My mood has been crazy lately. One day I'm happy go lucky and the next I hate everyone and everything. I feel fine otherwise and I am having a fine pregnancy (I wont be when the baby starts getting bigger :-\) But the past few days have been horrible! I have been enraged and depressed at the same time! It litterally scared me so much because it wasn't me. If you have read my other questions, I have been REALLY off kilter. I'm reading them all now and saying to myself "....geez, am I serious? Did I actually WRITE these???" My boyfriend keeps trying to rub my back and massage my feet, but I don't even want him TOUCHING me. I'm a little better today, but I've seriously had enough of that, obviously, look at what that "contact" did. Anyway.... does anyone have any mental or verbal advice that I can take in to help me get through this? Something I can read over and over against when I have an outburst. A beautiful poem or something. Something I can think of just to clear my mind, peaceful..
2006-10-26 12:50:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Okay, so I KNOW I wrote this! I'm obviously moodswinging like crazy, I'm not bipolar and need HELP? Like I said, I never was and never will be insane or psycho, I'm just having a rough pregnancy...
2006-10-26 13:06:25 · update #1
First I have read your other questions. It sounds like you have had a lot on your mind. Lots of moms have a lot of thinking to do during pregnancy. When you are pregnant, there a millions of things changing in your body every second. Here are some things that I did to feel better and relax.
1. I started a journal. I would jot down my thoughts angry, scared, mellow, overwhelmed etc. Sometimes just getting out the thoughts helps. Suggestion- don't think when you write, just write. It might not make any sense when you reread it...but that doesn't matter. Just get your thoughts out.
2. Take care of yourself. Sleep when you are tired, don't try and keep your old schedule. Eat healthy foods. Walk and move around.
3. Sometimes a shower or bath is more than just hygiene. Get some bath stuff just for you. Something that makes you skin soft, makes you feel great, and get in the tub.
4. Take time out for yourself now. Sometimes you just need some time alone (take it while you still can) read a book, the paper, watch a movie etc.
5. My body didn't like to be touched the same when I was pregnant as it did when I wasn't. You have to refind your body (sometimes several times in pregnancy) Maybe you used to love back rubs now they hurt. Tell your boyfriend that you body is changing and now you would really love your hands rubbed softy. Guys are not mind readers. You need to tell them exactly what you need.
6. You will feel like you are losing your mind. It's ok. Think of something that makes you feel calm. When I would feel like I was losing it, I would go rocking in the rocking chair I bought for my baby. It made me feel better right away
I noticed in your past questions you were worried about the way the baby is growing. You need to talk to your doctor (or another doctor if you want another opinion) let him/her know how worried you are. That might be adding to your mood swings. Stress is a big part of pregnancy, but it should control your pregnancy.
I hope things start looking better for you. I have had two hard pregnancies. I know how stressful and tough it can be. I wish you all the luck in the world. Good Luck sweetie.
2006-10-26 13:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by aerofrce1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I'd find the man another job! :-P But seriously, try baking some cookies, or if talking about the baby seems to lift his spirits, bring out some of the things you're gathering for the baby (especially ones he's not seen before) and help him daydream about when the baby arrives. Buy or pick some flowers-- women can give guys flowers too! And even if he can't take a whole day off, maybe pack a bag and get away to a hotel for a night. Sometimes a change of scenery will do wonders. Makes you feel like you've really gotten away from it all even if you've only gone a mile down the road. A nice bed and breakfast is even better, and midweek rates are pretty low in most areas--- you can enjoy the evening together escaping from reality and he can still make it to work on time the next day.
2016-03-28 08:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One very sad word, HORMONES! I was like this too. It's just that all the chemicals in your body are higher when you are pregnant. I got very irritable and mad, upset, and then perfectly happy the next moment. Chocolate and beef jerky was my cure for this. My hubby just left me alone, and took care of the other kids. I went in my room, turned on a romantic movie and ate chocolate and beef jerky. I think the chocolate calmed me and the beef jerky let me take out my anger. Something peaceful is to go into your own room, alone. And just think of your life. Listen to yourself breathe. Maybe even cry or scream into a pillow. Say this phrase over and over: Love is a cloud, float your worries away. Life is a bridge, cross to your hearts content. Grace is upon you, relax and be free. strength is the cure, love life and have justice. I hope you can feel better, just don't take it out on yourself!!!!! Good luck. Remember, chocolate and beef jerky!!!
2006-10-26 13:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by baby oh's 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you need to talk to someone otherwise you will go crazy. Pregnancy is hard and then the post partum can be even harder. There is nothing wrong about getting help. My daughter went through the same thing and she couldn't figure out the reasons for what she felt. Things worked out OK for her but it took some time. I wish you the best.
2006-10-26 13:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hormones. Try to relax. Take a hot shower, or a nap, or listen to music. Good luck.
2006-10-26 12:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is normal behavior, *according to my mom* she said that one day she was calm, then the next, she went all out. She suggests going to go get your nails done. French Tips anyone?
2006-10-26 12:54:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scaring yourself?...You are scaring ME. Please get some help. I am fearful for the safety of your child. Get to a church or a zen centre or something! i think you are on drugs and if you're not then you have a lot of problems that you cant handle. please dont bring a baby into this.
2006-10-26 13:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by asiwant 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋