I know him technically but I've refused to talk to him so far. He left my mother when I was a child for a member of our family. Since I've been 5 or so, whenever I see him or any of them, I pretend I dont. I escape confronting him. When he tries to talk to me, I act a certain way as if to show him I want nothing to do with him. I need to know if this behavior of mine is the right way to go about it. I really feel as though I don't need him in my life but I've been told I'd be better off if I at least spoke to him. What should I do?
2006-10-26 12:18:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I remember this question a few weeks ago.
Of course you know you need to get in touch with him if you have been mulling over the possibility for a while.
Do what feels right for you.
2006-10-26 12:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why waste your time on someone who walked out on you a long time ago. I don't see a point. You were not wanted then. Why should you want him now? I'm cold hearted when it comes to walk out fathers. My daughters father walked out on us.
I barely talk to my father. He's also in FL and I'm in IA. But my parents agreed that it was best for a divorce, and my mom and dad stayed the best of friends. And it took my dad 10 years or so before he remarried.
2006-10-26 19:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by Brandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him and tell him how you fell and if he really wants to be in your life you should give him a chance but you don't have to ever have to be apart of the family member (that he left you and your mom for)life.
2006-10-26 19:29:42 · answer #3 · answered by L@M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand what you feel... i think you are not ready yet to talk to him....do not force yourself.. part of you wants to confront him and tell him what he did to your mom or probably you would ask why did he leave you....and probably you would tell him that u and ur mom are far off better when his not there... and part of you does not want to talk or see him now it's because what you feel is hatred and at the same time angry and hurt...
what you really feel about him is i think normal for you..let the time heal the wounds and once your ready to speak to him..come and talk to him..when will you be ready? when the time that he is no longer there to hear your inner feelings?
good luck .... i know you can do it..
2006-10-26 19:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by weakest Link! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a hard ? i have a daughter that doesn't get along with her father, he left before she was born.i have never been in that situation. i was lucky that my parents stayed together until his death 10 years ago. i'm guesssing your an adult now? try to be more of one then him. see what happens you don't have to jump in for sunday dinner. try jsut causua; talk and see what happens. as i tell mine, you do have just the one father.
2006-10-26 19:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by mamma bird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know your father and in time he will explain his reasons for leaving. He may turn out to be one of your best friends.
2006-10-26 19:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by jammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him Chance to tell his side of the story. You don't have to believe. but you will feel better knowing that you have both sides . and can put a little closer on this.
2006-10-26 19:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by dgraham302000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say I and Bye
2006-10-26 19:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by birdsdafly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋