as a FAITHFUL husband, i've been with my husband for 8 years(since hgh school) i've been his first and he was mine. he has been faithful 100%. but i havent. i trust him 110% i know that girls hit on him, he has this thing that you dont see much in guys, he's a real gentlemen...so girls find that atractive. but he has no eyes for other girls, no matter how pretty they are, am not that good looking, am overweight....and i just wonder at times if he wishes or would like to be with, or would like me to have a nice body?when i talk to him about this he always conforts me. i know is stupid of me feeling this way. but i cant help it
2006-10-26 13:30:44 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when i cheated 3 years ago we were in a bad situation....and i was REALLY curiuos about sex with other guys...that guy ended up not good at all*
2006-10-26 13:43:18 · update #1
girl you have tagged a good one, keep him. Stop cheating on him. Ive been divorced and ive been through a bad marriage, i know what its like to come across a good man, one whos faithful, loving and your best friend. (ive scored my man with those qualities) I did cheat on my ex husband, it was a horrible marriage. Dont take for granted a good man, you dont know what you have til you lose it. and as for the self esteem thing, if he likes you the way you are, take it at that, he loves you for you. Dont lose that, its hard to come by.
2006-10-26 13:35:18 · answer #1 · answered by magickitty0621 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like your hubby has more faith in you, than you have in YOURSELF, maybe instead of asking him what he'd like to see you change about yourself, take a good long look at YOU and what changes you could make that would make you feel better about you, start with the inside, if your unhappy or insecure nothing you do with the outside is going to fix what is happening on the inside, once you can find what is keeping you from finding happiness, become strong and look for the good things around you in your life then maybe you'll see the beauty in you that your husband see's, then 'work on the outside' start with something simple like a new hairstyle, something to lift your spirits and keep you looking forward and not dwelling in the past! Good luck, I hope things get better for you!
2006-10-26 20:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by JazzyLynn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, if he really wanted to he would. but you know that he doesn't. you have a love that most of us wish we had.
don't be so down on yourself. beauty is not in the face or slim body. its your heart and your soul. its what you give not take.
if you feel uncomfortable about how you look, then start walking. join a health club, try to eat better. i know it is hard. but make efforts. walk with him in the evenings after dinner. i am sure he would love to do that with you. it is relaxing, and you spend quality time together.
exercising helps reduce tension and stress. look for an exercise bike to work on at home. get some dumb bells and a few Richard Simmons tapes/DVDs. not kidding. i have those. he is a weirdo, but he has some great stuff.
keep your thoughts happy, be happy. be strong and confident. you are a wonderful woman. God loves you. don't give up, don't think silly things.
keep the faith.
2006-10-26 20:44:24 · answer #3 · answered by dragonsclaw27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should feel lucky to have a man that cares for you. It is an old cliche but beauty is in the eye of the beholder, You husband knows you for you and it may not just be your beaty that hold his attention to you. Every women is insecure, especially when they don't feel attractive. Spice up you sex life and fufill fantasies for him. Everyday get up and look in the mirror and find one good thing about yourself then you will see yourself in a total different way. That is what I had to do.
2006-10-26 20:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by Melisa H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...you're asking if there can be such a thing as a faithful husband and YOU are the one who cheated? Yes, I think there can be such a thing as a faithful husband AND a faithful wife. I don't care how curious you are, or were, about sex, it's never right to cheat, and if you haven't already, you need to come clean about it with him.
2006-10-26 22:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by missapparition 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a good man and it sounds as if he is self confident and mature and grown up. If I were you, you should appreciate him more and get some help for yourself before your marriage gets in trouble. Sounds like you have a self esteem problem. Get help for yourself to start changing your behavior. If you are cheating, you either don't love your husband or you have a self esteem problem and it's not fair to him that you cheat. Whatever your problem is find some help ( professional ).
2006-10-26 20:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by Sheri 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm overweight 31 weeks pregnant mom of two i know my husband loves every stretch mark i have.."well maybe not" the point is i have no fear that he wants more of me or less of me a taller me shorter me he did not marry my body but, my soul. My hubby is overweight but, very sexy Italian man I would still love him the same if tommorw he had a accident and was disfigured totally. He nor i have ever cheated. If you cheating youi have more issues other then wondering if your man wished you looked diffrent.
2006-10-26 20:36:07 · answer #7 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Peachy i should slap you for even questioning this your man is good to you stop cheating and gain some love and self esteem for yourself and love and be with this man totally before one of those cute attractive girls grabs his attention
and if you dont want to be with him leave him before you turn him into one of these sorry lying bastards we deal with after they have been faithful and get scorned by lying cheating women
and i say this and i am not innocent just know what happens
2006-10-26 20:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it shows that your husband has a great self-esteem, enough that he doesn't need the attention of other women to give him an ego boost. That's a RARE trait. You might be lacking self-esteem though, and that might be why you aren't/weren't faithful, maybe looking for that ego boost. I'd say to work on yourself - for you - before you do something real stupid to lose your guy.
2006-10-26 20:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Thank God for this wonderful, faithful man, but I'm a bit confused. Why did you find it necessary to betray him? Is it because you really don't believe you deserve him? Honey, count your blessings and keep your pants on. Your husband should have a wife who honors and respects him - and your marriage.
2006-10-26 20:40:59 · answer #10 · answered by Bethany 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋