft or Prozac to balance my hormones and make me less of a brat. He said he was also going to give me some supplements from GNC that will make me more docile and increase my sexual drive so that I will be begging him for sex. I wish he wouldn't make me do this because if he wants me to obey him or beg I will. My mom taught me to always obey my husband. I wish he could see that women just have hormonal changes sometimes and we can't help it. If he tells me to take them I will, but i am just worried it might harm my body. ?
2006-10-26 15:32:51 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Katie Holmes, is that you?
2006-10-26 15:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, run do not walk to the nearest attorney! It would be my guess that this man is not only a little controlling but treats you like a maid,sex slave, etc. It will only get worse. I don't care what your mother taught you, you do not nor should you be controlled by another human being who does not even have your best interest at heart. He wants to put you on all of these mind altering drugs so that you will be more complacent and meet his needs more! That is way beyond sick..Honey, this man is abusing you, maybe not physically yet but emotionally, you bet he is..You may feel it is your duty to obey him but there comes a point where that is not the way it is supposed to be, he wants to control your mind and body. I have the feeling you were taught this from a religious standpoint at home and if that is the case, those words were not in the Bible to be misused and abused. Like KO said, I believe, lose him before you have totally lost your mind..There is nothing he would like better than for you to think you have lost your mind that way he could throw that in your face when you don't do every single thing he wants. Do you have someone neutral, not your mother that you can go and talk to about this? Maybe your family doctor and I mean without him? Tell him what he is planning to do and any ethical doctor would not stand by and allow this to happen but maybe he can direct you to some help with other women so you can talk and see what a real partnership/marriage is supposed to be like..You are not to be like a Stepford Wife!
2006-10-26 17:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by magnolia813 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First.... You are your own person. No one can MAKE you do anyting. If you dont believe that this is true, you need not read anymore of this answer. But this is the first thing that you must realize. NO ONE CAN CONTROL YOU.
Second, you are blaming yourself for his actions. Your monthly cycle comes monthly. Hormones make you act diffrent from time to time.... If you or he are concerned about a chemical imbalace, you need to see a doctor before taking any medication.
Furthermore, most people belive that a marriage is 50/50. It is not.. It is more 100/100. You (husband and wife) must give yourself completely to each other... you have to understand and compromise. It is nothing to get a plate and enjoy some chips.
2006-10-26 15:42:37 · answer #3 · answered by HitMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your age but I do know you need help. OBEY? Are you a dog? Who told you this was the thing to do? You need a phyc not medication. Your husband CANNOT put you on anything. If you are diagnosed with severe depression possibly your doctor would recommend an anti depressant. Who the hell does your husband think he is controling you like an animal and you foolish enough to OBEY? We call our children brats, adults do not talk like that. Maybe because he treats you like **** you are not in the mood to have sex with him. Tell him to respect you and treat you like a woman and maybe he would get some.
2006-10-26 16:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by bonbon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's the one that needs to get on some Prozac or something to regulate his hormones. I commend you for trying to obey your husband, but now he is trying to control you with drugs. This is not safe! Drugs are not the optimal route to figuring out your differences. In fact, find a Christian counselor that can help guide the both you in the same manner that you were brought up. I would even recommend finding a counselor just for you as well.
2006-10-26 15:38:26 · answer #5 · answered by karime444 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obey your husband --- what are you a dog? You are a individual, a human with thoughts, feelings, wants and needs - you don't need to obey your husband.
Zoloft will make you crazy..... my husband was on it, and Oh my God - he was very moody, and his "outburst" were scary. He never hit me, but he would hit anything around him (i have a few holes in the basement to prove it). Once he got off Zoloft he went back to his usual calm self.
Your husband sounds like a control freak. Try counseling! And don't worry about the crumbs, pick your battles!!!!! Good luck! Hope your baby feels better soon :)
2006-10-26 16:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
one how old is the baby, two a womans work is never done some men and i am a married woman and my husband does some of the things that you have issues with when you have to start cleaning up after and adult i dont blame you, the time of the month is something your hormones act up and you get fed up with being sick and tired of the foolishness as a woman we need a break to and to constantly do repeatly the same thing over and over and he knows that he is making a mess and that we are going to clean it up and it is natural to explode and let him know that hey i taking care of our child and when they have colds omg i know the feeling and this is one thing that i want you to do this is serious please dont be no fool dont take any medicine that he want you to take, there are side effects but dont take medicine because he says so you may/or may not if you go to the doctor and they say he is a problem and take this for the time being ok and you say how you feel and only you no harm if you do that he got you where he want you and you have child be strong for that child and do for yal i am not saying the hell with your husband but dont let anyone tell you that you need to take this because they want you to and they are some poison that are tastless and ordorless and be strong if you need to make an appt because you feel different ok but if you know that u r fine move on take care
2006-10-26 15:57:41 · answer #7 · answered by YOLANDA D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess your sister's baby went home, I think you should be on drugs because there is something seriously wrong with you if you think all these stupid questions are funny. I will keep taking the two points but it surprises me that everyone actually believes you. I suppose most people don't check your other questions. To tell you the truth your questions are the most entertaining I almost look forward to see what you write next. Please get a life some women actually have lives like this and it's not something to joke about.
2006-10-27 01:47:17 · answer #8 · answered by Bassetlover 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, honey, please don't let your husband do this. Yes, God says to obey your husband, but He also says for husbands to honor their wives, and there is no honer in controlling a wife to this extent. I believe that your husband needs help, because this doesn't sound like normal behavior to me. He sounds like a dangerous man, the next step could very well be physical abuse if you don't "stop being a brat" as he puts it. Please, for your babies sake, get help. It is illegal to force a person to take medication, and there is no way a doctor would give you medication just because your husband says so. I will pray for you and your baby. I only ask that you seriously consider getting aways from this man.
2006-10-26 15:51:05 · answer #9 · answered by Angie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was reading over your other questions and answers, trying to see if you were for real or trying to get a rise out of people. After reading all of them, I still can't tell. I hope like hell your joking, especially because I read in a couple answers you have a baby with this man. I'm kind of thinking you are joking, only because, if he's so controlling he won't buy you maxi pads or tampons, he probably wouldn't let you have Internet access. but one can never tell.............. If your not joking, you need to get out now. You have a very skewed view of how the world works as far as men are concerned. Your husband is supposed to love honor and protect you, not hurt, drug and control you.
2006-10-26 16:38:03 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi little angel, big Angel here and I am also married and well I dont see where my husband would ever even consider telling me what vitamins or food to eat.....I would never do that to him either...its called respect since my hubby and i got married ive been going through what we call metopause i think thats how to spell it and i havent been pushed to see a doctor just let it happen el natural....if your husband thinks you should get on these meds tell him youll see a doctor and explain to the doctor exactly how you feel and what he feels the doctor will do your exam and he will determine if you need to be on medication or not.....I personally dont think so i have been on the med...diet...thing and it only makes you empty headed and well its a bummer dont go there if you dont have to but ask a doc they know whats best and maybe your hubby ought to consider fixing himself instead of you tell him not to eat chips in the tv room....you have to clean it and take care of a new baby....good luck Angel
2006-10-26 16:23:39 · answer #11 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋