Let's say that you have been in a relationship w/someone for about 3 yrs and during the first 6 months they found out that you were still seeing other people. You told them that u wanted 2 be w/them and only them but it would have 2 be either all or nothing (they would have to be able to put everything behind them) or there was no need 2 even try. They said they would and you have been faithful since the incident but every other day 3 yrs later they still throw it up in your face like it was yesterday even during good times or unrelated conversations. What would you do either in either situation?
2006-10-26 14:27:49 · 10 answers · asked by mr99problemz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
**MR means he and the other person is a SHE. No offense but I just had 2 get that straight.
2006-10-26 14:37:40 · update #1
When someone chooses to be unfaithful, being questioned is something they have to learn to deal with. The person that was cheated on feels like they are not good enough or they would not have been cheated on. Things like this hurt and take a very long time to get over. If you love this person, you will take it like a man/woman and accept that you hurt this person very deeply. I for one would not have been able to forgive my husband being unfaithful, now or before we were married. He would have been history. You are lucky to still have this person in your life.
2006-10-26 14:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation once, I was in the relationship for 5 years and it ended horribly. I would say the relationship isn't going to work out, so break it off sooner than later. Why go through hell all the time, just for it to end later anyway. Good relationships don't have you asking this type of question on Yahoo answers. This has been going on for three years, don't make the mistake of making it five years like I did. Ya know what I mean????
2006-10-26 14:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by outlook0330 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the person decided to stay after they found out that thier mate was seeing other people then that person has to let it go and after 3 years that's just going over board to still bring it up. I understand it hurts when you find out about other people but for the relationship to be happy and peaceful that has to be laid to rest. If I was the only who was being harassed by something that was in the past I think I would have to end the relationship or if I really cared about the person i would be willing to get counseling to try to resolve the issue. after 3 year without any other issue is ridiculous to still be bringing up old stuff.
2006-10-26 14:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you exclusive in those 6 months? If so, then you were in the wrong. But if you weren't then they have no right to throw it back in your face. Dating other people may have made you realize you only wanted to be with them. If after 3 years of happiness, they can't get over it, move on. It may hurt but move on.
2006-10-26 14:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by juggalettej 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does it because he gets away with it. Sit him down at the kitchen table and say "Look. I don't want to hear about the cheating thing any more. Not ever again. We've been over it, it's been years, and I don't want to hear another word about it. Not even kidding around. I'm sick of it and if you mention it one more time, I'm out of here. Do we understand eachother?"
He should get the point.
Someone close to me went through this; she "cheated", he got so much mileage out of it, it was unbelievable. I told her she had to stop accepting this crap from him and tell him to knock it off already.
Tell him its a deal breaker if he doesnt knock it off. Enough is enough.
2006-10-26 14:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell the person that they are destroying the relationship by constantly bringing up past resolved issues.
Good and lasting relationships are built on a strong foundation of trust.
2006-10-26 15:01:47 · answer #6 · answered by Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump Em
2006-10-26 14:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by penguins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying this person is bugging you about not being able to see other people??? Forget whoever it is! You do NOT need to waste time on people who are not into you and only you!!!
2006-10-26 14:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by Alexandria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the guy. I know how that is. It the hardest thing to do.......but It's the only way you'll ever get anywhere..............Chas was my problem................. Still getting over it.
2006-10-26 14:31:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would take a while to get over it COMPLETLEY! but hopefully ya'll would be able to talk and work things out!!!! i HOPE things work out GREAT!and for the BEST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-26 14:32:43 · answer #10 · answered by crissypoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋