Did I choose the right ?

Question

My bud and I have a true "brokeback moutain" relationship. Its very special and we have a strong bond. We both have two different backgrounds. I'm like Jack and he Ennis emotionally. He's an asipring artist, and I am into business. Were in our 20's and he chose to move to Europe. He asked me if I want to go, I said sure I want to be close to him, but things changed when I got accepted for a masters program at a business school in the US. I decided to stay and finish up. Now I feel like 2 years of school seems to be a long time, I hurt everynight thinking about losing him. It was a choice of my future or the "rare, weird" feelings we both have for each other. So my question to you is, did I pick the right path here? Was I right to choose my future over my heart?

Answer 1

If it is meant to be, it will be. I know it sounds cliche, but I believe it to be true. My husband and I went down separate paths without each other but were still able to reunite years later. When you share that "rare,weird" connection, distance and time doesn't change it. Besides, had you given up on your dreams it could have led to resentment towards the man you love. and neither of you deserve to have that hanging over something so beautiful.

Answer 2

I would advise you to follow your heart.

And it's not too late to fix, is it?

Why heart, you might ask? Because close friends are a rare and wonderful gift. There are all kinds of employment options, and school will open some of those for you and close others. You're young, there's plenty of time to get into a "harness". One day you may find another ... but will he be so rare?

Life is full of choices. Noone can give you the answers that are right for you; noone knows you as well as you do. In my experience, when there was a collision between my head and my heart, the better choices happened when I listened to my feelings. Lots of people think differently, but look at whether the life they're living is the one you really want.

It doesn't have to be either/or. Maybe you can transfer your credits to a European school. Or you could decide to put your schooling on hold to try Europe and see what happens. You're only young once: later on such opportunities are much rarer and hard to find time for. If it turns out a mistake, you'll know, you'll have that European experience under your belt, and you'll know from experience.

You can let fate decide for you ... let the ship steer itself, walk across the street without looking. Or you can find the courage to make the decision yourself. Whatever you decide, best luck!

Answer 3

I think you would've made a mistake if you had followed him to Europe. After all, your not going to Europe didn't stop him from going, so he's made clear what his priorities are. Doesn't mean you don't love each other. And if you're both committed to it, you may find a way to be together anyway. Lots of foreign businesses will hire American MBA's, so you can still go to Europe when you graduate, but without feeling like you've compromised your future to be with him when he wouldn't do the same.

My partner and I met when I was working in the UK and were together for about 2 years when I decided to come back to the US. I loved him, but I had family obligations (an aging parent with significant health issues and major guilt for being away), so I came back. We did the long distance thing for a few months and then he found a job here and was able to get his green card pretty quickly. We've been together for 12 years now and have two adorable kids. You never know how things will work out.

Answer 4

I believe you chose the right path. If you're meant to be together, then you'll end up together. Even if this means years of being far apart. You're right to have chosen education for the time being. Because without education, you wouldn't have a secure future for yourself to begin with. It's true that there might be good business schools in Europe. But the opportunity to study has presented itself to you in America. You're right to not have let it pass you by. Anyway, two years is just a short span of time. This time off can also help you guys realize if you really want to be with each other for the rest of your life. Consider this a challenge, not an obstacle. I know you might think it's easy for me to say this because I'm not in your place. And this is true, because my partner and I live together, and we're not far apart. But I know a lot of couples who have survived being apart for years and years, and they're still together. So, if you guys are meant for each other, then I don't see why you won't be able to surpass this at all. Best of luck to you both! \m/

Answer 5

Up till final wintry weather i might select wintry weather each time. Something approximately the list quantity of snow that i needed to shovel, push, plow or snow-blow clear of structures, roofs, sidewalks and driveways introduced a down facet to wintry weather. I will pass with wintry weather after a pause for notion as my favourite game (Ice Hockey) can not relatively be performed with out wintry weather, correct?

Answer 6

i think there are some business schools in Europe, but anyway...2 years is not a long time, is it possible to be long distance couple until you finish with school and can move to Europe?

Answer 7

Yes, of course you chose correctly. If this is true love you and your companion will be fine. Your education should come first, and this will make you a better and more well rounded human being and better able to care for yourself. Good luck and God bless

Answer 8

Are there any equivalent masters programs in Europe? I hate to advocate career over love, but maybe you can compromise. Good luck!

Answer 9

If you are meant to be together, you will be. This situation came up to draw you a different way. Follow that path, there's a reason.

Answer 10

well --if only we could ever know if we chose the right path or not....you can't possibly know that....I think I would have chosen what you did...after all he appears to have left you and gone without you...Do you still have contact with him??