When I was a child, my biggest fear was that I would lose my mother. I used to have a recurring nightmares about it. Any way, my mother is still alive and well , so my question is ,What is worse? a mother to lose her young child or for child to lose his/her mother?
2006-10-26 13:47:53 · 37 answers · asked by toietmoi 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well I just lost my mother 6mos ago she was my best friend and primary care-giver (I'm disabled) and loosing her was always my worst fear. It's weird having your worst fear realized the only benefit is you know life can't get any worse. Anyway my grandmother has lost both parents AND both children, plus about 10 more close relatives and friends I asked her that hard question and she said her children. Just because you almost expect to loose your parents and may mentally prepare yourself for that dreadful day. Children you're supposed to protect and nurture and some day they return the favor. You feel cheated, and guilty, and a mix of other emotions. Then women have the hormones that change during pregnancy and stay that way for life, bonding you body, mind, and soul, and making that child be your main focus forever. Anyway that's my family's personal experience.
2006-10-26 14:09:47 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole D'Ella 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A mother losing her child, by the nature of things we are to go before out children
2006-10-26 13:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Experts say that the worse kind of loss is the loss of a child. The loss of a parent is second. Interestingly, the loss of a spouse is third.
I have not lost a child, but my mother died last year. I'm 45 and so far, it was the worst day of my life. It's taken me about a year to start feeling better. I can't imagine how it would be to lose a child.
2006-10-26 13:51:54 · answer #3 · answered by Sabina 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think most kids fear losing their mother. I know my boys did. I helped prepare them - explained what they would do etc etc and it did calm them.
I thik it is worse for a child to lose its mother. As a parent, it is just another one of the heartbreaks that pave our way. Devestating but we survive. I never want my child to have that terror or fear or loss.
Does that make sense?
PS We're going through this at the moment. My daughter's friend's mother has terminal cancer - the kid has no loving guidance, no childhood. Just a mother in dreadful pain. It is too horrible.
2006-10-27 04:10:22 · answer #4 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are both equal because the mother would never get to know the child that she was carrying and also the child would grow up without knowing there mother and without having the vital imput into there lives from there mother tha every child requires.
2006-10-26 13:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by John H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a tough one ... good question!!
I'd have to say ... it depends on the person who is left behind. Some children are able to cope with the death of a loved one, more so, than an adult could ... and vise-versa.
A child might be affected by it for the rest of their life ... and an adult may have the same response. I think it just depends on a person's coping abilities. I've seen some pretty messed up kids, who lost their parents at an early age ... and I've witnessed the same result in numerous adults. My cousin took his own life years ago ... and his mom .... she's never been the same since ... mentally. It's sooo sad to see. ;(
2006-10-26 13:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Carol♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A parents sudden loss of a child would be devastating, a child's sudden loss of a parent at an early age would be life changing for the child. There is no easy choice, there is no easy answer, except to say life is for the living.
2006-10-26 14:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by bprice215 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the worse thing is for a mother to loose their young children, I think a dead child is the worst, because they hardly got to experiance life. Both are sad of course. :(
2006-10-26 13:56:27 · answer #8 · answered by K L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's subjective, of course, even to someone who has experienced both. However, i believe for the mother to lose their child is worse. As life goes on, you find someone more important, or at least equal to, your mother. Namely, your partner and your own children. It also upsets the natural order of things, something most parents find innate; you die before your children, their life is put before yours in all instances. It's the cardinal rule of parenting.
2006-10-26 23:21:45 · answer #9 · answered by Lauren F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A child to lose it's parent would be devastating depending on the child's age..A parent to lose a child would be enormous and sometimes fatal,some parents can't deal with loss where their offspring is involved. I would be inconsolable to say the least. I don't want to even think
2006-10-26 14:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by Mini-Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋