I realize that I'm only 23 and I'm young. I graduated from college in May and stayed in the town in which I graduated from in the summer. I fell in love with my personal trainer and he's the guy of my dreams. I had to move back to the city, and start my new job, trying to raise myself financially to build myself more independently. I basically fell in love with this guy from work and it's an amazing connection. He'd do anything for me, I don't have to ask. I keep questioning myself between the 2 relationships, which "makes more sense" vs. which "future would be the easiest to have with"? i know I don't need to make a decision, 2 GREAT guys, one dumbfounded girl. :( All I kept thinking about with the first guy was OMG He's the one! and now I'm having these feelings for this new guy. OBVIOUSLY it's a sign that I'm not ready to get married, but being that I'm a girl, I want my dream, I want the career, kids, husband, trips, etc. I don't know how to STOP thinking about the future so much!
2006-10-26 12:38:43 · 7 answers · asked by Lindsay W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Stop thinking so much of the future, you are dreaming your life away before you even have a chance to live it.You will fall in and out of love many more times and each one will be better then the next. I know you don't believe me, I didn't believe it when I was told the same thing I'm telling you now. I wish the hell I would of maybe things would be better for me now. Your only 23 go out and have some fun stop thinking of marriage be foot loose and fanny free while you still can you have many more years before it's time to grow up.
2006-10-26 13:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What type of future are you going to have with the man you don't love? Yes, you will have the career, children, a husband by your side and family vacations. Where is the fun in that if you are unsure whether you love the man you married?
What kind of family will you be bringing your children into?
You are too confused at the moment, the avergage age for a woman to marry today is 27 to 30 years old.
Don't rush into things, especially a marriage and children.
Marriage is for good, as well as children.
You have to make sure it's right & it feel right before you start planning a family.
None of it matters between "What makes sense" and "Future would be the easiest to have with".
"What makes sense" - will have no meaning to the word "relationship", your only with him because it makes sense! Do you love him?
"Future would be the easiest to have with" - Is selfish, are you using him because you think it will be an easy future? Will it be easy in the future if you don't love him & it causes arguments?
You are too confused, you can't have feelings for two people and say you love them both.
Drop them both and go over and think over absolutely everything.
Remember, they arn't the only two guys in the world.
2006-10-26 12:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoaaaa!!!!!!!!!! So much to say to this one lol. You just got out of college, just started working, and you say you've fallen in love with 2 guys in a VERY short period of time....so I'm gonna stick myself out on a limb here and say that its not either guy that you're actually in love with.... it's simply what you said in your question... you want your dream... you're too impatient to let it happen in its own time, and too immature to realize that your fairytale idea of marriage, family, career, ect... is just that... a fairytale. Marriage and children have a way of interrupting a career,... especially at your age when you're just starting out.
To ask yourself which of those guys your future would be easiest with... thats just not right... its not love,... and it shows that no matter which you choose, if either,... you'll always wonder if it was a mistake. And even if you don't think you deserve better, BOTH of those guys deserve better than to be with someone who's only marrying them to obtain a dream... not necessarily to obtain them.
You're looking too hard to find something that will find you all on its own when the time is right. Don't be in such a hurry.
2006-10-26 13:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God no, there is not any longer something incorrect with you-and do by no ability think of that. you're youthful and a graduate and function a super form of time previous to you! in case you will possibly choose for to start a dating with somebody, initiate chatting with greater human beings everywhere you're! ultimately, a guy with chat you up and you will initiate that dating :) do no longer hassle approximately different young women being in relationships, they do no longer seem to be YOU. :)
2016-11-25 22:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop doing that because it doesn't matter how much you try to make it a certin way,,,,, it WILL turn out in another. the future has a mind of it's own. Be with the guy that you adore and adores you. respect and love and great talk is important.
2006-10-26 12:45:11 · answer #5 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave it like this, as long as you think 1 of them is perfect you are to be happy cuz you know what you want and it is hard to get. Do it like this, compare those to and say which 1 looks like a father and a great husband, are they willing to have kids, and which 1 is nicer you do not want to have a mean out of touch husband or boyfriend.
2006-10-26 12:52:48 · answer #6 · answered by sexyme 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you are in love with either one of them, you would know which one if you were. You are just in a big hurry to find a man to settle down with and life a fantasy life with. Take more time to sort out your feelings for men and find out all about their interests and whether they are interested in your interests. When the right one comes you will know it!!!!!!!!
2006-10-26 12:49:08 · answer #7 · answered by roncarolhillsstupid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋