Random Depression?

Question

I am 16yrs male, I have friends and stuff and everything seems ok. I don't do drugs and I have a normal middle class life and there's nothing that bad besides just always the occasional complain about grades and school.
So with all that inmind- my problem is when i'm usually by myself I'll randomly just be hit by a train of frustration and just feel mad for some reason (basicly feel like life just sucks) and this is a recurring problem.

And I try to control it by just counting to 10 or thinking otherwise but it usually enduces the problem and makes it worst. Mostly I just feel enraged emotion/anger and I really want to know what it is.. again there's really nothing that I know of at that moment that is inflicting me to become depressed. So, if I got a better idea of what it may be, ex;maybe normal or just me or something's wrong. That'd be better, so I can possibly just control it. :)

Thanks for your help and time. :)

Answer 1

Well, to some degree I definitely think it is very normal. Especially as a teenager. I'm a 16 year old female and I pretty much have a decent life too (although I do have some serious issues with my childhood...) and sometimes I feel depressed or angry for no reason too. I will tell you first off that I do have mental illness and I do see a therapist and all that so maybe I'm not the best judge of this. But I think you'll be fine.

What it really comes down to is just how much is this bothering you? The biggest difference between normal sadness and depression is just that. I would say if it bothers you to the point that you have trouble functioning then definitely get yourself to a therapist or something but from what you say that's not the case. Even if it's something that only bothers you sometimes you still might want to look into therapy. I swear by it personally. I mean all you might even need is just one session to say what's wrong and be given some possible ways of dealing with it. It doesn't mean you're crazy if you go to therapy. I personally feel that every teen should see a therapist (a decent one) because being a teen and growing up is such a struggle for everyone. I think if you weren't having some amount of problem, then you'd have a serious issue.

One of the best pieces of advice I ever recieved was when you're fed upo and angry or freaking out or depressed, take some deep breaths. I find this works way better than counting to 10. When you count you're still focusing on your emotions. While you take those deep breaths just focus on your breathing to get your mind off it. This is most definitely easier said than done and I struggle with it all the time but it really does work. If you can just get your mind off of it for a minute, you'll calm down.

Talking about it helps greatly too. Don't bottle it up inside. If you can't go to therapy trying talking to a trusted friend or better yet a trusted adult. Maybe you don't even know what to say. Just start off with what you told us and I think you'll find that just about everyone can relate. And I know journaling doesn't work for a lot of people but it's worth a try if you don't want to talk about it. Just start writing about the feeling and get it all out and it might help you figure out if there really is an underlying issue somewhere. And when you're done you can rip it into a thousand pieces and throw it away if you want.

My guess is that it's actually a whole bunch of little and normal things building up to make you feel this way. Everyone gets like that sometimes. Just stay strong and definitely keep living life normally. If you wake up one morning and feel so emotional that you don't want to go to school. Go anyway if at all possible. I feel into that sort of pattern and my high school education is pretty much nonexistent. It only makes things worse if you shy away from them. So just keep doing everything you're supposed to do but take time to relax and just think about things if you need to. You will be fine. Learning to control it will take time but it is definitely possible. Good luck to you. I hope you figure things out.

And also, I noticed people are mentioning medication and doctors. Don't go there yet. Any doctor will easily write you out a prescription whether you really need it or not. From what you wrote, you definitely don't need pills but then again I don't know you. But everyone acts like that's the only way to treat depression (which you may or may not have) and it most definitely is n ot. I've been heavily medicated for years and still have major problems. I'm not currently taking any meds and I think I'm better off and my therapist would agree. If you have a problem see a counselor or a therapist first! They can recommend a psychiatrist if they think you need one but even then you have the right to refuse meds. Whatever you do, don't go to the familyu doctor because they're not really trained for that. See a psychiatrist. But in the long run pills are just an easy way out. Go to therapy and actually work at it and learn to deal with your problems. Because if you don't work at it you'll be on pills forever only half living. Avoid medication unless there is really a need.

Answer 2

Wow - I started suffering depression when I was 12. The problem was that I never told anyone, and in that day and age it just wasn't talked about anyhow. So, of course, my parents didn't recognize the signs.

It could be a couple of different things, such as changes in hormones or a chemical imbalance (neither of which is uncommon).

The best thing that I can recommend for you to do is to talk to your parents and/or school counselor about what's going on. Explain it to them just the same way you did here. That way they can take you to a doctor to have the issue properly diagnosed and treated. It could simply be a matter of taking a certain kind of vitamins, or a low dose of medication.

All I can say is that I wish I had known about depression when I was your age (and younger), and that I had talked to an adult about it and gotten help. I would have been a much happier kid and would have dealt with things much differently.

Kudos to you for asking for help/info here. Take it one step further and ask for help from your family.

Good luck!!!

Answer 3

Being that your 16, there are several things going on with you. First, hormones, second... your not in control of something, and third you are probably having a lot of pressure on you to do the right things. I suggest that you talk to someone, not that there is something wrong with you.. NOT AT ALL, you do need some help controlling your temper. I had a bad problem with mine at a young age, I started doing a lot of writing and it seemed to help me out a lot. But yes your normal. Life is hard, and your becoming more aware of it. Please find someone to talk to about whatever it is that is flustering you, counselor would be the best bet. I hoped this help a little.

Answer 4

HI! i know what u can do to help! first, you need to get pumped about life! think about how many worse situations you could be in and how lucky you are to be here now!!!! there is this homeless man on our street corner without any legs. i was really frustrated that day, and i passed him. he was playing the harmonica and i gave him a dime. he was so grate ful "thank you go bless you i am so thankful!!!" that made me realize how much i have to be thankful for! secong of all, find great happy music - even oldies!!! anything that makes you want to get up and dance will alway make you happier and last, help people! helping out with the environment and people less fortunante than you can really make you feel great!!!!!!!!!! :) have a great day!

Answer 5

I am not a trained professional, so remember that :)

To me, there is a difference between depressed feelings and depression. Depressing feelings I feel are normal and tend to never last for very long whereas depression (in a clinical sense) is a long term feeling of being depression.

Your sort of seem in between so all I can say is see a professional. Do you have a school counsellor at your school?

Answer 6

O.K. this is easy so here go's.

You are 16 and male.....your mind and body,are changing to go into manhood.
It can happen to guys, so what you need to do...is get a parent to take you to the doc...That's all, and from there it can be worked out.
Don't try and fix it by yourself.....that's not a good idea.Try also to find a older male who you like, and can talk to.One problem guys have...is never having someone to trust and talk to these days.
Chill it will pass....but just go see doc.o.k.

Answer 7

If your moods don't match what's going on in life, definitely consider seeing a doctor. If it's nothing, and it's just a personality thing or something, they'll tell you. Otherwise, they can help.