My husband has cheated in the past. We have worked it out and been through counseling. He's been going out every Friday night - he PROMISES he's not doing anything wrong. My question is..... do I set him up by having a girl he doesn't know go where he's at and try talking to him, make passes at him, etc. I know I will run the risk of him cheating - but at least I would know if he really was committed to being with me only. If he cheats again he knows I am out of here, with the kids. He says he hasn't cheated in 4 years. Do I set him up? What are some of the things I should have the girl say or do to really put him to the test? And where in Gods name do I find someone willing to do something like this? Is there a business that does this kind of thing? I just don't want to waste anymore time with him, if he's not really going to stay faithful!
2006-10-26 12:21:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yep ! that will tell all. try an escort service. they may be able to accommodate you.
2006-10-26 12:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by pickledaddy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the relationship is over and has been for some time. If he cared for you like he should, he would not be going out every Friday night without you in the first place. Go on with your life and find someone who appreciates you, cares about you, and spends his time trying to make you happy! You deserve more than that and you should think more of yourself than to take that from your husband. I hope this helps. Good luck to you in the future.
2006-10-26 12:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by Libragal 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not set him up going to make you look like the bad guy in all of this if the you know what hits the fan. Best to try to catch him in a lie or maybe even follow him to see where he goes. On the other had it sounds like you don't trust him and you will never be able to how about just calling it quits my be the right thing to do.
2006-10-26 12:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by goingfasterbmw 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This sounds like someone never got over the first time he cheated. Have you ever thought about what will happen if hes innocent and finds out what youre doing? If you dont trust him enough that you have to resort to something stupid like this then maybe you should have moved on years ago, so either trust him fully or move on. Dont play these little kid games as nothing good will ever come out of this and youll regret it. Good luck
2006-10-26 12:34:58 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You cant live like this...............you will go crazy!
Id definatly do what some of the others have suggested and hire a private investigater............
What kind of married man goes out every Friday night?
So in answer to your question YES set him up!
2006-10-26 12:51:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
can't believe in someone who has already cheated once...but you gave him the 2nd chance. why are you left @ home when he is out every friday? i would have someone go an tell me what he is doing on his nights out....but not someone to come on to him. that may get you into trouble. just have him watched for a week or two.
2006-10-26 12:38:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here's a better solution for the both of you. Have sex with him every Friday before he goes out. ;-)
2006-10-26 12:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by edward_the_l0ngshanks 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you have disretionary money that your hubbie doesn't know about, hire a private detective. they can set everything up and see how it plays out, so to speak.
2006-10-26 12:28:53 · answer #8 · answered by Robert A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are private investigators that specialize in that kind of thing.
2006-10-26 12:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you go looking for trouble your going to find it. If he said he's not doing anything go with that you have to trust him good luck
2006-10-26 15:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by mom of 2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all without trust what do you have, examine your relationship and be honest with your self
2006-10-26 12:26:56 · answer #11 · answered by jeanna64 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋