Just wondering what my dating options are. I truly am short, fat, ugly and stupid. I have a beautiful wife, but she betrayed me 10 years ago and I don't take that from anyone. She could replace me in a heartbeat, but insists she loves me and kisses my read all day long every day and has since I found out what happened four years ago. The problem is, I don't care what her excuse is and I want OUT of this horrible nightmare. But, I am short, fat, ugly and STUPID. So what are my chances? Go ahead, give it to me....
2006-10-26 15:25:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Actually, I think I'm short, fat, ugly and stupid, but women think I'm 5'9", stocky/muscular, good looking and my IQ never tests below 140. But I'm not feeling too good about myself since I found out my wife let some scumbag pump her full of love juice 10 years ago.
2006-10-26 15:27:20 · update #1
low self esteem is a turn off
2006-10-26 19:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by Chava 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I hate to say this, cuz it sounds like I'm bashing my husband, but...My husband is tall, but not handsome and he's extremely overweight, not rich, just a regular guy making an average salary (think John Candy). When we were dating the women were all OVER him, I was amazed by it. The trend continues, even after 15 years, and it has to do with his awesome personality - he's hysterically funny, smart and everyone loves him. I had never dated anyone like him - always went for the good looking hot guys. Wow did I get lucky, but if you're used to being superficial (I was back then) it's hard to understand.
2016-05-21 23:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, after ten years, you need counseling. The chances of finding a virgin at your age are pretty small. If she is repentant, and your comments indicate she is, after ten years, and you admit she could get other guys any time, swallow your FALSE PRIDE and get marital counseling. You need it.
This is not just talk. I have been married for 31 years. Around twenty years ago, one summer my wife acted really strange. Yes, I suspected she might be having an affair. I had a choice to make. Do what was right for our kids, or start investigating. I sucked it in, and did what was right for our kids which meant staying with her and not pushing it. I want to make it clear I had no real evidence she was straying, but the weird acting was a danger signal that I chose to avoid.
I cannot regret it, because the kids came out okay, and I survived and she eventually got old enough that not many guys are chasing her.
I have been faithful, not because she deserves it, but because that is how I see myself.
2006-10-26 15:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by retiredslashescaped1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about the short, fat or ugly part, but I tend to agree with you on the stupid part. It happened 10 years ago. How many times have you two made love, said I love you, shared a special moment, enjoyed being together since her indiscretion 10 years ago? Do you mean that one "betrayal" and your ego mean more to you than all of those things you have shared in the last 10 years. I would NOT want such an intolerant snob as you.
2006-10-26 15:34:49 · answer #4 · answered by BUPPY'S MEME 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey, give yourself a break! You are not that stupid since you realized that you deserve more then your wife. That takes alot of guts and brains to know when to call a relationship quits. I'm sure that as long as you keep an open mind and are honest and have a good personality, you'll find the woman of your dreams soon. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-10-26 15:31:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jeanne 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would love to date you. I love shorter men, I am 5'1". I am sure you are not ugly, because ugly people do not know that they ARE ugly... and I don't believe you are STUPID, everyone thinks they are stupid at some point in thier life. You are just feeling stupid right now, because of what has happened. Also, I do not date someone based on how they look.... make me laugh, and you got me.... Good luck you sexy hunk of man!
2006-10-26 15:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by next.... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...it sounds like regardless of your "dating options" that you are ready to get out of the marriage. If you're not willing to work on things (and I'm not saying you should or shouldn't--that's totally up to you) you need to be done with it already.
As far as your options...I think there is someone out there for everyone, and I'm quite sure that you are being harder on yourself than you need to be.
2006-10-26 15:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The short and fat part I could deal with.........but the fact you consider yourself stupid..........thats a major turn off. Your low self esteem is a turn off. Get it in check and I am sure your women problems would correct themselves.
sorry your wife dumped on you........i know thats got to be painful.
get a grip..........it was 10 years ago.........its time to move past HER indiscretion and get on with YOUR life.
good luck
2006-10-26 15:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Heh if you ain't into that guy anyone, im 29, 220, six feet, im moderately intelligent I'm not like a phD or anything,
lemme know gimme a shout out
2006-10-26 15:28:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My census is that you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and go to College. Then you will only be short and ugly....
2006-10-26 15:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by Not Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a lady, but let me tell you that opposites attract. You will probably be able to find someone who is young, tall, thin, beautiful, and intelligent to compliment you.
2006-10-26 15:27:58 · answer #11 · answered by aanstalokaniskiodov_nikolai 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋