Mine have been fighting a lot and I'm worried that they'll get a divorce. Some of the fights have been pretty serious and it makes me really upset when I think about it. Any ideas on how to get over it or deal with it? Because I'm sick of thinking about it.
2006-10-26 12:40:24 · 5 answers · asked by Erin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm fourteen. And the idea of talking to them is probably a good idea, but I don't think I can. Or tell them I wanna take counseling. I don't think I could, not that its not available or that they wouldn't pay for it I just wouldn't and couldn't.
2006-10-28 16:38:43 · update #1
Don't worry too much about since it really don't have to do with you, it's about them.
Maybe if you told them that the fights are causing you emotional problems and that they should reason them outside your viewing and hearing distance.
Just remember your parents love you and they wouldn't want to intentionally cause you pain.
2006-10-26 13:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by Stoic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how old you are but you might be able to sit down with them and calmly discuss how important they both are to you, that you love them both and want to grow up in a two parent home. Let them know how their fighting makes you feel. If they get angry with you or with each other tell them to look up the statistics involved with what children of divorce go through. Also, strongly encourage them to seek marriage counseling. Ask to see a counselor yourself - no matter which way this turns out. Your school should have counseling available if your parents can't afford it (it's usually covered by insurance but I don't know your situation). If you have someone you are close with to turn to, a grandparent, aunt, etc. - talking helps.
Unfortunately, parents are often too involved in their own problems with each other to see how their children are being affected. Kids are more perceptive than parents give them credit for.
Good luck and just remember - what your parents are going through is not because of you.
2006-10-26 19:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by greyrider 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mine did. You have to remember that this is about them and not you. BUT, let them in know that you will NOT be brought into the middle of it and for them to NOT talk trash about the other to you. Good luck, it's tough. And do NOT choose sides either, you will regret it.
2006-10-26 19:42:43 · answer #3 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would think that they would be happier apart. the fighting would end , hopefully... but i would consider that they were doing what was best for them.
2006-10-26 19:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let them do what is best for them.
2006-10-26 19:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by Sue Chef 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋