So...I finally came out to myself, family, and close friends...I'm not publically gay, but ... I'm getting there. I go to the DSAGA (essentially GLBT club) to meet people but they aren't very social.
I'm particularly lonely right now because I thought I had a boyfriend (yeah he was gay before me...he's the reason why I came out...to be with him). Turns out all he wanted was sex and when I didn't give it to him because I prefered to be in a relationship first (I'm a virgin...never did anything with girls or guys...awaiting my first kiss still) I got dumped.
Now I'd really like to not only make friends but seek out someone to have a relationship with. It's scary because being the your virginal person...there's a lot of creepers out there who really only want sexual relations...
Any advice about what to do now? How to make friends? What events to attend? Anything would be helpful.
2006-10-26 12:11:47 · 7 answers · asked by RaimundoL 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It is the same saying for guys and girls:
"When the right "man" (for you) comes along,
you will know. And everything will fall in place".
So, don't hurry, meet people and make friends,
don't give in, keep your self-respect and others
will respect you too.
The friends that are still around after you told
them, are friends to hold onto.
Congratulations on still being a virgin - it shows
you have integrity. You will find the right person
and than the relationship is going to be that much better.
Good luck for your future!
2006-10-26 12:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hey man, I can actually say I feel where you coming from. I'm 24 you and I'm also a virgin. It seems once guys find out your a virgin their out to get you first I guess to prove to themselve and others they could get you.
I'm not trying to prove anything to anyone that I can keep my virginity and I would've given it up years ago if guys were a little more romantic in their approach. When guys come at me and want to be my first I just stand my ground, because it's your respect you will lose if you just give it up easily.
2006-10-26 12:36:33 · answer #2 · answered by Tigrecub82 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
aww, don't feel lonely! Keep your strong sense of self and never force yourself to do anything until you're ready. The only advice I CAN give is to make regular friends and be satisfied with that now and join gay forums/groups, but you have to be careful because like you said, there are lots of people who aren't who they claim to be. Good luck
2006-10-26 12:16:34 · answer #3 · answered by JZ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Raimundo, that pig who answered first.... don't pay attention to him. Reading your story, it makes me feel good to know there are nice people like you out there. Don't be impatient, you'll find true love and good friends, I'm sure someone will notice your beautiful soul and will be there for you for the rest of your life.
Just don't change your point of view just because you feel alone, never change your strong spirit because that's what will make people fall in love with you. Congratulations because I can see you have a strong personality. I wish I could meet more people like you!
2006-10-26 12:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by latgal73 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just take it slow babe and avoid the users .In time you will be able to spot them at 20 paces.
Every person who has the guts to walk out of that closet has family, friends, neighbors, teachers, employers, and colleagues who have the potential to change their mind on gay issues to a stance in our favor once they actually know/love/respect a gay person themselves. We fear what we do not understand. Put a face on their fear, so their fear no longer makes sense. Have your voice heard, help make us stronger—come out, come out, wherever you are!
Hugs!
2006-10-26 12:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by Bearable 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just be yourself someone will come along when you least excpect and be just who you have been waiting for.The key is when that someone comes be loving and give all you can and want to give,don't take give!
2006-10-26 12:18:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get back in quick before any else can see you
2006-10-26 12:18:23 · answer #7 · answered by treefrog 3 · 0⤊ 6⤋