2006-10-26 14:45:20 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I think it is possible, yes i agree that it isn't very likely and people of this age don't really know what to do with their emotions but that doesn't mean that it impossible.
I hate when people say that these kids are too young to love. Yes, they may be to young to be in serious relationship but that doesn't mean that they can't love.
Also i read that some people believe that at this age is when love is really true love, because they are already mature and they don't care about looks or any of that other stuff yet.
2006-10-26 14:53:29 · update #1
By the way i am not a kid, I am twenty-two. I am just doing this survey because my nephew wants to know this.
2006-10-26 14:56:14 · update #2
I don't think it depends on the chronological age of someone, more the mental age. If they're mature for their age, anyone (tweens and teens, I'm talking about here) can be in love. But remember, many eleven year olds haven't started puberty, yet some are full swing etc. I started to get a little interested in guys at about 10. I was a little more at 11, and had my first non-serious relationship at nearly 12. I am 14 and yes, I can honestly say that I've been in love, and that it's a feeling of absolute bliss, and well, love - totally unlike anything else and was (and still is) something that I had never before felt. Others - especially adults, counsellors, parents, relatives or teachers - like to say that what we feel is just "puppy love", infatuation, lust, "young love", "teen love", etc etc. Why is it that other people seem to think it's just a phase and will pass? The majority of teen relationships shouldn't be taken seriously, fair enough, but that doesn't mean that we are incapable of feeling an emotion as strong as full, true, deep love. Or being "in love". Puberty is about the awakening of a whole new set of feelings, moods, and experiences.... one of these includes being in love. So yes, it is possible, but everything else must be taken into account. Mental maturity, and whether or not the tween/teen is sexually interested in someone else... etc.
I think this answers your question, and then some :)
-Astrid
2006-10-27 01:13:08 · answer #1 · answered by Astrid 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Of course.
It's ridiculous, shallow, and just downright stupid to believe that you cannot love because of your age. Look, when you're young, you love your parents and family, right? I know I did. And I'm twelve, and I love them more than anyone will ever know. If I can love family, than what takes away the possibility to love others outside of family? There is no logic to it. It's an emotion. Most feel it. Your age doesn't effect such a simple emotion. Do you know how many adults claim they're in love, go ga-ga over someone, then end up miserable and mad at them? Teen relationships aren't different from adult relationships, and no matter what anyone says, it won't change. You can deny it all you want. Love is love. Some people just can't handle that. I mean, why are certain people so shallow that they don't want to admit that you can love? It's crazy. Are they trying to seem more mature? More grown up? Have more authority? Or just seem right? It's horrible.
2006-10-26 17:06:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself am 13, and "love" just doesn't happen right now. Most 13 y/o girls would stand up and say "Heck yes, I'm in love!" but seriously, people of this age group:
1.) are not ready to commit to any serious relationship
2.) do not WANT to commit to any serious relationship
3.) I myself, nor any of my friends of the smae age group as me have EVER truly been in love. I repeat, we have NEVER been anywhere NEAR being in love!
I know love doesn't happen at this age mostly though, because I had a boyfriend for quite some time and we broke up at the beginning of summer. I was suicidal. Love doesn't leave you feeling suicidal. It makes you feel breathless and awed, and just...perfect. Altogther perfect. You don't get that when you're in Jr. High. You just don't. Thank God I am over him now, because wanting to die is one of the worst feelings a person can experience.
2006-10-26 16:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by pookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people 14 years of age could be in true love for them at that time in there life. I was in love whith my daughters father at 14 we were togeather along time, however time changes every thing and that is why its okay to say yes a 14 year old could be in love but should wait to be serious because they can fall out of love so quickly as they change with there age .
2006-10-26 15:04:24 · answer #4 · answered by cheryl b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They may feel love. I will say that a child brain is complex and very different from an adults. So love yea they may truly be in love. Question is do they understand that love, and can they grow on it? Because to really understand love it takes time, experience and maturity. But, love is in it self complex, look at battered women, they love the same person who hurts them. But its the experiences that defines ones own definition of love. More power to ya or to love!!
2006-10-26 20:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by C T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's define love, shall we?
I still say that, when I got married at age 19 after dating my wife for 3 years, I wasn't in love. I had a huge case of the hornies, and was infatuated as hell, but I wasn't in "love" as I know it now.
The "love" part comes in when you have to DECIDE to love that person. It come after the "honeymoon", when you wake up and are convinced that you're with the wrong person, when you figure out that your family was RIGHT about your spouse's faults.
Love comes in when you wake up to find your attractive spouse's body ravaged by a pregnancy, or age, or cancer -- and you love her anyway. Love comes in when you have to forgive them for a royal screwup - an affair, getting fired, buying a car that you told them that you didn't want, or doing something financially disastrous.
So, can someone that age be "truly in love"? They might be infatuated, they might have the hots for each other, but true love takes a lot longer than a few months' relationship.
2006-10-26 16:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by geek49203 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hellz yea u can be in love at that age-- but it depends.....
I'm 14, and if you're young like me, u have a bf every 2 seconds n sometimes they can last a few months--I've known some to last a year or two. BUT, what I'm saying is that neccessarily, kids at that age can love, but some love are short-lived at that age. Hell, that's when children are JUST learning about sex!!
BUT, in my case, I date older boys...under 18.... but still, I find older boys easier to love around here. They're considerate n loving, n I can look @ their myspace or somethin n know they aint blowin me off. Boys my age are immature n can't stop makin fun of me. I've had relationships where they flat-out said "I love you" after 5 months of dating or more, which I love cause I hate things like that to be rushed...I like anticipation :)
I'm not trying to sound snobby, but its true; its soo much easier to fall in love at my ag...cause there truly is no definition of love then. That age group is when things start to come clear to us
2006-10-26 15:16:46 · answer #7 · answered by cattys_cats 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course they can love their parents and their family,But,I think they need alot more life experience to be in love with someone of the opposite sex,11-14 is just way too young..Its just puppy love and crushes at this stage in their life..They just think they are in love...and that's why we have alot of 14-16 year old girls with baby's on their hips and no daddy in sight!!
2006-10-26 17:18:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that is called puppy love. That love is not a lasting kind of love. Slow down, you have plenty of time to fall in love . Getting a good education is the best thing you can do for yourself.
2006-10-26 14:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by camalotbc2000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not an 11-14 yr old hasn't enough experience in life to know what love is all the feelings a young girl feels is usually butterflys in the stomach and that type of stuff that is just the puppy love stage you think your in love but have't a clue
2006-10-26 14:49:37 · answer #10 · answered by jessie j schroedie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋