Im 18 and Im a virgin,I get so many mixed comments about this..I do want to wait untill marriage to have sex,But what do you think,should I wait untill marriage or just wait untill I really love someone?
2006-10-26 13:27:59 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Do what you want to do but remember. If your only expeience with something in this case intercourse is with one person than you may at some point becaome curious about what else is out there. At least you could try other things like oral sex and other forms of foreplay so that you know if you're going to be happy with the person you choose to marry. I am married 4.5 years and have been with my wife for 9 years. We have been having sex since a few months after we met. And we didn't get married for the sex but, sex is a big part of a relationship. It isn't strictly for the purpose of only doing it to get pregnant and then never again.
Some people who are religeous beleive it is, but prayer and beleiving in god isn't going to stop you from getting horny when you see your partner naked or an attractive person on the street.
Follow your own path, not mine or anyone else.
For all these people who say wait I wished I had. They say it because they had a bad experience.
I know lots of people who waited and the mariage didn't last or they all cheat on each other because they learn how good sex is and want more and new ways of doing it that their partner won't do. Don't wait until marriage to find out he can't get it up or refuses to do anything you want or only wants to have anal sex or tie you up and whip you.
Wait until you find someone you think is the right person or the one you want to marry after 6 months a year or even longer but before you decide to get married go for it that way if you don't like it or he has a tiny penis or is no good at it or a S&M lover you'll be able to get out of it before it's too late.
2006-10-27 11:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by Judoka 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My personal opinion is wait until you are in love, and have found a man you could marry. Never sleep with a man who you would not consider for more.Follow your heart and know what you want. If it would make you feel cheap to have sex before marriage don't. Just do what makes you feel comfortable.
Ps. Get on birth control and use condoms before any sexual encounter.
2006-10-28 07:23:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough question. I am 29 and I did not wait but my husband, 27 did. He is a very good looking man and could have plenty of times but he thought he should save it until he was with the woman he knew he was going to marry and I was lucky enough to be that woman. It is a very special thing when you wait but if you are truly in love then I see nothing wrong with it. Just be safe, use a condom and get on the pill if you decide to be sexually active. Good luck.
2006-10-26 13:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by ShanaJ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm a 23 man. Let me just say PLEASE wait til you get married.
I got married at 22 and I was a virgin also, but my wife wasn't and it was a little difficult at first because I felt that I had saved my whole life and now it was for nothing because she couldn't give me the same thing.
Please listen to me! I believe that it would have been more meaningful on our honeymoon.
Since then we have discussed this quite a bit and I have since accepted this and try not to bring it up anymore.
2006-10-27 22:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should wait, because often in the moment, you think you love somebody, but they aren't the right person for you, etc... So you should set requirements (i.e. have to be dating at least 12 months), or wait until marriage. If they really love you they should be willing to wait. Plus, its better to not have to worry about STDs or pregnancy
2006-10-26 13:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is just my opinion, but if you haven't found the man your going to marry I just would not wait. I'm not saying whore around, save it for some one who has mutual feelings(cause you'll never forget your first). Do you really want to wait till you've swore your life to him to find out if hes good or bad in bed? Besides the first couple of times hurts get it out of the way so you can enjoy sex with the man you want to marry. Sex is in important part of marriage and you want to be satisfied.
2006-10-26 13:35:20 · answer #6 · answered by winterz 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think waiting till marriage is an anachoronistic. You might be sexually compatible with your mate. All that flowery stuff about if you love someone then you will always enjoy having sex with them is a bunch of crap. You should have sex with as many people as possible to get a taste of what's out there.
2006-10-26 19:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by Wizard O 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
With so many women waiting until later to get married because they want to focus on their careers, it is not logical for them to abstain from sex until marriage. As long as you truly love the person and you both are monogamous there is nothing wrong with not waiting until marriage.
2006-10-26 13:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say you should wait untill marriage it will make it more worth it . I wish i was a virgin but i cant get that back so i've gone abstinent instead.
2006-10-26 13:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's simple, baby. It would be best if you wait 'til you are married.
Just make sure that you really know the guy before you marry, and don't get married after 3 months of dating. Humans are very complex, and they can change. It can take years before you truly get to know somebody.
Take no chances, and give your life the very best chance because you deserve it.
2006-10-26 13:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by Dumbo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋