Well i live alone, and im close to my family, so dating is hard to do. ween i was a kid i new i was gay, and i new that i was sapossebe to like girls,and I did, but I liked boys way more, time to make a move. im very good looking, slim blond blue eyes, and lead singer in a band. alot of people will say oh i thought you were gay not saying it to be mean, thats just what they thought, and their ok with me being gay, why can't i. problum being im tyred of being alone, & I want a boy friend. hidding bites, & when I find someome that clicks I push him away, it makes me look like a user. I have made a guy go away after he came back & i really liked him & him me I messed up dide'nt I because of what other people mite think. Any feedback, onyone?
2006-10-26 13:12:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
quite being a coward and go tell them the truth...they probably suspect your gay anyway....be a man....or at least a responsible person.
good luck
2006-10-26 13:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by CuriousB 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd advise you to start going to church if you don't already. It seems like you understand that men are supposed to love women. You're probably a teenager, right? Teens are usually confused about what they want because they're constantly going through changes. Don't worry. When it's the right girl, you'll know it. And she will show up. God has something better for your life. Don't ever fall under the temptations of satan. Remember, God loves you and he always has. And don't ever let people tell you that you're gay, you were born that way, and you'll never change and just accept who you are. That's not true. You become what you choose to be. You are 100% responsible for your actions so choose wisely. Homosexuality is a sin. Don't go into a life of sin. Because after you do, it'll be harder for you to leave the bad habits and that longing to sin. I hope this helps. Good luck and God bless you.
You may want to look these up in the Bible:
Romans 1: 24-28, 1 Corinthians 6:9, Leviticus 20:13
2006-10-26 13:35:42 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just do what makes you happy, people talk about you if your gay or straight, so what the hell, don't worry about it. It's just when gay people start kissing and hugging in public that people get nasty because it is not supposed to be that way, it's supposed to be Adam and Eve and not Adam and Steve. Leave that mushsy stuff at home, because I don't care, maybe some people will accept how you are but cannot accept seeing any kind of affection that you give each other in public, it will never be accepted either. Try to go get your guy back and explain the situation to him, just like you did here and hopefully he will understand. Good Luck..............
2006-10-26 13:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by lisa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may just find that your parents are much more understanding then you give them credit for & have been waiting to you to say something to them
this is NOT quite the same situation- but when my then 25y/o son told me he had been cross dressing since his teens & that he had struggled with that aspect of his personality i just asked why he hadn't said anything as I may have been able to get help for him to deal with things - NOT change . my concern was for the personal struggles he had dealt with.
his reply was taht he knew he could have told me - but had chosen not to. I didn't ask his reasons for that decision.
I think I would be just as accepting if 1 of my 4 were to tell me that he/she was gay - after all they are still my kids & I love them
go with what your heart tells you- those who really care for you will support you regardless of your sexuallity- anyone else is NOT worth worrying about
you were born this way - it is NOT a decision that you ahd any control over; admittedly there are some people who turn to their own sex due to childhood experiences but they are only a very small percentage of the gay community. you had as much choice in this as you had in your hair/eye colour.
I have had some gay friends who have told me they knew from a very early age
TAKE CARE ; PUT a SMILE on YOUR FACE ; look the world in the eye & be proud of who you are
2006-10-26 20:28:34 · answer #4 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience - tell them. When I told mine they weren't happy and I don't think they will ever be even though they have adjusted somewhat. On a personal basis, and I think that is what matters the most - being true to yourself, I feel heaps better. I feel free and able to be myself and know that I am not lying to myself or anyone else about who I am. Yes it was hard to take it from the family but it has made me who I am today.
2006-10-26 13:35:46 · answer #5 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe if your family loves you and ya'll are very close then they should respect your decision and not judge you for what you are. I had a best friends that was gay and I loved him with all my heart. I believe that you should but your happiest first so don't be afraid and tell your family.
2006-10-26 13:18:57 · answer #6 · answered by finestlatinaallaround 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you should do is get to know who you really are. Once you establish this then everything else will come together. Your family should love you unconditional regardless of what decisions you may make, so talk to them, don't go through this alone.
2006-10-26 13:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's an old joke where everywhere this guy goes, people tell him he looks terrible. Since you look so bad, you must feel really bad. No, he says, in fact i feel great, never better. So many people tell this guy that he looks just terrible that he decides to go to the doctor. He says "Doc, What's going on? I look terrible, but I feel great, what's the deal?" "easy," the doc says, "you're a vagina!" Bottom line: You're not the first to think it looks funky,
2016-03-19 00:23:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your pain- check out exodus international- I learned that most that turned to the gay life style were molested, abused, neglected and the like- it has helped many- they have a great newsletter- D
2006-10-26 13:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not being honest with yourself if you can not talk to your family. they are the most important people in your life that you will ever have so you need to be truthful with them in order for you to have any kind of relationship with anyone. the more confidence you have with yourself the more attractive you will be to others no matter who they are. you need to be you! and others will see that and respect you more. take a deep breath and relax and just take each day as it comes.
2006-10-26 13:23:43 · answer #10 · answered by jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋