i came across a magazine article several months ago that termed the above behavior as "mindf*cking" which constituted infidelity. Would it be wrong to form this type of connection with someone who can potentially* be a partner/love interest?
*i don't want to be gender specific to account for the different types of sexual orientations*
your thoughts?
please note: this is strictly a hypothetical question. I am looking for opinions, not advice. Thanks!
2006-10-26 14:11:14 · 6 answers · asked by lafftah 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
It could be if the intentions are to take the relationship to a romantic level. If not, then no - nothing wrong with making a new friend!
2006-10-26 14:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by ßαßε 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you seek an intellectual connection IN PLACE OF what you have with your significant other, than that might not necessarily be cheating... but it is doing your relationship a disservice. It may be time to evaluate your relationship and see if you guys are on the right path together. Do you have a normally solid relationship that has just hit a bumpy patch and you need to work it out together? Or do you have a poorly made match and need to cut your losses? You have to ask yourself this.
If you seek an intellectual connection IN ADDITION TO the relationship you already have with your lover, than this is just broadening of your friendships. If the person you are with makes a stink about this, try to explain to them that you're not looking for someone to interact with INSTEAD OF them... that you just like the variety of different perceptions that comes from new bonds.
The real test is how does the new interaction make YOU feel? Do you feel like you're betraying the one you're with by the conversations you're having? It may be normal to feel that way from time to time, but if its habitual... it may stand to reason that you're doing something you don't feel is ethical. If you are trying to find a connection with a new individual in place of what you already have, it may be time to re-evaluate your current situation...
2006-10-26 21:21:07 · answer #2 · answered by splurge_munki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion an "intellectual connection" is nothing more than a friendship, unless one of the individuals makes it more.
2006-10-26 21:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by Kati J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in "emotional cheating" that's another way of saying it. I do consider it cheating if you are sexually attracted to that person (in other words if you were single you would consider dating that person). That's how (physical) cheating starts for the most part anyway.
2006-10-26 21:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by liljomo1234 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so its called emotional foreplay,its basically keeping someone on the side just in case the husband walks out or wife.
2006-10-26 21:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think only if your keeping it hidden from your partner.
2006-10-26 21:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by momgonemad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋