willl babys be spoiled if they only fall asleep in your arms?

Question

she is only four weeks. she does not nap unless she is in my arms. as soon as i lay her down she wakes up.

Answer 1

Very young children cannot be spoiled. Some babies have greater needs than others due to their own physical condition, but all babies are very needy! Crying is their only way of communicating these needs to us. If babies didn't cry when they are hungry, or when they need their diaper to be changed, we wouldn't know what and when they need something.

As babies grow, they begin to communicate things other than physical needs. This includes the desire to be held or comforted and the desire to be stimulated. These are healthy desires! A child is spoiled only if they express a desire and someone (usually Mom or Dad, but it can be a Grandparent or other caregiver) gives them what they want each and every time.

If your child has a need, you will not spoil them by meeting that need. In fact, it is very important for you to meet their needs in order to build security, love, and trust. You will not even spoil them by giving them what they desire, unless you always give it to them, even when you don't want to. This is the hard part - it is good to give a baby what he or she wants sometimes, but not all the time.

So how do you know when to do so? A good rule of thumb is to ask yourself if you are giving your baby what they want or if you are giving in to what they want. In most cases if you are giving just because you want to give, you will be doing the best thing for your baby.

Try to avoid being so stressed out by other things in your life that you never feel like giving to your baby -- or at the other extreme, finding your identity in your baby so that you always feel like giving in to them. For more insight on these extremes see related topics.

Answer 2

Babies until age 6 months can not be spoiled. The reason your baby keeps waking up when you lay her down is because of your warmth. You lay her down and the warmth goes away. Enjoy snuggling with your little one, they get big so fast. If you are laying her down to get things done and to have a little free time, then try swaddling her in a blanket. This will comfort her as well. Good luck and congrats on your new little girl!

Answer 3

Im probably going to get slammed fro this...but here goes...
Chances are that by letting her fall asleep in your arms every time she naps, she will get into the habbit of falling asleep there and will want nothing to do with her own bed...this is all very sweet when she is so little...but do you really think its fair if she is still doing this when she is 2 or 5? and what if you have another baby then aswell...how are you going to deal with trying to nurse a 2 yr old off to sleep and with a baby that may need feeding or cuddling at the same time...
Dont misunderstand me...I think cuddling a baby is a wonderful thing and it is so cute when they doze off in your arms...but perhaps try to get her into the habbit of cuddles and then her laying down to sleep in her bed to sleep...if she is asleep when you lay her down and she wakes...the tuck her in and say good night...dont pick her up again...after a few days she will get into the routine of it and settle...
Making good sleeping patterns right at the start can lead to very peaceful sleeps for you at night when you need it most...

I can only talk from personal experience...both my kids have been sleeping through the night since they were 6 weeks old...this method worked for me...but keep in mind what works for one person may not work for you...babies dont come with handbooks...god knows I told the Doc to look for one after baby poped out...
Good luck

Answer 4

NO, you cannot spoil a baby. Lay baby down very very slowly. I know you have to get things done. Maybe you need a warmer blanket? Sometimes they wake up but only breifly and will go back to sleep.Stay close until she goes back to sleep again.

Answer 5

ya know what? Who cares if you spoil your baby, they are only babies for a short period of time and thats a gift from above so u should cherish her for all she's worth. Some ppl cant even have the experience of childbirth , so I'd say let her fall asleep in your arms, in a few years she wont fit in them.

Answer 6

First issues first. do no longer positioned issues in the crib with the toddler except you want to run the prospect of toddler smothering itself in it quite is sleep. Are you swaddling the toddler in a easy blanket that shall we easy by? you may swaddle toddler by way of fact the toddler will sense like it continues to be in the womb the place it became all scrunched up and heat. With my new child i spotted that if I swaddled the palms down then my toddler might doze off speedier. additionally do no longer p.c.. the toddler up except they're crying. some little whimpers right here and there could desire to be them attempting to get an arm loose which makes them drained so which you nevertheless win. additionally attempt to flow approximately your corporation once you place the toddler down by way of fact i'm particular that for extraordinarily much 9+ months you weren't whispering on an identical time as toddler became on your tummy. sturdy good fortune and desire this helps.

Answer 7

your job is to spoil your baby. mine was the same way. once they get older, they won't need you to hold them to sleep. she does now, so enjoy it. it is a special time. don't worry about spoiling her. you can't spoil a child that small and if she does get spoiled chances are someone will mention it to you if you're too dumb or blinded by love to see it for yourself. she'll be around 2 before you can say she's spoiled though. just enjoy what you have for now. mine just got her first report card. (straight a's. i know its not the point but i brag about it every chance i get) teh time just flies by. you blink and its over. make the most of it.

if its inconvient, try lying iwth her in your bed, with her on her side, you on your side, tummies touching. she'll fall asleep like taht hopefully, and you'll be able to get up and go away. but...once she learns to roll over, you'll have to find a new way.

good luck and congratulations.

Answer 8

I don't think it is considered spoiled, just loved. But, to answer your question, babies can feel you and when you lay her down she doesn't feel that comfort level anymore. If she wakes up don't pick her up automatically, let her lay there. If she cries, let her cry for a bit. You will be ok mom, it happens.

Answer 9

My baby was in the hospital for the first 2 months of her life. I let her sleep on me all night long every night. Then when I brought her home she expected the same thing and it was really hard on me. I would say cuddle and love her up as much as possible while awake but when it comes to sleep, get her used to sleeping on her own. It took my daughter months before she could do it on her own, I'm talking not til she was 8m or something.

Answer 10

A 4 wek old is not capaple of staying awake 24/7/When she is tired lay her down and do not pick her up or talk to her.I think you would rather have her cry for a few minutes now(even though they look so pityful) then scream and cry for hours as a 2yr old.