My DH had an affair with a coworker while we were separated. He says he tried to end the relationship when he came back to me. But she kept calling and wanting to be friends.
We compare notes and she told me things I hadn’t known – like that they had been living together for a few months.
I filed for divorce the next day & she seemed thrilled. He again tried to end it & told her he was leaving his job in Jan. if he got divorce papers from me.
My husband and I had never stopped working on the marriage So I decided to give our marriage a chance.
She wanted back all of the items like underwear, belts, shoes, clothing & deposit for the house they rented. She did not pay rent 6 months.
10 months after the affair, she is now threatening his employment with harassment.
She continues to send him cutsie emails and pops in to tell him that she wants him gone in Jan. and he should leave she doesn’t want it to get ugly for him.
Does she have a case for harassment?
2006-10-26 12:39:56 · 13 answers · asked by pinniethewooh 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for your responses so far.
Only after a great deal of deliberation have I decided not to divorce him. That's not what I'm asking about. I've already decided to stay.
He knows how stupid his choice was and it almost cost him his marriage. He has to earn my trust back and and he knows he may never do that.
2006-10-26 12:52:44 · update #1
Okay, I get it that you don't want to leave your Husband but you should.
As for her harrassment case, if he has proof that they lived together and you have proof that the 2 of you have talked openly about the relationship, then there isn't much of a case from my standpoint. However, there is always more than 1 side to the story.
I think that you guys should talk to a lawyer and get some specific advice according to the law as to what the next steps are in this situation.
As for the emails that she is sending, I would save every last email, note, voicemail, communication, etc. to build as a case against her if she does try to file a harrassment suit. The more evidence that you have that she has a phony case, the better for you in the long run.
BUT, get a divorce, you deserve better than this.
-EZ
2006-10-26 13:14:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If "she" is the Company Owner, Supervisor or Superior to his position you may already have enough to file (it's hard to tell without all the other details-and hard to win giving the circumstances). If they are co-workers, then he needs to make copies of some of these notes (first), then he needs to report this behavior to his Supervisor - document that as well. That is, if he "HAS" to remain there because of some life threatening reason?????
Either way, he's already screwed up - big time. And continueing this assorted crap and your having to deal with this person is completely unforgivable on his part. If he meant that he wanted to correct things with you, this would not be an issue. You're just a good person being crapped on, this situation will continue as long as you let him get away with it. Remember, just because you decided to forgive him does not mean that he's actually changed (now or in the future). I hate to say it and I'm not trying to be mean, but the chances are extremely rare that this relationship will work out over the long haul. Let me ask, is he trying as hard as you are to get her out of his daily life? Try to get some support from someone that you can rely on. If you don't have anyone, make some "good" friends so that someone will be there for you down the road.
2006-10-26 13:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see who she can sue for harassment here. In fact from what Ive read here and if Ive got it straight, then your husband actually can charge her with stalking and sue her for harassment for the pictures. If shes not his superior then he should notify with whatever proof he has about her,even more so if she is his superior. If he does then it will get really ugly for her. I just dont understand the part of threatening his employment. But I would definitely say he has a case against her here
2006-10-26 12:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is still working both sides of the fence. If he were explicit about not wanting to be with her she wouldn't still be pursuing. Save all the cutisie emails for future evidence. How about your hubby getting a restraining order put on her.
Cease all contact with the woman. Don't entertain any info she wants to give you. She has her own agenda.
Give her back the stupid underwear etc...
Remove any excuse she would use for contact.
If possible you and your spouse should relocate.
2006-10-26 15:18:32 · answer #4 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 05:53:45 · answer #5 · answered by purinton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth it sounds like SHE is doing the harassing. I would let it go to court and nail her. However, if you are like most people and are allergic to court, it may be a good idea to move and not leave a forwarding address. If she hunts you down and finds you, that's not just harassment, it's stalking. One last question....Is he really worth it?
2006-10-26 12:48:09 · answer #6 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's crazy. That's why people shouldn't have affairs. You never know what may happen.
2006-10-26 12:44:12 · answer #7 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she doesn't but it sounds like u do. Why don't YOU file for harassment charges on her.
2006-10-26 12:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems that your husbands has more of a case than she... make sure he keeps detailed notes of conversations and copies of his emails from her.... in case it does end to be nasty.... that way he will have what was said when it was said, etc... good luck
2006-10-26 12:52:05 · answer #9 · answered by oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem hard on her, but not hard enough on him. It took two to get this whole thing going. I'd leave him until he gets this taken care of.
2006-10-26 12:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋